Story time: I had a female friend. She went through this giant cutting phase for a year . And she always vented to me and asked for my help to talk her through it, she even got kicked out of therapy by multiple therapists because she was so bad.

I even hung out with this chick last minute on multiple occasions to cheer her up.

There was a period for a month where I was really depressed and needed help. Just someone to talk To and hangout with. Every single time I texted her she would respond in one word answers or none at all. Every time I tried to make plans with her she said okay, but bailed last minute.

Heck, we made plans to hang out one of the times, and she just blew me off, and claimed “well you didn’t text me today”, despite the fact that we talked about meeting up the night before.

Friendship slowly died after that. Broke my god dam heart. It was like my mind was shattered into a million pieces. I invested YEARS with her as a friend, and that was GONE because I asked her for the same help I gave her.

When women need help, they expect men to show kindness and support them.

When men need help, women flee and think it’s “ icky”.

It isn’t men that don’t want men to show weakness. It’s men responding to women’s lack of willingness to accept men being venerable that causes it.