I made a post earlier about breaking up with my GF and saw some comments that prompt this "advice to my younger self" if I could do it all over.

  1. Focus on building financial security. Rule #1. Only rule that matters. That means having fuck-u money to allow you to walk away from situations that don't mesh with your view on life. That means you have to buckle down and build something in your 20's and 30's. I did this one right.
  2. Date but don't compromise rule #1. Lonely men do stupid shit and sometimes doing them unknowingly. Nothing wrong with a relationship as long as you set boundaries and live within them. Think of it as inoculations against you doing stupid shit. But see rule #3.
  3. Boundaries in a relationship: Don't be an ATM. How? This used to confuse me for the longest time. Answer: Show her you got potential and hint at lots of assets but be a tight wad when it comes to spending. Chicks will put up with it thinking they play the long game. Perfect. It took me years to learn this. Show the $ (or potential for $), but DON'T spend it. Your excuse is you have needs to invest for that business, that real estate, that deal, etc. Your assets or potential to acquire assets is your bait--the best bait for the hypergamous quarry that is our social-media obsessed females of today. Don't use up your bait. At some point, she'll be sick of you being a tight wad and self-selects to split. As far as I'm concerned, that's the perfect outcome. Enjoy the ride while it lasts--she's not yours, it's just your turn. Rinse and repeat.
  4. When you are 54 like me, you realize your time and goals are more important than any one woman out of 3.5 billions women on this earth. If you have a little dough (and you should be unless you waste your potential in your younger years and be a bluepill ATM like 99% of the men walking around), you get your pick from 25-37 and they all want a piece of the dough if you know how to bait the hook. That's just how the world works, don't fight it.
  5. Again, never waste your bait. Show the $ (or the potential to acquire lots of it), but be a tight-wad. If you spend, spend on you. Give her little trinkets now and then, let her think there's a 50% of that pot of gold at the end if she is patient and plays the long game. Meanwhile, focus on you and do you. There's always another set of titties around the corner--there are 3.5 billions of them. Gentleman, there is only one of you.