There's a reason its called SELF-esteem. It comes from the self. No society, man, woman, child, whatever mentally ill people identify themselves as these days, etc. can give you self-esteem. Its something you give yourself, by fostering respectable traits and habits in yourself. Its not just gonna happen. You won't have self-esteem if you don't have any experiences to base your self-esteem on. Experiences that bolster self-esteem challenge you. And I really feel thats what this whole subreddit is all about.