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[–]SirKolbathYeah, yeah. “Mods are incels.”[M] [score hidden] 5 years ago stickied comment (0 children) | Copy Link
The comments have turned into a shitshow of illogic and personal attacks. Let me remind you that this is not a debate subreddit, and man shaming such as accusing someone of being "defensive" is across the line.
As a result, this post is locked.
[–]blurredlimes9 1 points 5 years ago [recovered] (10 children) | Copy Link
I don't see anything narcissistic about her post? She didn't say anything over the top. Valid concern IMO...
[–]SirKolbathYeah, yeah. “Mods are incels.”4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Really? You don't see anything narccistic about the fact that this woman is on Reddit complaining that his social media account isn't about her? That he didn't delete pictures of himself with his ex that are probably buried months or even years in his timeline?
[–]blurredlimes9 1 points 5 years ago [recovered] (8 children) | Copy Link
Sure. I'd be worried if I dated someone for 7 months who documents everything about his life but has never once said anything about me. Doesn't have to be everyday.. Just once. Not too much to ask
[–]SirKolbathYeah, yeah. “Mods are incels.”4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago* (7 children) | Copy Link
I'm glad you and I aren't dating then. I have Instagram to record my gym progress and occasionally post political pics or pics of my dog. I think I still have a Facebook account somewhere but I have no fucks left for that shitshow. And I have Reddit for, well, for this.
As a political writer, I learned to keep my personal shit off social media when "tolerant leftists" found my LinkedIn profile and posted my home address and threatened my family.
Side note: they did the same thing to Tucker Carlson last week. These people are terrorists.
There will never be a point at which my social media ever has a woman's name on it. Not to mention the fact that it's bluepilled virtue signaling. "Lookit me! I haz girlfriend" Fuck that.
[–]moorekomUrban Hoe Guerrilla7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Let me start out by saying that she has a valid concern. A woman will never admit this but she wants to be treated like a trophy by his guy. Even if she submits to you, she hopes that you will treat her right and not abuse her. This is why the first thing the carols we see here say is, "I've been hurt before". It's not that she wasn't able to submit, she has lost that ability to submit because she submitted to the wrong guys. Her expectation is that when a guy is that much open about everything else in his life, she wants him to disclose to the world that she is his and vice versa. What he is doing is exactly what women do when they are with someone they think they settled for. A lot of the times, if a girl is hoping to rope you in, she never tells you anything about having a boyfriend or fucking other guys. She will act sweet, innocent and submissive to rope you in. If she is hoping to find a better deal, she will act like she is single. That could be in real life or in social media but the point stands. She recognizes the same behavior in him. So, yes, she has a reason to be concerned but on a macro level, this is worse the other way around. Girls do this more often that guys can ever hope to do.
[–]blurredlimes9 1 points 5 years ago [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link
Neither my boyfriend or I have ever posted anything about each other. You know why? We don't post on Instagram or Facebook ever. But if we posted everyday and NEVER said anything about each other, it'd be weird.
Sorry you overreacted about some woman's post to prove whatever you wanted to prove. Wish you the best.
[–]SirKolbathYeah, yeah. “Mods are incels.”0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Actually, I thought you were a dude when I wrote that. Now I understand your overly emotional response.
Edit:I’m also glad you and I aren’t dating.
Lady, you couldn’t fuckin’ handle me on your best day.
[–]blurredlimes9 1 points 5 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
Yes. My response was very emotional. And what a great thing to say about yourself.
[–]SirKolbathYeah, yeah. “Mods are incels.”-1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Knee jerk attempt to insult my manhood by claiming on no evidence that you're glad we're not dating? Yeah. That was clearly coldly logical and emotionless.
[–]blurredlimes9 1 points 5 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Dude, I said it because you said it first. You know nothing about me.
And there's plenty of evidence.
This exchange has been hilarious for me, but sadly I'm done with you. Go fight with someone else.
[–]SirKolbathYeah, yeah. “Mods are incels.”0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
As I stated, when I said that, I thought you were a dude, which made it funny. When you said it, you said it specifically as an insult.
