I recently got my first girlfriend, however, she wasn't too great in contact and I figured I don't want to chase a girl around.... I may have took this overboard as the relationship ended due to poor communication.

As well as this, I started hanging out platonically with some female friends. Ended up having the most fun I've ever had with a girl with one of them, caught feelings, caused me to neglect my relationship a bit in part of why it ended. I had zero intentions so said whatever I liked, but this girl is very talkative and I feel she was attracted to me until I became stresesd (and depressed, anxious, withdrawn to an extent).

As a consequence, I have no plans to ask her out for now. I talk to her regularly still though and the only reason I opened up to her a little was because she was open with me and genuinely was making efforts to cheer me up and support me. I got the 'oneitis' because not only is she very attractive, but a girl who was willing to make attempts to cheer me up even if I wasn't complaining is astounding.

I had a 180 in the last few months in terms of confidence hence having multiople girls attracted, but now I've lost it I feel I've permanently ruined my chances with my friend (hence oneitis that I need to get over with). I kinda screwed myself over in multiple ways, but it's not like she abandoned me either when I was stressed so there are genuine merits to her outside of dating.