The title is something a girl I was with told me.

I am a guy who was raised as blue pill as they come. I was always doing the right thing and saying the right things, was shy with girls and "respected" them. However ever since I discovered TRP more than two years ago, my perspective and approach to life changed.

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I started doing and thinking differently. I started working out, reading, picking up hobbies, making contacts, dressing better. And with that, my approach to friends, family, and girls changed along with that. I became more firm and confident about what I do and say.

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However, I noticed something. Girls who I don't just see a couple of times and move on all say the same thing about me. You are a nice/good guy. There is this girl who I was her first in everything told me that. She said something along the lines that before anything that I am to her, is I am a great friend and a good guy. And I fucking hate it. It tells me that I am doing something wrong.

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One thing happened the other day that made me think of this is my girl who says that she loves me told me this; You changed my perspective on love, I thought that love is butterflies and anxiety obsession and passion, and now I realize it's peace and harmony and all of that crap. She said it thinking that it's a good thing, but I realize the depth of it. Mind you this is a girl who tells me I am an asshole, and demands more attention from me and who told me how annoying it is that I don't get jealous at all, even though she tries to.

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Have anything along these lines happened to you before? What are your thoughts about it?