Any tips for when you are lonely and don't have any friends, but don't trust anyone either? please

richlad · 2020-01-09T10:06:12+00:00

Well women see men as a trampoline to be used to jump to the higher one.

It's clear she's still trying to do better by offering sex life demo to the men at the club.

The best you can do is, recognize this behaviour and pull yourself from under her.

bamabeatsny · 2020-01-09T15:02:01+00:00

Do you have a full time job? Make sure you're working 40+ hours a week. Get 8 hours of sleep a night. Find a hobby, project, or something you are/were passionate about and work on that - make progress on it - when you make progress it gives you a sense of fulfillment and self worth, and you won't be concentrating so much on feeling alone. There's a difference between being alone, and being lonely. And whatever you do, do not talk negatively to yourself. You are worth it, to you. Once you realize that, it gets easier.

RealBiggly · 2020-01-09T10:09:51+00:00

Well you're right not to trust people, as most of them are total assholes.

MgtowAutumn · 2020-01-09T14:54:39+00:00

Read worthwhile books. Lift and try to add either five pounds or two do more reps to your exercises each week. Get a job, work reasonably hard and don't let yourself get walked all over. Meditate. Stay hydrated. Lay low on the foods you know are shit for you and focus on meats/fish, vegetables, fruit. Multivitamin. Fish oil if you have money to splurge for minimal benefits. Get enough sleep, minimum 7 hours but you want 8.

Stay off social media, it's people posting their fake lives to try and make it look like they're happy when almost no one really is. Stay off dating apps. You can spend weeks of frustration before finally fucking some 6/10 girl you suspect is deep into a manic phase, and maybe you feel better for a bit but it's just a meaningless bandaid. Make sure you remain hygienic and keep your place clean. Communicate with others even if it's just online friends you randomly met in a video game.

If you are doing a decent amount of the above you should be able to develop some friendships and get more female interest if that's what you're looking for. Trust me, adding 10 pounds of muscle alone and getting enough sleep is going to raise you up a point or two in people's estimation to the point people will begin to initiate conversations with you. The difference between when I am consistently working hard in the gym and when I took several months off is night and day. You can't stay shut in and possibly develop real relationships, but by going to the same gym consistently, having a job, and the overall improvement in your mental well-being will naturally put you in social situations.

Nathaniel66 · 2020-01-09T13:46:03+00:00

Lifting. It saved me years ago, it was a true game changer. Not only you'll improve yourself, learn to discipline yourself, fight with your weakness, but also you'll boost your self esteem and once your body start operating better, your mind also works better. I lift for 14 years, never regreted i started.

MadLad2019 · 2020-01-09T14:35:00+00:00

You can talk to us here, a pet might help but I would only suggest that if you are ready and capable of taking care of them. I got a couple of cats last year and they give me a focus that isn't women and someone to talk to when I want to vent. Sure they don't add to the conversation but sometimes it's just enough to say something and look into someone's eyes and not have any judgement looking back.

2020-01-09T14:49:11+00:00

I gave up. Literally, that's it. I decided that it finally was not worth the tremendous mental strain to jump through hoops just to get people to pretend to give an iota of a shit about me. I reprogrammed my mind from the ground up, and embedded a framework into my psyche that is the polar inversion of the weak, timid affection sponge I used to be. I create my OWN worth now.

The funny thing? The INSTANT I did this, my world inverted WITH me. Lost 80+ pounds, bought some new clothes and a nice Michael Kors watch for Christmas (mainly to hack it and sideload Android apk's to it, but who knew that watch was all I needed to have women notice me by the way? Bitches compliment it every day, if I gave enough of a shit to look them in the eye I'd see the dollar signs in their pupils.) My boss, who used to nitpick me for every mistake I made on the job, even when it was blatantly not my fault, just did my timesheet FOR me while I was sleeping at home on vacation and forgot to do it. All of a sudden I'm an unintentional social butterfly at work, even though I loathe everyone there. Women give me "THAT" look/smile/eyefuck at work now - I know it's "THAT" look because I had never experienced it or even seen what it looked like outside of a movie or TV setting before my 34th year on this Earth. I've heard through what burned and charred social circle I have left that mutual female friends who never even knew I existed prior are now curious about the size of my member, as if that bears any significance to who I actually am as a person, or to anything at all for that matter. Women, hell, men too, laugh at all of the stupid fucking shit I say now, where as before it fell on deaf ears. I couldn't get a text back to save my fucking life back then - Now I got chicks sending me links that made them "think of me" and shit. It's hilarious.

It's the cosmic joke of life. The less of a shit you give about life, the better it will be.

Mythrobo · 2020-01-09T15:57:54+00:00

Get a dog 🙂. They love unconditionally and dont judge you, they truly are a alice of heaven. Except chihuahuas. They are the devils spawn. Also another warning: aave money, get ready to train them. They are not objects, treat them with respect if you do get one

getmeabikedad · 2020-01-09T10:07:13+00:00

Join something where everyone has a common interest. For me it was MMA. You'll naturally start forming friendships again while doing the thing, whatever you choose.

Sometimes it won't work because not everyone is looking for friends so patience is often required.

CerebralAbrasion · 2020-01-09T13:32:21+00:00

You probably just need time to recover from the trauma of being betrayed. You're in school, do they have any sports clubs? Wrestling in college was, without exaggeration, the most fun I had in my 20's and got me through a period in life I otherwise hated. It made memories that'll last a lifetime, highly recommended you join a club that interests you.

monkeestatuE · 2020-01-09T14:56:48+00:00

You shouldnt be lonley,remember you do have yourself so loneliness shouldnt bother you.

BJ2435 · 2020-01-09T10:10:28+00:00

You said homework so i assume you are still at school. This is good as it makes it much easier to find someone to talk to. You also had a girlfriend so you arent incompotent and proved you can hold a relationship so just talk to people with confidence. I also need a definition of 'users' because if friends are asking for you to cover them for snacks then you may be the problem but obviously if they do stuff like borrow cars, housing, games even for too long and constantly leech expensive things then you'll find people who won't you just need to talk to people and find someone

Fuxk1n · 2020-01-09T10:38:52+00:00

Do anything physical. MMA boxing jogging gym Do anything you can physically and it'll switch your brain off

TooAwareToCare · 2020-01-09T13:41:46+00:00

Lonely because your alone?

Are you actually alone though?

You always have your own company, and in the company of yourself you can forge a new being for the future.

There’s a lot within yourself and within the mind that easily eliminates loneliness

Use your imagination, it’s what any lonely child learns and it works forever

Lonely people do lonely things... when I feel lonely I look for other lonely people and then it can’t win.

It’s all an emotional trick of the mind, it’s just that it all feels very real

Title	Any tips for when you are lonely and don't have any friends, but don't trust anyone either? please
Author	Xen7121
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Date	January 9, 2020 9:39 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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