So I've been dating a girl for 4 months. I'm 17, she's turning 16. She's a sweet girl and I enjoy her company, which is why I hang out with her and why we are dating. There is only one problem - she doesn't let me fuck her. She says that she isn't ready or isn't "comfortable" with the concept yet, and that "It's not me, it's her". She keeps trying to make me "cut my balls off" and wait for her to be "comfortable" which I know doesn't work like this. I stand my ground and tell her that I'll be sexual with her and that I'll keep trying to undress her, and if she doesn't want that she can leave me, and I'm not holding her. I am in no way bending under her or allowing her to control me, on the contrary I lead her and constantly push my boundaries, and she is slowly giving in to them, but she also says that "she regrets it afterwards" (even though it feels right in the moment) . I make sure to state that I don't want her to feel obligated or pressured to do anything, and that, once again, I'm not holding her and she can leave anytime she wants to.

I know what most of you, having read until this point, are thinking. "next her / don't waste your time / etc". I have a lot of options, many attractive girls as well, which I could easily fuck but I'd like to keep what I have with this girl for the simple reason that she's fairly intelligent and, as Patrice O'Neal would say, I'm "training" her (we talk a lot and I teach her TRP principles and she is receptive and understanding, etc) as well as just figure her out and fuck her just to prove a point :)

She is slowly giving in to me, she allows me to touch her breasts, occasionally I slip my hand into her pants and she lingers a few seconds to stop me, but generally it's more the psychological warfare that's the problem. She gets mad at me, at which I smile and tell her that she is adorable when she gets mad. She also tries to withdraw sexually, which I just ignore. In other words, I am not needy and I don't allow her to manipulate me. She is also completely hooked to my attention, if I take a while to respond to her texts she explodes in my messages and is constantly seeking my validation.

I am thinking of slowly withdrawing my attention to her and implementing dread game (talk to more girls, give them more attention and implicitly let her know) and see where that takes me. I know she values me a lot, and hates me for controlling the relationship and having power over her (which is why she constantly tries to emasculate me and get my attention at no cost). It probably gives the vibe that she is a feminist lol, but she isn't one.

Anyway, can you guys knock some sense into me? Is withdrawing attention from her a good idea? Do you think nexting would be better and I am delusional when I think I don't have oneitis but I want to figure her out just because she plays hard to get, compared to other girls? Any suggestions and am I doing the right thing?