Can we talk about depression?

Jessor69 · 2020-03-25T07:10:05+00:00

Did you grow up in a single parent household by any chance?

Depression can definitely be conquered alone.

Never had a father my entire life and through my entire adolescence I was heavily depressed. I wouldn't go to school for months at a time and wouldnt leave my room for days. Mum and siblings tried to help but not really. Had to realise that I will never have a father figure in my life and the teachings that come with having one.

It wasn't until I realised all I was doing was looking for depressed shit to validate my depression, sad songs, posts on Facebook about being depressed, YouTube videos on depression, googled symptoms of depression and agreed with every single one. Every new person I saw was in my mind secretly depressed and fake. My whole worldview was based on sadness.

It's a vicious hurt cycle and hard to be aware of it. Don't attempt to go back to your "old, happy" self. You're meant to grow and form new ideas and mental models of who you are and what you like, there was no static "happy" you in the past. So don't be so hurt that you don't like the things you used to like, find new things.

What I did was surround myself with big energy/good vibes sorta shit, I listen to drake, kendrick Lamar, kanye, xxxtentacion. Anything that's upbeat. Went hard on gym, though a good body is 100% a confidence boost I thought I'd never feel it doesn't defeat depression. And I never ever looked up anything depressing or listen to any sad songs again, you can once in you're in a good headspace but I never thought about my depression again.

Main thing is setting short term goals and some long term goals for yourself, I can not stress that enough. Those short term goals successes will give enough of a high to keep going, the momentum of crushing short term goals one after another will carry a big compound effect on your mindset. Obsession with self improvement gives you no time to take your foot off the gas.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2020-03-25T14:32:33+00:00

what do you guys do to fight depression?

You wouldn't have a problem talking to a doctor if you kept bleeding out your asshole every time you took a shit.

This is the same thing. Chronic medical condition. One that's very dangerous, but very treatable by the way. Covid-19 has got nothing on depression.

You fight by not being a pussy and actually getting professional medical assistance. Do we look like psychiatrists to you?

Go talk to a mental health specialist.

Do you guys think that depression can be fought alone?

This is just one of the many self-sabotaging ideas that depression encourages.

This usually leads depression to worsen due to failure to get one's basic emotional needs met. Many if not most people who try to "tough it out alone" end up drug addicts or suicide.

Can you tell me a story about yourself of how you got depressed and dealt with it?

Family history of it, unfortunately. Got diagnosed first year of high school. My parents, despite their many shortcomings, fortunately had enough experience not to mess around and forced me to see a therapist and kept trying different medications until I found a combination that I was comfortable with.

I wouldn't have done that on my own, and if I'd had my own way at that point I would have been fine with jumping in front of a bus just as a final "fuck you society at large." That kind of anger and grief can be addicting in it's own way. Even so I barely graduated HS, bumbled around in my 20's couldn't keep a stable job or career flunked out of college. Often unemployed, fired a couple times for simply not giving a shit about doing anything. This usually had to do with deciding I was sick of taking an antidepressant and feeling like I depended on it like a crutch, despite the fact that I clearly needed it.

I think I finally wised up in my late 20's. I decided I was tired of asking my parents to move back into my room for the umpteenth time, tired of dead end jobs. Tired of being an antisocial fucker, tired of nearly zero success with women. I got my meds adjusted again, got into a career that I actually halfway enjoyed (welding.) Then went back to college at age 32, and with a lot of help from a counselor, got my bachelor's in engineering.

I don't why I just can't be happy with anything, I don't enjoy things like I used to.

This is depression by definition. There isn't any reason "why." It's unreasonable by definition, that's the point. The reason why probably has something to do with your immune system and intestines messing around with production of monoamine-type neurotransmitters.

I don't play video games anymore, I don't like my hobbies anymore, I can't chase girls anymore, can't even watch porn, I can't talk to my friends ( I don't consider them friends but aight), I don't like talking to my family members anymore.

Therapist.

The other option is drug addiction or homelessness, or suicide.

I quit my job because now I made the money that I wanted, I won't need to work for a while now but...even with money I can't be happy.

Bro, I've been there. Works out OK for a week or three, then the spiral around the drain always, always starts. That's a really dark place to go, and I don't feel like giving many details. Suffice it to say I've done this fuckery a few times and would not recommend. Don't quit your job unless you've got a better one lined up.

Ask for your job back. It forces you to interact socially and do something actually productive with your time. It forces you not to lay in bed all day until you smell like well-aged asshole and look like druggie Jesus.

If money isn't an issue then you need to be investing your income in a mutual fund, not loafing around and draining your savings.

Whitefarmer · 2020-03-25T14:32:17+00:00

Sounds like like you are doing all the good things but is your mindset to get rid of so called depression? I think a mindset of I do all these good things so I am stronger and healthier tomorrow then I am today.

Then the next day and the next day and the next day

What is depression? A virus a disease a injury or is it something in your head that woman get because there’s not much going on up there on a good day?

SteveSan82 · 2020-03-25T07:46:41+00:00

Look at why you are depressed. It could be diet, too much energy, not enough sunlight, just being negative, having no goals.

Blue-Raft · 2020-03-25T07:53:24+00:00

Check your diet, inflammation is common in depressed individuals. Sugar, wheat etc.. are highly inflammatory.

MisterRoid · 2020-03-25T10:18:32+00:00

Could be low testosterone. Get your levels checked. That's often a cause of depression in men. And yeah, if it is a hormonal problem it's pointless to tell you to do this or that. You have to know whether it's hormonal or not first. Then if it turns out you have low T you have to decide whether you want to try to boost it naturally or jump on TRT.

Snowboard18 · 2020-03-25T18:13:30+00:00

Finding the red pill and actually living the lifestyle helped by far more than anything else.

noobish_senpai · 2020-03-25T06:44:17+00:00

Start lifting if you havent yet and go out ans socialize more. Thats what really helped me.

Title	Can we talk about depression?
Author	T_Dead
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Comments	26
Date	March 25, 2020 6:22 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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