I recently moved out to the midwest. not to brag but I'm a 10/10 out here. The town I live in currently is very small and I've already gone through the pool. I've resorted to apps with a big radius as the nearest college town is over 60 miles away. I've managed to get a couple girls to drive over an hour for a first date, either straight to my place for a movie night or to a bar next door then to my place a drink later. but this is rare and most of the time takes effort to ease their mind. I get asked often if my account is fake, even after facetiming I had one girl tell me she assumed I was a catfish until we met. It's better peace of mind for them to meet at a bar, but one hurdle I often get is "I don't want to drink and drive."

I already know that in the back of their mind they're open to fucking on the first date, but how can I give them plausible deniability? I told one she can crash here but that ended up in a flake. any advice appreciated