There is this woman that comes on your mind alot lately. You want to try to start something with her, but are uncertain of how things would follow.

 

Identifying a Oneitis:

  • Do you think about the last time you two went to the movies with friends, and how cute her smile was during the happy-ending of the romcom you were watching?

  • Do you think about her when at work?

  • Do you think about having sex with her, and how she would moan so intensily when you two are shagging it?

  • Do you think about her when trying to enjoy a certain artistic hobby (writing, painting, composing etc.)?

 

A parasite has entered your realm of thoughts

You're having some outdoor activity, and you think about her. You think of sex (or whilst having it) and she is there in your thoughts. You are stressed of work, and she is the first thing that pops into your head for that dopamine-release and the follow up stress-release. You try to enjoy your hobby, only to have a mental blockade that is either preventing it (eg. can't write) or shifting its flow (eg. let's write about her).

 

So I think about her abit more than usual, what's the big deal?

The problem with this mentaliy, and Oneitis in general, is that the mental acuity of a man should be mostly directed towards himself. Towards self-improvement, setting goals and achieving them, setting foot into this world, rational and emotional growth. If the mental-"estate" of a man is being used mostly by one other than himself, then he isn't geared towards improvements in life. A bitch resting on ones mind is stifling.

 

Ok, so how do I fight this feeling of Oneitis that I have for this girl?

There are two methods you can follow, with the first being recommended more highly on TRP:

  • Abundance mentality

The mere fact that she became your Oneitis means that your sexual options are dwindling or non-existent. Go out with your guy friends, hit a bar and find yourself something to tap. Maybe you can flirt your way into the panties of the cute cashier at your supermarket? Or take dance classes (as a TRP man you should). The options are endless, what's important for you is to go out and act!

 

  • Burst that oneitis bubble

Again, stop thinking too much and start acting. Go to that woman of your dreams, and tell her how you feel. If she wants to be with you, great! Just make sure YOU know what you want out of this relationship (FwB, LTR, etc.) and lay it to her plainly.

If she refuses, then you will live with some heart-ache for a while. It's very important to realize that the bubble will burst midly, but will not complete deflate. Your thinking priorities of her have shifted by then. You're not thinking of her gentle sweet nature, but what a bitch she really is. YOU'RE STILL THINKING ABOUT HER! Try to steer that anger towards productive means (hit the gym, go mountain climbing), and in time you will think less and less about her.