I headed to a coffee shop to get some work done and two girls in town visiting (early 30s decent looking, 7s, brunette, blonde) are sitting across a table from me. I get a sandwich and proceed to read some RP while I eat before getting to work.

It's probably just been 15 minutes and in that time these 2 girls have talked about everything from their current problems with their bfs (brunette is dumping one), to their childhood, to golf tournaments, to their exs, to some other bs all their family members are doing to, I'm losing track and don't care anymore.

What I've observed:

  • 1) if you let women blab on and on you will start to border BP orbit. With women it isn't about the content, who can possibly remember all the shit they just talked about, it's about having spent the time talking, that makes them feel good, not horny. That's why it's important to lead, interrupt, escalate, bring them back to the present, etc. That sets you apart with intent to fuck.
  • 2) the one dumping her bf (the brunette) is totally happy, non nonchalantly talking about how her current BF doesn't step up and meet her needs. The blonde goes on to recite her exs and how this one in particular doesn't respond to her, "I wanted to know how he's doing, how his family is going", "but he doesn't respond, I mean he's not really an ex he's more like an old friend". No he's an ex, but hamster away.
  • 3) The brunette mentions one particular orbiter that "oh he knows that I hang out with a ton of guys but he ignores it, he keeps telling me he won't give up hope". Translation: I fuck a ton of guys and he still hangs around, his fault. She's clearly leading him on but that doesn't matter, he gives her time, that makes her feel good, not horny. He's giving up his most precious resource (time) for something he thinks he may one day have, but will not.
  • 4) a buddy of mine showed up and we started talking. The blonde started looking my way as social proof set in.

Remember: women are putting you in categories all the time (we have sex, we don't have sex but he buys me dinner, he helps me move, etc) make your intentions known and use your time wisely.

I thought about opening them however for me it's not worth it with what I have going on this weekend.