And then you frost the cake with what is basically "lol!" I expect a better class of trolling from you in the future.
[–]escalover 1 points 5 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]SirKolbathYeah, yeah. “Mods are incels.”2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think that’s what sticks in my craw. I read an article that one psychologist wrote about a study that showed people who post their relationship status to social media constantly are generally in relationships they classify as “unsupportive and unsatisfying”. Also, they are more normally women.
It seems to me that women are concerned with the appearance of a relative rather than the reality of one, which isn’t really a surprise.
[–]KoloGuptaSr. Hamster Analyst6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It's very simple, really. It's not official until it's on Facebook.
She intentionally doesn't post, in the hopes that she may a better Chad. In the meantime, when a man posts about her, it shows that she has him wrapped around her finger. Bragging rights to make her friends jealous. There's also the projection that if other men see her with "her man", they'll get jealous and want her too.
Of course, the moment she can monkey branch, she'll un-tag herself from everything and swing over to the new dude.
She "forgot" to explain what she doesn’t post her own personal business online. If he's important to her - The One and her soulmate - why the fuck is she not heralding him herself, on that useless platform? I suspect she's average at best, and the man is way out of her league.
[–]redpillparis 1 points 5 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah, she is probably punching above her weight. A hot girl would not be so insecure nor worried. She would next him as she has a lot of options.
[–]KoloGuptaSr. Hamster Analyst1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly!
[–]Samg4zm 1 points 5 years ago [recovered] (7 children) | Copy Link
This has nothing to do with narcissism. It's just a concern. Validity is in the details. Now, if the guy does post a lot and shows the scope of his life on social media, then she is kinda right about, "why isn't she in his life?" However, I would personally chalk it up to more real life experience, like if he's introduced her to the people that matter in his life. (I.e. friends and family)
Narcissistic behavior would involve some type of retaliation without discussion, or acting completely out of line. Reddit IS meant to be anonymous, and many come here to post anonymously for advice.
Really, the only one on the chopping block for the Narcissist label is the guy. If he is telling her he cares, then actively removes her from his online presence, that is textbook definition.
[–]SirKolbathYeah, yeah. “Mods are incels.”0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Apparently we have very different textbooks.
Merriam-Webster: Definition of narcissistic : of, relating to, or characterized by narcissism: such as a : extremely self-centered with an exaggerated sense of self-importance : marked by or characteristic of excessive admiration of or infatuation with oneself
Merriam-Webster:
Definition of narcissistic : of, relating to, or characterized by narcissism: such as a : extremely self-centered with an exaggerated sense of self-importance : marked by or characteristic of excessive admiration of or infatuation with oneself
I think I would say that trying to make someone else’s social media about you falls into the category of exaggerated self importance.
[–]Samg4zm 1 points 5 years ago [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link
Why do you think on such extremes? She literally asked for 1 mention over 7 months. Your defensiveness leads me to believe that you're the shitty boyfriend.
Think about it from this angle. Your entire social media "life" is apparently all about you, and not even so much as include the one you claim to "love" once. That fits the description of, "extremely self-centered with an exaggerated sense of self-importance."
Why do you think on such extremes? She literally asked for 1 mention over 7 months. Your defensiveness leads me to believe that you’re the shitty boyfriend.
Man shaming is not tolerated in this sub. Only warning.
There was nothing defensive in posting a literal definition of a term and then a specific example of how this situation fits into it.
Think about it from this angle. Your entire social media “life” is apparently all about you
Uhhh... yeah. It’s my social media account. Doesn’t she have her own? Should I expect Erik Estrada to make a Facebook post about the time he met me? I think asking that someone else make their social media feed about you is excessive.
As I mentioned in another comment, I don’t put women on my social media at all. I think this is adequately covered in the Red Pill sidebar if you're curious as to why. Women are largely interchangeable. I don't live my life for anyone but myself, and that includes my social media presence.
More importantly, I don’t ask anybody else to put me in their social media, either. I don’t see why this is even an issue.
[–]Samg4zm 1 points 5 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
Homie, did you compare a 7 month relationship to the time you met a celebrity??
