CMV: Marriage is like a GOVT Job - stable, comfortably meets needs, but stifles individual growth excellence.

2020-02-20T19:43:19+00:00

Nah, single people over a certain age still act like children; they subscribe to childish philosophies like nihilism and fool themselves thinking they are happy going home to their video games/cats. Meanwhile, married people know that sometimes you have to put your partners needs before yourself when they are going through stuff, and you are actually forced to face your flaws and grow, since they now affect someone else.

None of the married/engaged people I know use words like adulting to mean doing basic shit.

geyges · 2020-02-20T19:46:56+00:00

individual growth excellence.

what does this nonsense even mean? The only growth marriage stops is the one in my pants.

In fact part of growing up and becoming a mature adult is settling down with another person. There's nothing comfortable about that, and if you take it seriously its incredibly difficult, especially to maintain that relationship throughout the years. Probably no other human enterprise will make you learn and mature more.

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2020-02-20T19:40:19+00:00

Marriage is what you make it.

SofaIssueHandled · 2020-02-20T19:42:47+00:00

It can be, if that's what you want it to be.

It can also be a context within which you acknowledge and grow beyond many of the shitty narcissistic and developmentally stunted aspects of your character and personality.

I suppose it depends on how you define and invest in individual growth.

Title	CMV: Marriage is like a GOVT Job - stable, comfortably meets needs, but stifles individual growth excellence.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	February 20, 2020 7:35 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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