Removed my mother and sister from my life for good

ConstantChinner · 2019-06-02T07:39:58+00:00

They sound like cunts. Well done. You have to cut such poisonous people out of your life.

ruifaf · 2019-06-02T08:29:08+00:00

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Uniqueusernamehurray · 2019-06-02T09:17:53+00:00

Lots of women are only capable of love about as much as a salamander is. It's fucked up to understand the true significance of AWALT, which involves your closest relatives too, of course, but it's an eye-opening truth.

Anyway, for me it was to see how, after being in an office for 10 hours, my dad got ordered to do some hard work in our yard by my mum, who was still in her pajamas and had been watching TV all day long. The tone in her voice as she gave him orders on what to do and the look of despair on his face told the whole story. My dad traded freedom for pussy and is now stuck.

faschismus · 2019-06-02T10:29:22+00:00

Subconsciously speaking it's very difficult for a son to ostracize his own mother. So, if you did this, it's because it was the cherry on top of the cake. A pretty big cherry I must say. Feels bad man, stay strong bro, you're alright.

Batavica_Dei · 2019-06-02T10:01:39+00:00

OP always do the equation if something is a net benefit or not to your life. This counts for family as well.

AustinGuess08 · 2019-06-02T08:08:41+00:00

Cut my mom out of my life nearly 8 months ago and it was one of biggest reliefs of my life. You'll likely have a lot of people tall to you about forgiveness and whatnot but if it feels like that kind of weight has been lifted off of your shoulders then it's usually not worth the hassle of ever going back. Just because they're family doesnt mean you owe them anything especially when they mistreat you in that manner.

YonkoPat · 2019-06-02T08:16:02+00:00

Well done my brother.

TryDoingSomethingNew · 2019-06-02T13:12:24+00:00

It’s a pretty big deal that your one mother didn’t even bother asking you for your side

v0lvic · 2019-06-02T08:01:32+00:00

same here.

[deleted] · 2019-06-02T13:17:12+00:00

Whatever you do do not back down on this decision ever make it completely permanent for the rest of your life and don’t give in on holidays

MayonaiseH0B0 · 2019-06-02T14:01:07+00:00

I can relate. I am used to having a mom side against me. It is one of the worst forms of betrayal there is. Do NOT let anyone pressure you into keeping in touch with her. Just because she's family doesn't mean you are legally or morally obligated to talk to her. This is coming from someone who had enough of his own mom's BS and is ghosting her since 2017.

Fantoche_Dreemurr · 2019-06-02T12:25:19+00:00

Dude you do not talk about MGTOW in public or to women at all. first rule.

bk6830 · 2019-06-02T10:09:16+00:00

Looks like it was not the first rough patch with your mother, just the last drop. If they're not supporting allies in your life, positive forces, even from the same blood you did good dropping them. Been there, done that, only for the better. I'm not a psychic but I'm pretty sure you will receive soon enough one of them with nothing but this-is-all-your-fault attitude and a guilt trip. Have fun rhetorically kicking asses.

Birdlaw90fo · 2019-06-02T13:04:04+00:00

Damn dude. Sounds exactly like my life, both have blue pill husbands. I'm out.

GrisBosque · 2019-06-02T11:08:34+00:00

When you watch your own family trying to sacrifice your well being, long term, for something petty for themselves, you figure out the truth.

Desolatrollz · 2019-06-02T08:39:07+00:00

Good choice man time to live a happy life

krkpatrck · 2019-06-02T10:49:37+00:00

No they do not care.. hypergamy is real.. men feel regret woman rarely do.

girlfriendisaliar · 2019-06-02T09:57:28+00:00

Just curious, do your mother and sister hate your father?

AvailableGuava · 2019-06-02T12:40:10+00:00

Unfortunately we dont get to choose our family. Sucks you had to do this, but I understand. I think you will be better for it, still sucks though and that's not your fault

nitsua_rela_ · 2019-06-02T10:26:06+00:00

Were here for you

SlainFunicle · 2019-06-02T12:38:31+00:00

If your own families and friends will believe strangers without proof you don't need them on most occasions you believe your friend or your family aim for fitness and wealth, it would be nice to get so rich you could buy that coffee shop and fire them but only if the coffee shop will make money.

