So if you look at the bullshit laws, in many states in the U.S. you have community property, or some sort of “equitable” (ha ha) distribution of assets in a divorce, that value has to come from somewhere.

Now most people are paycheck to paycheck types who max their lifestyle up to their income. It just sort of happens and if you’re married it absolutely happens. Can’t just live in a hovel, nope, you gotta keep up with the Jones’. And live on debt so she’s happy and the kids can go to a “good schools”.

Pro tip: good school you have to fly your kids to and they live there. Shitty schools use a yellow bus.

So why I say it’s 100% is let’s say your only shared “asset” is your home.

It’s worth $100k. Now she wants half. So how do you get that $50k? Liquidate you’re 401k? Your retirement? Well you’ll have to anyway, or maybe sell the house? So even if you get $100k for the house, which you won’t anyway because she wants to go buy some new tits today, then now you might have some green pieces of paper and she got half of them.

100% of the house, household memories, marks on the walls where you measured the kids growth are gone.

But you got $50k right? Sure, but now you’re paying rent somewhere. Or you gave her 100% of the house so the kids wouldn’t have to change schools or some stupid shit. Or you fantasize you’ll get more equity if you keep paying on the house mortgage, because she sure as hell won’t.

So now you’re either paying on the mortgage where you don’t live, or using whatever cut you got, and also paying rent somewhere else. Maybe you try to live cheap and stay on a boat you bought during better times, nope, she desperately needs 50% of that so that’s gone.

So you’re pissing away your cash. Rent, attorney fees, her attorney fees, she’s been magically diagnosed with some made up disability.

So she of course needs full time alimony since she worked so hard drinking wine and sitting on her ass to help you build your career with whatever made up shit feminists claim wives do. Emotional labor comes to mind as some bullshit. That’ll keep the lights on.

So you also tend to lose 100% of your dreams, potential, and future success, as we’re not allowed to include that in the divorce proceedings.

The first the middle class does in these situations is sell their assets off, which they usually have on debt anyway. So they’re almost useless.

You really lose everything in a divorce, not “half”.

You’re sleeping on a friends couch, if you’re lucky, while your entire world falls apart because she just wants money, it’s not like she earned it in any way or understands the ramifications of her actions. Nor cares.

Most people’s financial empire is held together by a precarious balance of multiple vectors. Any big change to the system collapses everything. And in a divorce everything gets wiped out. Dominoes fall. Your 401k splits in half and you can no longer afford contributing to it to retire early. Say goodby to that dream.

Meanwhile she’s just spending your money on whatever dumb thing popped into her head out of revenge. Poisoning children against you is one of the primary first moves, which is why all women are coached to start the “abuse” claims during divorces. Gotta keep that child support coming in.

It’s 100%. The man always loses. And loses it all. If it was just 50% of some bank account that would be one thing. Once you throw in homes, retirement accounts, memories, bonds with your children as she lies about everything. All gone. I hope the wedding cake was delicious.

Marriage is for two groups of people. Royalty establishing big eared children for the monarchy to continue, and poor people that have absolutely nothing at all.

As of 2020, if you’re considering marriage as a vaguely middle class guy, you’re fucking up royal.

Men primarily marry for looks and someone that will tolerate them. That’s about it. That’s why men are absolutely retarded about marriage.

Oh sure they’ll read books, get financial advice, ask reddit for how they should handle a joint checking account like that matters. Lift and hold all the frame you want.

Women only get married for your money. Only. There is no other reason for a woman to ever marry anyone. It’s only for money. Whatever delusions you still cling to that women don’t marry only for money, count the number of supermodels that marry homeless heroin addicts because he has a great sense of humor and makes her laugh.

Status? Status is money.

Supportive husband for her PhD goals? Money.

Likes to travel? Money.

Marriage has always been throughout history only about money. Even hypergamous marriage for social position is about money. Land holdings? Political alignments? Alliances to create allies and not enemies? Money.

If marriage isn’t about money then why is divorce only about money? It’s not like you work out a sex schedule to get laid 50% of the month after divorce.

It’s best if everyone gets 0%. Not just one side. You lose it all, and courts won’t compute how long it might take you to even vaguely return to where you were. And forget the lost opportunity costs, the potential that’s gone, your health from eating ramen 7 days a week, the destruction of your support and social network because that’s always a requirement in a divorce.

Burn it all down.