I got out of 7 year relationship, for no reason other than cutting ties sooner than later. I was causing too much dread for her (not on purpose) and things just weren't working for me anymore. She was a fair woman but the symbiosis was too much for me.

Now I've been hanging out with a girl who was a typical plate type, and that's how it started off. Worth mentioning, I was on TRP for a decade already. But the relationship I had all these years didn't really require its strategies for maintenance, it was all natural and smooth. I lifted, owned a business, had a stable loyal LTR. I can't remember when I last visited anything TRP related online back then.

And here I am, with this new girl who is like a cocaine and heroin to me. The fix I can't replicate with a hard PR anymore. It came to this very subtly, and despite the fact that everything about her indicates it could turn into costly mistake. She wasn't even hiding anything, was rather nonchalant about baggage and the n-count, and how she just goes with the flow. For the first time ever, I just didn't give a shit about that. I don't know why, but I just don't it doesn't bother me. As my LTR came to an end, I took it as a challenge, just enjoying my time with her (everything included of course). Its like the opposite experience of enormous comfort that I've been living in for so long. This is a connection that is undeniable from the day we met, but it was a bumpy road all to this point, and now it feels like NRE, a reciprocated limerence. So I was waiting on her to ask for more. She did.

The problem is, it's like I'm in the dark. I can sense dynamics at play are still in her favor. She has a pool of options, and not just beta orbiters, but probably guys she was involved with, who knows how recently. I'm not used to that. Whenever this was the case, it all ended badly. I'm having at least some options myself, but they just don't measure up.

tl;dr
I'm trying to keep things under control, and staying on watch, but I have my mind set. I want to take on the experience, and start living my life without being scared of failure. I'm not here asking should or shouldn't I. Yes, sidebar for exclusivity, shit tests, handling this. But I'm in need of some more personalized advices.

Let me try to phrase more specific question. Lets say there are many red flags and you ignore them, to enjoy the highs while they last, but risking terrible lows should things go bad. Will red pilled behaviour and unbreakable frame prolong the time I get to enjoy?

More importantly, how should I act when I'm suspecting anything. How can I gauge. Where's the fine line between staying in frame, and slipping into insecurity in this case?