The title is almost oxymoronic, combining one of RP's most hated setups (LDR) with a staple of any solid LTR (dread game), but let's acknowledge that there are men here who do ultimately want to get married and start a family, and that a reality of that is that there may be unavoidable periods of long distance. I'm here to share some of my retrospective advice on the controversial topic from the days before I knew about RP. All stories are from when I was BP, looking at it through a RP lens.

Summary: Dread game is nearly impossible to do right in an LDR. The best strategy is something closest to a feigned trickle truth, applied only when you are a few days from seeing her in person. This obviously means seeing her often is crucial.

Body: Firstly, LDRs are one time when AWALT doesn't apply (okay it does apply, actually more than ever, but different girls will act differently over a period of a few months). If she's cheated before there's literally zero chance. Give up now and save yourself the gonorrhea. The best type of girl is not clingy, not overly sexual, and has a history of going months without sex while single. Anyone in between is a toss up, and if it's more than a year or two, you couldn't even trust Mother Teresa.

The rest of this will be about dread game. It's nearly impossible to apply in LDRs because the most effective dread game is about showing, not telling. Telling a girl you'll leave her does very little if she doesn't think you can do better. Showing her you can do better will have her literally trying to suck commitment out of you through your dick.

Too much dread causes panic. Her emotional needs are not being met, so she turns to her one go-to... sex... but you're not around. If you're two weeks from seeing this girl in person, and you make her think you might be at home fucking other girls, her knee jerk reaction is going to be to finally give in to that Chad who is making it clear that he wants her. Until you are a few days from seeing her, keep dread to a minimum and fulfill her emotional needs (without looking like a pussy, as always). I made the mistake of doing this once. Wasn't seeing the girl all summer and I texted her drunkenly about hanging out with my notoriously slutty friends. She got pretty jealous, I figured that was okay. Then she cheated on me with an ex because she felt insecure.

Too little dread causes boredom and loss of respect. If she's over here getting attention from all these guys, and you're over there waiting patiently for her return to shower her with love, isn't she going to start thinking she can do better? Yeah, she is. Then all it takes is one guy who has social proof and a desire to fuck your wife/gfs brains out and she's gone. This happened to me when I was dating a girl who went off to grad school while I stayed behind. I decided to be super attentive (given my last experience), and of course she left me for a complete AF from her new program, and she wasn't the type to date "alpha" guys. Clearly he presented a contrast to me.

But how do you apply dread game from afar? You have to let them do it to themselves. Is there a girl she knows you think is cute? Mention her in a story that has nothing to do with the girl except that she was there. "So I was hanging with girl X, Y, and Z..." "You were hanging out with girl Y?" End up in FB photos with girls (this can be harder nowadays, my friends don't use a lot of FB anymore). Mention how you finally have someone to do ____ with. "I've been volunteering with girl Y. So nice to finally have someone who will do that with me." Mention someone you're getting close with at work. "I've been working a lot of long nights. Luckily girl Z is alright. If I were working with bossman this would be awful."

All of those are indirect. It's like feigned trickle truth. You're trying to mention the other woman to her, but not in an incriminating way. Mention directly that a woman is hitting on you and it'll only come across as insecure/intentional. It might seem like you are doing something to elicit it as well. Women want to imagine that their man is unshakingly faithful, but there are other women all around the perimeter trying to break in. That's a man they'll stay faithful for. Just like men, women imagine that every woman around their man while they aren't around is a potential home wrecker.

I realized this worked because I accidentally did it to my last gf, the only time I had a successful LDR. I stayed active and ended up generally hanging out with a lot of women. Looking back, I realized I was tempting fate when I mentioned other women like that when she was surrounded with guys and wouldn't see me for a while. Too much dread, too much time before she could relieve those feelings of dread with a nice long weekend of sex and comfort. But when I did accidentally time it correctly, I got a weekend of basically whatever I wanted whenever I wanted.

Lessons Learned: Dread is a fire you ignite in her, and sex/comfort game is the water that puts it out. All women need to burst into flame every once in a while, but they can only take it so long. If you're not available, she'll put out that fire elsewhere. In a necessary LDR, keep her emotionally fulfilled primarily, and keep her from getting lonely, but also don't make her think you are pathetically waiting around for her. Apply dread only when there isn't a weekend between now and when she'll see you next. Keep visits frequent, and keep LDR time as short as possible. Above all, continue to work on yourself, because it's still likely that it will fail.