Recently my wife and I had a baby. before the baby came our relationship was pretty stable, mainly because she had a job, I was at work, and this gave us some independant time and allowed us to experience things throughout our day that we could share with each other when the day was done. She doesn't really have any hobbies, other than watching the office and smoking weed with her friend, as well as going to the gym (which I got her into) and baking once or twice a week.

I on the other hand, used to fill my spare time up with weights, hiking, archery, shooting, political debate, cooking, orienteering, mechanics (replaced about every part on my jeep) offroading, and just recently I started learning to code. (trying to balance myself out with some more intellectual pursuits.) I offer to include my wife in all of the above, and she declines.

But after the baby, she complains that I don't spend enough time with her, or give her enough attention. Her definition of attention is me thinking of something for the both of us to do, (none of the above, because she doesn't have any interest in them) presenting the idea to her, talk her into accepting if she's not 100 interested, planning everything it takes to implement that idea, and then executing while she is just along for the ride.

It's gotten so bad that the workload of helping her with the house and baby, along with being expected to keep her entertained has caused me to stop most of those hobbies and sent me into a sort of depression. She's recently expressed that she's upset that she has to stay home and take care of the baby while I run errands for the baby, grocery shop, go to the gym, or run to the gas station on the corner to get a tin of pouches. That's right; going to the gas station for ten minutes she is upset by.

Never mind that she has gone out with her friend several times in the three weeks since the baby was born, had her father come up to visit for a weekend, and could go out and do whatever she wanted with me watching the little one if she asked. No, she chooses to stay at home and expect me to entertain her. When I told her that I can't be expected to maintain this workload, she said that I "don't understand how taxing breastfeeding at night is."

I want to stay married as I got a lot of enjoyment out of marriage, and I truly do love her, but she's pulling me very thin, and I've kind of shut down as a result. Which she has taken issue with because I'm not being affectionate enough.

How do I get her to stop expecting me to handle her entertainment and prevent her boredom when she won't do anything about it herself?

TL;DR: Wife expects me to be responsible for her entertainment. I can't be a husband and entertainer at the same time, when she refuses to develop her own hobbies or take part in mine. please offer guidance.