Opening Summary: I'll cover some perspectives on Frame Control and how use of Boundaries can enhance this.

I'll start with going over different partial perspectives on what frame control, finding commonalities, and formulating a generalized definition and explanation of the concept. Then defining and explaining perspectives boundaries to see how they enhance frame control.

  • "Re-Frame" To re-contextualize, and in effect, changing the meaning. Frame here is context. Same content, different context, different meaning.
  • "In someone else's frame" Taking on someone else's belief's, perspectives, and reality.
  • "Entering something (ie. relationship) from your frame" Doing something on your terms, with your own interests primary before the other's. In this case, frame is someone's will.

Frame seems to be mostly psychological, affecting behavior but not necessarily initiating from it. It seems to be a concept more akin to power, as in influence and control, rather than achievement or direct relationship building. The person who controls or owns the influencing frame is the one with more influence. Frame is more about dominance, who has the dominant perspective that the group, of two in this case, abides by. This is where the concept dominant reality comes from. It's all the same reality, just different perceptions, interpretations, experience of it. While connections are resources built by the emotionally dominant, and achievements are resources built by the physically motivated/active, power is a resource built by the more intellectual dominant and strategic. Same environment, different interpretation, different sets of decisions.

Where does Frame come from? In some cases, pure conviction. Someone who has a strong grasp on their interpretation of what's going on, sometimes with strong feelings associated with that, will hold to their perspective stronger. When they interact, they speak with more certainty and conviction, and people begin to trust on that basis alone. If that person is valued, the other person may conform to the other's frame on fear of loss.

What's a Boundary? In it's simplest form, it's saying no to something. Or said in another way, it's a preference. If you say no to something, you're saying yes to something else somewhere. Preferences form the beginnings of identity.

There are individual boundaries and group boundaries. Group boundaries often are spread by gossip, evaluating someone else's behavior in the group as either positive or negative with another member of the group. Within a group, a boundary is a rule. We don't do this, or we do this. The person of social power, often the person who formed the group, directly chooses the group's boundary when the group was made. Members of a group will conform to the group's boundaries in order to stay within a group, unless you're a woman and say one thing, pretending to conform, but secretly do another.

How do Boundaries and Frame interact? A boundary is a conviction. If there is a deeper reason for a boundary, the stronger the conviction for that boundary. That boundary has frame built in. When you enter some sort of relationship (not necessarily an LTR) within your frame, you do so within your set of boundaries. If you have no boundaries, you're under the influence of what the other person wants with the freedom you've given them. A boundaries set the context for what you're willing to put up with. If the other person's behavior goes outside of that context, tension is an automatic response, and tension is what people tend to want to avoid.

Boundaries have a operant conditioning aspect to them in this way. It serves as negative punishment, removal of something good based on a criteria. "I'm not ok with X. If you do/are X we're not interacting on Y level." Since a boundary is a preference, it rewards desirable behavior. "I like X. You are/do X, I like that." In this way, people will begin to adjust their behavior based on rewards and punishments by Behavioral Psychology principles. This works with women when the person responding to their preferences is someone who is desired, has high SMV. When that person doesn't have some sort of preferred value to her, this aspect of boundaries is less effective. This is partially based on your rewards just meaning less.

That's all I had on that topic for right now. If I'm completely or partially off, let me know. I know I'm definitely missing a lot.

Closing Summary: Frame is context, the influencing perspective, and someone's will. Boundaries are preferences, primarily saying no to something. Having boundaries helps aid strengthening frame.