Friendzone - I guess I fucked up

Corruptdead · 2017-03-04T18:52:39+00:00

You're there for her entertainment, you're not on her menu and won't be no matter what you do. Go out and approach girls it's a lot easier to form new relationships than obsess over a single one.

•Ghost her, seriously do it and don't justify any excuses it's hard at first "I'll keep her as a friend" "I like her company" "she's wants to know what's wrong I should explain." Seriously no excuses just ghost (don't block her that's a petty crutch)

•You're the prize, she doesn't want you that's her problem not yours don't give it any second thought there's plenty of girls out there that will fuck you.

•Socialize, approach, game, just get out there make friends with everyone you'll meet more women when you have friends and social proof. You'll also have way more shit to do when you have friends.

•Hit the gym, just do it you'll feel and look better. Start easy if you can't lift at first "A bad day at the gym is still a day at the gym" also learn from my mistakes and use free weights instead of smith machines.

•Learn, read everything and work out the brain as well you'll have more to talk about. Go through the sub and read up on RP.

blackedoutfast · 2017-03-04T20:11:03+00:00

you fucked up by giving her attention and validation by doing all this chit-chat bullshit and acting like her BFF for weeks without escalating. this didn't accomplish anything except showing her that you were perfectly willing to have a friendly/emotional relationship with her without any sort of sexual interaction.

be polarizing and physically escalate from the start to show your sexual intent. yes you will get a lot of quick rejections, but you will actually have more success in the long term. trying to be indirect and using NiceGuy/friendzone "game" completely turns off most girls, even the ones who were initially attracted to you.

don't have all these long conversations or spend a lot of time doing non-sexual activities and bonding with a girl until you are in a LTR with her.

GR8AGN · 2017-03-04T18:38:34+00:00

The best thing to do is just cut communication and ignore her. You'll be amazed by how fast she hits you with the "I miss you, why haven't we haven't talked in forever?"

Corruptdead · 2017-03-04T18:57:51+00:00

You're her plan B, or C, or D, or... should a more primary plan fail.

ksa82 · 2017-03-04T18:06:24+00:00

I would tell her I have enough friends..that's worked for me in the past but I'm sure someone could probably give you better advice.

favours_of_the_moon · 2017-03-04T20:02:15+00:00

It's a shit test.

She may really have someone, she may not. Either way, you're on deck. She wants to see if you'll accept being made her bitch. Or if you'll get all pissy about being rejected. Or if you'll be a man, make your intention known, then let her come to you.

Play it however you want.

Metaleka · 2017-03-05T05:49:32+00:00

There is a chance that you may break that barrier. I did it about five months ago with my ex girlfriend (see how I said ex). I broke the barrier by shitting on another girl for her. I know it's a terrible thing to use someone for your own gain but It was worth the sacrifice . Basically I was with another girl and my ex was really jealous about it. We were friends for nine years and I finally told her how I felt about her. She said she had the same feelings and then we started having sex with each other/dating. I also gave her an ultimatum as well. I told her "I'm sorry I can't really be friends anymore because it hurts to not be with you physically, so it's either we move our relation further or I'm out". She fell for it and we dated. All I can say man Is just give her an ultimatum or ghost. Let her know your intentions.

max_peenor · 2017-03-05T12:16:25+00:00

I don't know how did I end up fucking up

I wonder.

We chatted/talked for hours for weeks before going out.

There we go. While I'm not a fan of cheating, she may have been up for some strange. Find out quickly and move on if necessary.

lwbrown10 · Sun Mar 5 3:46:44 2017 UTC

You've become her texting/phone buddy. Only use the phone for setting dates.

Let her text you first, send 2/3 texts max then set a specific date to hang out. Then get off the phone and be busy until your date.

It's extremely hard to build attraction thru the phone. You build it thru face to face and kino.

jay_jay_man · 2017-03-05T06:22:40+00:00

I don't know how did I end up fucking up...

This is where you fucked up

We chatted/talked for hours for weeks before going out.

Should have made your move on day 1.

charmander_bro · 2017-03-05T09:31:41+00:00

We have all been there....

when you start having emotional conversation for hours on end you end up in the friendzone.

Just move on, next time keep it more short and keep it flirty - so teasing her and escalating

abbafishhead · 2017-03-05T11:33:21+00:00

We chatted/talked for hours for weeks before going out.

There's your problem there. You showered her with your attention and effort and time without escalating and asking her out. Why would she want to go out with you, much less fuck you? You're already offering commitment upfront without sex.

Jesus Christ, you have so much to learn.

creepyThrowawayP · 2017-03-05T11:38:35+00:00

Bro, you fucked up by not using communication as a means for logistics.

You did not escalate on the first date, hell there was no first date, you established yourself in the friendzone she only agreed.

Ghost her, you won't get laid with her.

Andrew54321 · 2017-03-04T20:03:08+00:00

Stay friends, bang her friends in a totally different frame. They will talk and you will be tested.

You also have zero cash for her outside reasonable friendship boundaries.

Ghosting, blocking, hard nexting are just butthurt reactions guised as responses for the man who has run out of ways to make the situation work for him.

Title	Friendzone - I guess I fucked up
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Upvotes	12
Comments	38
Date	March 4, 2017 6:01 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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