Having Enthusiasm Problems

yokai_e1even · 2019-07-20T09:18:26+00:00

Well, I used to use anger as a motivator, while it helped me start on things it drained me before I finished anything worthwhile. I think there’s only one true motivator. You have to relate the task your doing with something you are genuinely interested in. Like with me, I never like working out. But I have an interest in works of fiction and literature. So I hear audio books while I workout.

In short try, try your best to bring something you enjoy in the mix. Another key is too not focus on others or those around you. They only serve as distractions. (Especially women at the gym.)

Just focus on you, and bring in something you genuinely enjoy while performing a task you usually wouldn’t enjoy.

ls2087 · 2019-07-20T09:44:59+00:00

Just start small. You need to develop good habits and establish a routine. For example commit to 5mins every morning focussed on whatever it is you are working towards - 5mins of committment even the laziest person can manage that. Losing weight? Walk round the block. Studying for an exam? Ask a question and write the answer down, pin it to your wall. Want to get stronger? Press ups for 5mins. Just doing it regularly and committing to it. That will bring results and the enthusiasm will feed off of that. Everyone goes through slumps in motivation too, just get back on it the next day.

BTSNP4th · 2019-07-20T12:44:16+00:00

Here's what I do; it's all mental. You first need to realize that no one is coming to save you, you're on your own. If you won't save yourself, you're done for.

How do you push yourself to take action? Find whatever resonates with you.

Pretend your successful future self took over your body with his future technology and is forcing you to take action so that his timeline doesn't get erased.
Pretend your haters and bullies are scheduled to visit you one day and they'll get to see how you're living. Hit them where it hurts by showing how good you have it dispute all the shit they threw at you.
Find a mentor. It can be any dude online that you look up to (mine is Brandon Carter 2013-2016 era) and pretend he is beside you giving you his advice.
Ask yourself for advice. Often times you know what has to be done, let yourself tell you what you have to do and do it. Odds are you wouldn't want to hang around with a friend who acts like you do when you don't take action to better yourself.
Use the gun to your head mentality. Let's say you need to accomplish a goal, instead of asking yourself "Do I feel like / do I want to" ask yourself "If someone put a gun to my head and told me to finish this task or he is pulling the trigger.. could I do it?" If the answer is yes, do it. (This one is a real freaking eye-opener to how much we waste our potential.)
Ask yourself "is that the best I can do?" if the answer is no, keep going. This doesn't give you permission to be a perfectionist, it's more along the lines of when you're about to give up on something and ask yourself if you truly can't do better or if you're just letting your homeostasis take over and manipulating you to crawl back into your comfort zone.
My favorite one, draw a line across a piece of paper, write PROS and CONS on each side, and start listing off benefits that you'd gain by accomplishing something, and write disadvantages you'd get if you put it off. The more you can come up with, the better. It'll make so much logical sense to pursue your goal that way that it'll be outright stupid to put it off.

Of course, you might still put it off because you don't have the habit of accomplishing goals and you might end up hating yourself even more because you went through all these tactics and you still ended up putting it off because you weren't motivated.

This is where you need to realize one thing; Motivation is fucking worthless. Sure, it feels good to do things when you're motivated, but you can't control an emotion that comes and goes. You won't be able to do anything consistently that way. The key is to do it anyway regardless of how you feel, that way you'll start building up your 'discipline muscle', the more you use it, the stronger it gets. Eventually you'll reach a point where you'll be able to start taking action without really caring if you're motivated or not.

Make peace with the fact that you'll take action one day and the next day you'll end up wasting time. Accept that whatever plan you develop will have mistakes, so track how you are handling it and make adjustments to your plan until it resonates with you and gives you synergy.

You must also understand that it is indeed very hard to better yourself. If you want to live an easy life, all you have to do is set no goals and accomplish nothing. It may not be fulfilling, worth-while or help anyone, but it's easy, and that's what most people do. So be happy that whatever you strive for is hard. That's what makes it special. If you're willing to do something that's hard, you've already set yourself apart from other people. And anything that's worth having is hard to obtain.

These are all tactics to keep you going, and as for enthusiasm itself to actually get you started; bombard your mind with stuff like this. Listen to a mentor online through youtube videos (someone you resonate with), read books on the subject etc... (One book I HIGHLY recommend is "Maximum Achievement" by Brian Tracy.)

I'm probably rambling a little since I'm still recovering from a hangover, but I hope you're able to get something out of this. If you have any questions, let me know and I'll help!

ProfessionalPassion4 · 2019-07-20T10:24:49+00:00

You don't need motivation. You need talent and effort.

Talent: the ability you have to learn things quickly.

Effort: how much you are willing to put up to do whatever you want to do.

Talent times effort = skill

Skill times effort = success.

So you see - effort is two times here. Effort is hugely important.

I used to be like you - needing approval of friends/family to have motivation to do the things I wanted to do. But now - I don't need their approval anymore and now I wake up everyday 2 am just to concentrate on getting the right skills so I can achieve success.

There's a good book, the name is "Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance". I recommend you take a look. It's a really great book. You can also take a look at this Youtube video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H14bBuluwB8

I don't know if it applies to you, because each one is a different person. Did it help at all?

Title	Having Enthusiasm Problems
Author	ImaSealArfArfArf
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Date	July 20, 2019 9:08 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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