How do I stop wanting women to like me?

debanked · 2019-12-15T11:17:19+00:00

Learn to self soothe and self validate. It's not as easy as it sounds, but with practice you'll get better at it. Best try second/third person, like your coaching someone else, flip if needed.

Here are some examples:

" I want to fuck, I feel horny, her tits look so good, perhaps I should try the plantation again"

"Debanked, it's OK to feel horny, it's normal, it's testosterone"

"Debanked, don't waste your time, you'll end up wasting a heap of cash and get pissed when they try move in a fill you house with clothes and shit, want you to pay for shit, and have more drama, and take more than they give, remember?? Don't forget, no matter how horny you feel, remind youself, you have better things to do"

"I'll nut one out at home, and be chill again "

2019-12-15T11:00:52+00:00

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GreetingsFromErf · 2019-12-15T13:58:47+00:00

If you where abused by your mother, that definitely is related. I'm guessing you got zero validation as a child, and thus you crave it now. You probably also got an excess of criticism which has likely stunted your ability to laugh at yourself and gave you this feeling that you need to get shit 100% right the first time, less "you make mommy unhappy again".

If you think you've forgiven your mother, than I would suggest you are wrong, or where wrong to do so. You need to stay justifiably pissed off at her until you've sorted out the damage she did. Social anxiety can come from the resulting feeling that you need to get everything 100% right and not being able to laugh at yourself. I bet if you address those issues, your anxiety gets relieved a great deal.

I second the recommendations to find your purpose. Go do something. Just be kind to yourself when you inevitably screw something up. At the end of the day, it's really no big deal unless you make it into one.

NAILmg42 · 2019-12-15T16:09:19+00:00

You still have Hope you have not dismissed with reality yet and Validation.

Self actualisation isn't complete.

Go watch Stardusk video on Male mother need. You have to go inside with facts and decide to be alone.

Meteorite999 · 2019-12-16T00:41:49+00:00

A shot in the dark here but it sounds like a codependence issue, which is solvable with some reading and self redirection. Any time you have to look for outside relationships or attention to validate your own worthiness or to establish your identity, you are treading in the realm of codependence.

A very good book, which is short and easy to implement in your life is called, "Codependent No More" by Beatty. It really helped me counteract the need for outside validation and restarted my internal values compass. It's like $5 used, and highly, highly worth the read!

I hope this helps, I'm certainly no psychologist, just trying to share info on what has helped me in the past. Onward and upward brother!

Loganphoenix122 · 2019-12-15T11:08:41+00:00

Grow a beard;

Say lets just be friends;

Say thanks to her you discovered you’re A-sexual or gay;

Say thanks to her you discovered what is like to hate/ dislike wemon and that you found a whole new passion for hobbys.

Also find out about whats boring for her hobby wise and pretend to like that.

Don’t give anytime to her, for example: When she wants to talk and says hi and how are you:

Keep your awnsers short like yes or no, and excuse yourself from the conversation & say you’re busy with work;

Always be busy or the complete oposite:

Say you love her and overwelm her with attention Wemon are afraid of men who almost borderline stalk them unless they are crazy than you’re screwed

2019-12-15T11:32:26+00:00

Keep in mind, who are these people to you that you care that much that they like you? In ten years, you're not even going to know each other.

selfism_mike · 2019-12-15T16:32:43+00:00

Very apparently you have never experienced the true nature of women. They are ungrateful parasites who will never give a rotting shit about you. Their opinion means jackshit.

Title	How do I stop wanting women to like me?
Author	Hate_my_apathy
Upvotes	5
Comments	19
Date	December 15, 2019 10:53 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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