DT1726 · 2019-06-02T12:13:42+00:00

You can't argue with stupids.

shun2311 · 2019-06-02T12:25:58+00:00

Good thing that you cut off the loose ends. I am still grateful that my mother respects me as the sole man in the family and isn't tainted by all this Feminist bushit, its good to be Asian lol

HereWeGoAgainTJ · 2019-06-02T12:33:03+00:00

Fake wedding ring. Keeps most thots away, but attracts the big ones like whoah. It's a common urban adaptation.

Cypher20011309 · 2019-06-02T07:32:00+00:00

Amen, hope you have some peace now.

MenGoToJupitorToGTOW · 2019-06-02T07:44:25+00:00

Gj man. Im learning to keep my mouth shut about this stuff. I've been lucky with the people I've told so far but it's needs to stop. Actions and results are greater than words.

Drakenvan01 · 2019-06-02T07:53:04+00:00

Your happiness and peace at mind matter most. Expect them to try and push themselves back into your life by any means necessary. Sometimes you just got to cut people out of your life even family. Longer they're out better you'll feel.

PredaFR · 2019-06-02T14:38:10+00:00

The hardest choices requires the strongest wills. Stay strong brother!

_n1codemus · 2019-06-02T15:12:49+00:00

Dudes here often forget that moms and sisters are also women, so naturally part of AWALT.

EfficientBadger · 2019-06-02T16:14:21+00:00

Good for you man, it sucks to lose family but it's your happiness vs having them in your life. If they are going to believe some random Cunt over you then you have to cut them lose.

I'm sorry for the death of a relationship, even if it isn't a good one it still hurts to lose one. But like you said burden was lifted because all you have to worry about it yourself.

thatnoisyeater · 2019-06-02T14:01:58+00:00

After taking a decision always believe that, that is the best decision you could have taken.

ThatCard · 2019-06-02T15:05:40+00:00

Onwards and upwards.

[deleted] · 2019-06-02T15:12:34+00:00

Congrats!

I think you did the right thing. Enjoy being more drama-free and less miserable.Don't forget that you do not owe them anything by default, you are just related to those people by coincidence, not by choice.

You do not owe them any more loyalty than they were willing to give you.

TryDoingSomethingNew · 2019-06-02T15:44:18+00:00

Well done. I know it's very hard to cut someone out of your life (especially family) but they've shown you their real honest personalities and their priorities.

Sadly, they've made it clear negative ideas are more important than you, their own son and brother.

There are certain people in the world that cannot be reasoned with and will NEVER be humbled, admit fault, and get their priorities right. You just learned a hard but valuable lesson.

I no longer hesitate to cut out negative people or losers immediately. Getting rid of negative distractions and who would enjoy seeing me, you, or other men be miserable has greatly improved my quality of life.

One more thing: They're never going to feel remorse or apologize sincerely in a way that good, rational people with good hearts would do so don't waste any nights wondering about that.

All the signs are there that they're somewhat warped, callous, and disingenuous women who don't care who they hurt.

More than likely you'll only hear from them to validate themselves or if they need something from you.

Replace that void with positive people who actually care and will improve your life instead.

Stay strong, you've got this! Well done.

LOIKDU · 2019-06-02T16:18:34+00:00

Well done

[deleted] · 2019-06-02T16:45:51+00:00

Well done, brother. Best of luck to you

Vergabot · 2019-06-02T17:52:48+00:00

Just wait a couple of months, people like these never learn, they feel entitled to your time and attention just cause "we're family".

A long time ago i cut ties with my late father's side of the family, bunch of narcissistic entitled toxic assholes, and it was the best decision i could've made.

Stay strong OP, and remember, someone that doesn't bring positive or good things, shouldn't be considered family.

FindingKeeping · 2019-06-02T17:58:33+00:00

You are the CEO of your life. You decide who stay who doesn't

pangolin001 · 2019-06-02T18:34:31+00:00

It's amazing how women go through life hardly questioning anything. They are sheep. When they ask a question it wouldn't be "what do you mean he has controversial opinions? give me an example? why do you think thats weird"

Instead it feeds the gossip. It's more like "What did he say... wow, he sad that? Yeah, he's weird." They can't stand 'confrontation'.They can't stand it so much that they seem to avoid 'offending' the cunt in front of them because in that moment they played her game. And they'd throw any man under a bus before offending on of their fellow sheep. And then it's their own damn son. They are so fucked. Sorry man. But you're better off.