You also played the victim card, in a post you originally made to attack someone else.
Where do the attempts at manipulation end!?
To cap it off, the "women are interchangeable" line defines that you see the entire sex as less than a man. All more red flags of narcissistic behavior.
But go ahead and threaten me again, a man, for the sad term of "manshaming." I never spoke based off gender, just reacting to your own defensively extreme responses, that are consistently aimed at making her a monster.
And don't base this off just me; looks like you're fighting solo against every commenter on this thread. But hey, you're probably right, and everyone else is wrong.
[–]SirKolbathYeah, yeah. “Mods are incels.”0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You broke the rules with your attempt to manshame. Do not get sandy assed and make this about me when you do that. Nothing I have posted has been defensive, and that accusation is a pathetic attempt at manipulation.
You also don’t seem to understand reducto ad absurdum, which is probably why the only way you can score points is to whine and then shame.
To cap it off, the “women are interchangeable” line defines that you see the entire sex as less than a man. All more red flags of narcissistic behavior.
Aw shit, you mean treating women as they treat men is narcissistic? Fuckballs, isn’t that exactly what I originally posted, ass!?
And don’t base this off just me; looks like you’re fighting solo against every commenter on this thread. But hey, you’re probably right, and everyone else is wrong.
Since when is right and wrong determined by a consensus, you boob?
[–]Samg4zm 1 points 5 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
You made a post on the internet, looking for a "consensus." Then you got offended and overly defensive because the internet didn't provide the reaction you wanted. Turns out all of this effort is by you, for your own ego; and now that ego is struggling for some upper hand in an argument that means very little in reality. Enjoy your self manufactured frustration.
Did I call you childish names, no. You resorted to this. Probably because I'm using logic, and the only way to defeat that is by reducing the entire debate to irrational squawking.
Look, this has been a good laugh for me. However I'm moving on now, and you should too.
[–]SirKolbathYeah, yeah. “Mods are incels.”-1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
You clearly don't read your own posts.
You accuse me of being defensive. That this is all about my own ego. That I'm struggling. That I'm making irrational squawking.
And then you pretend that I'm the one being childish.
You're right. You are done here. For three days at least. You were warned to stop the attempts at man shaming and chose to continue. Any other point you try to make is lost after that.
[–]cazminda3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah there’s nothing wrong with her post, if he’s constantly checking in everything he does it’s odd of him not to mention her even once in 7 months.
[–]CavannahSr. Hamster Analyst2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
No, this is not narcissism.
Somebody you’re in a relationship with goes to painstaking efforts to document and share everything you two do, but they carefully omit you from everything they record and make a point of never mentioning you? Something is not right, and worthy of concern.
A healthy amount of self-respect and vested interest in one’s own needs and wants is so vastly different from narcisissm, which is an unhealthy amount of obsessive behavior focused entirely on one’s self.
The OP evidences nothing that belies an unhealthy amount of self-interest, esp. to the point of obsession.
If anything, it sounds like her partner has some issues.
Edit:
To clarify by way of quoting you personally:
You don't see anything narccistic [sic] about the fact that this woman is on Reddit complaining that his social media account isn't about her?
She isn't complaining that it isn't about her, she's wondering if she should be worried or not that it doesn't involve her at all.
If you don't understand why that isn't weird behavior (and is in fact normal), to wonder if/why your SO is acting strangely and seemingly going the extra mile to make sure your presence and the relationship itself is not known or shown and to systematically avoid any semblance of a relationship, it's no wonder you conflate normal human behavior with your interpretation of narcissism.
Her concerns are valid and warranted.
Then I expect to show up in your Facebook feed immediately or you are literally raping me.
This is exactly narcissism.
As defined in another post by Merriam-Webster, who I will trust over you: "marked by an exaggerated sense of self-importance".
[–]SirKolbathYeah, yeah. “Mods are incels.”3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is absurd. "He doesn't wave me like a battle flag on social media. He must not really care!"
Maybe he's like me. If I'm talking about it on social media, it's not that important and probably actually trivial. No one, especially Mark fuckin' Zuckerberg, needs to know my relationship status.
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