Running into a wall, suggestions?

AlwaysLateToThreads · 2013-05-13T15:47:27+00:00

Well, I always try to come up with a plan to escalate. "I'm going to try to kiss or fuck this girl today." Then I try to stick with the plan. Women expect men to lead so you have to know where you're going. You gotta escalate and get her back to your place.

Also. Giving women alcohol is not tricking women into having sex with you. Taking girls out to get drinks or better taking her home to have drinks is one of the best moves you can do. It's not tricking her, it lightens the mood, it helps a lot. I don't even like alcohol but women LOVE it, so use it! It'll help loosen you up a bit too and make the moves you need to make.

chikinpickle · 2013-05-13T16:57:52+00:00

Fucking texting. Get her to invest time in you. Attraction comes and goes.

dmahan · 2013-05-13T15:53:24+00:00

Always be closing.

itsmehobnob · 2013-05-13T22:10:44+00:00

You need to spend more time on game websites. Go to the Roosh V forum and find the newbie section. Read everything. On the first of the month create an account and ask questions. The guys there are extremely helpful.

DaddyMonster · 2013-05-18T00:06:11+00:00

Basic conversations skills, like using observations and finding jump off points in your conversation goes a long way.

By observations, I mean observing the other persons behaviour, "vibe", etc, as well as environmental things. That gives you opportunities to build rapport.

Example: Girl seems happy and energetic.

Me: "Wow, you seem happy and energetic today. That makes me curious as to why." Girl: Shines up even more "Yeah, it's been a really good day because blah blah blah"

Note 1: Girls want to be beautiful and radient. If you note that she looks tired and unhappy, she might take offence unless your intentions are sincere and based on empathy. If you manage to convey enough empathy (but not going over board with it) she'll usually soften up, and share her feelings. That gives you a good opportunity to relate to her a la "yeah, I know exactly what you mean blah blah."

Note 2: I'm avoiding asking questions as far as possible. Asking questions is sort of like making a withdrawl from a persons good will account. Making statements, like that you're curious, doesn't.

Sometimes girls give you freebies to work with. Example:

A girl asks if I've noticed a certain piece of her clothing, in this case the straps of her top, which are pink and baby blue.

Me: "Now that you mention it, yeah, those straps are really cute."

Girl: shines "Thanks! I think so too!"

Me: "Yeah, they suit your personality. How do they make you feel?"

Girl: Surpiced but delighted at the question "The colors make me feel happy and fresh and playful! wink

Me: "Oooh, I like the sound of that" wink

Note 1: She's conveying what she values.

Note 2: She's literally telling me that she's go for play.

Jump off points are like potential forks in your conversation. Example:

You and a girl are talking about whatever, lets say... Food... And she mentions that when she was little, her favourite dessert was... Banana cake. Which she LOOOOOOOOVED!

Some variations on jump off points that can be found here are:

Childhood
Favourite things
Desserts
Banana cake

Example 1: "You like banana cake? There's this café that makes wicked banana cake blah blah" and all of a sudden you have a date.

Example 2:

You: "Banana cake huh? I bet your mom still mentions h ow much you loved banana cake when you were little, and that you still get cravings" smirk

Girl: "Omigawd how did you know blah blah blah"

I had a major epiphany some time ago. It was thus:

I DO NOT have to have super clever things to say all the time. I do not have to be smooth. I do not have to adapt the subjects I chose to talk about to what I think the girl finds interesting all the time.

Example 1:

Having convo with girl, and not "feeling it" or whatever, or mind goes blank.

Me: "I'm a bit off today 'hon. If I go silent or something, I want you to know that it's not your fault or that I find you boring or something like that. It's just the way it is today."

Girl: "Oh, alright! I think I can talk enough for two!"

Me: "I appreciate girls who are generous with their conversation"

Girl: giggles

Note: Most girls seem to be insecure when it comes to silences. By reassuring her that it's ok, she can relax and focus on doing the talking.

Example 2:

Just started a convo with a girl, and she or the subject bores me. I just fucking switch the subject to something I feel like talking about. Plain and simple.

Girls communicate more with feelings than with words. I can literally talk about mundane stuff like driving cars (which is something I LIKE) and still have the girls cling on to my words because I'm conveying a good feeling.

Other things to do... Physical stuff. Like thumb wrestling or whatever. I'm a proficient dancer, so I can teach girls dance moves, which is AWESOME for kino.

Title	Running into a wall, suggestions?
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Date	May 13, 2013 3:37 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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