MethaCat · 2019-06-02T20:08:44+00:00

It's very important to make the best of this time to meditate brother. Else you'll just return to your old patterns once you receive a call or two.

Pooddit · 2019-06-02T20:22:33+00:00

I had to cut my mother and sister off too. Even if someone is 75% good to you, if that 25% is bad enough, you have to take the losses of the good and cut them out of your life.

All women, even your family, must be held to a standard of respect. If they don't, then they go. The women in my family use emotional manipulation. They try and keep me weak so I am dependent on them for emotions and direction (needs). They try and control my thinking and feeling with their words, actions, and facial contortions. They try and gate-keep happiness by forcing their version of happiness onto me and guiding me there, and the consequences of not doing so is to feel like I am resisting happiness. But they don't control it. I deny what they want me to do, I deny the false smiles, then I go home and happily play with my dog or some other activity that I actually enjoy, of my own choosing, still in full control of my own thoughts, feelings, and emotions. They emasculate me in the eyes of others, when I don't do what they want, or I am a simp and let them control me. They DO NOT CONTROL THE NARRATIVE. Understand that to win, you disengage. Never engage. Accept that they are strong and smart, steer clear of these jagged rocks and continue course.

Zombocom1911 · 2019-06-02T21:40:26+00:00

it's really no big loss. all they really care about ultimately is what you can provide for their benefit.

alexforlife · 2019-06-02T17:32:22+00:00

All women are like this. It’s best to not cut yourself off from people who talk behind your back. You might need to interject and it’s best to know what they’re saying. I know it’s satisfying and I did it to my mom for a few years but it’s best to keep them close but not too close. You have to just learn to strike that nice balance and to not let yourself get too involved.

Tyler789228 · 2019-06-02T18:49:40+00:00

Good for you.

OniiChanStopNotThere · 2019-06-02T22:23:45+00:00

As much as it sucks, mothers are women too and will act like how females act.

Hazardean · 2019-06-02T23:42:46+00:00

I’m pretty close to having to dump my brother out of my life too, all he does is try to manipulate me and never helps my mother around the house despite never leaving his room. This has definitely helped inspire me, thank you!

[deleted] · 2019-06-03T02:52:09+00:00

Men need to start doing this. And why not? Other people will toss you the moment you stop being beneficial so do the same.

Buchwild · 2019-06-03T03:20:37+00:00

Wishing you the best friend

Atton_Risk · 2019-06-03T04:45:25+00:00

They are traitors deal with them as such

MayonaiseH0B0 · 2019-06-03T13:11:01+00:00

If your mom wasn’t willing to defend your character you should defend hers to yourself. Also you should tell you mom that it’s JUST COFFEE. Her job isn’t shit and nether are the women who work there. It’s only a job and There are a million coffee shops to go to but only one son. They’re not a CEO or anyone you have to impress. You could also call in and report them since you were working for free and not employed. Then everyone loses their job. You don’t have to do it but you should definitely mention it to be an option so that your mother and the other coffee cows hear about it.

pizzaservant · 2019-06-02T10:27:49+00:00

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jhooperp · 2019-06-02T08:38:05+00:00

Dude I’m all for people going their own way and everything but this sounds different.

It sounds like you’re upset with your mom and sister and I think the best thing to do is talk to them. At the end of the day they are your mom and sister, your family.

Unless they did something really awful, your mom and sister and anyone else in your family shouldn’t just be ignored for forever. Get the space you need then talk with them about what upset you. If they really don’t care and laugh it off then by all means. But I don’t think that’s what they really wanted. A mom most likely cares for her son and will listen especially if she knows how you feel.

Talk with them and work it out. The only women in your life that most likely cares for you is basically your mother and sisters (and again, if they really don’t care and just laugh it off like it’s nothing after you tell them how it made you feel then by all means cut them out).

Title	Removed my mother and sister from my life for good
Author	alexforlife
Upvotes	284
Comments	91
Date	June 2, 2019 7:26 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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