Guilt for being bullied for years (and disrespected) and not defending myself

innerissuesorjail · 2019-05-29T08:44:31+00:00

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chadsvasc · 2019-05-29T10:27:22+00:00

So with every situation in life you can decide what to take away from it.

Use these experiences to learn. Grow. Make yourself into a better, more improved version of yourself.

Gsp(one of the greatest MMA fighters of all time) started Martial arts because he was bullied. He later blossomed into one of the most Savage, technical fighters ever in the sport.

Be like gsp. Use it as fuel to learn. To improve. To grow.

AeternusDoleo · 2019-05-29T12:10:24+00:00

Those who live in the past, have no future. You cannot change what was. Instead of shame (the fear instinct) trigger resolve (the fight instinct) and ensure that NO ONE will ever bully you again - be they man or woman - at the cost of their well being. There is no shame in lashing out at that which is willingly hurting you.

2019-05-29T20:30:26+00:00

It will not. Stop tolerating bullying today. Let no man disrespect you without having to pay for it.

My motto now is: if you're going to disrespect me, get out of your car (or whatever), come say it to my face and risk choking on your teeth. I'm willing to risk an ass kicking for my own self respect, you had better be willing to risk receiving one if you are going to disrespect me.

yokai_e1even · 2019-05-29T08:35:15+00:00

A sentiment I can relate too. Looking back and looking at all the times I let others walk over me I am greeted with nothing but shame. But fear not. What we lose in the past can always be paid tenfold in the future. You tolerate no bullies, no submission, no disrespect. To you, you are highest priority and top dog. No one else. And no woman or simp can take that from you.

shatterthecrystal63 · 2019-05-29T12:01:57+00:00

Nah it goes away. Speaking from experience, I was fucked with all the way up until I was a senior (relatively). Stuck up for myself a few times and it never came to fists flying; I was always taught to let them swing first and they never did.

Eventually you stop giving a shit about what others think. If someone has a problem, let them swing first. Once they do, weapons free and fuck em up.

mgtowguy2 · 2019-05-29T14:03:08+00:00

Understand. I was very much the same.

It took a lot of years but I got over it by concentrating on myself. Making myself a better man.

I got a good STEM education which led to jobs with real responsibility. I worked out and got fit physically. I took martial arts which helped toughen me mentally.

Just keep moving forward. Keep occupied enough in the here and now that it hardly occurs to you to look back.

Just my two cents.

Zachjsrf · 2019-05-29T14:30:36+00:00

I was bullied as a child by my father physically and verbally, then mom divorced him and I was bullied and emotionally abused by her, bullied throughout school before I chin checked the guy and that ended, got kicked out of home after joining the military and was bullied by command, bullied in jobs by my supervisors etc. I finally broke the cycle but holy shit when you're conditioned to be a doormat it is fuckin difficult. Now I give no fucks and for the most part have become more aggressive to people who try to fuck with me.

Having the No fucks given attitude helps, having the willingness to fight someone even if I may lose helps. No one fucks with me anymore.

iseehot · 2019-05-30T11:22:10+00:00

Guilt is based on the past. Do you want to live in the past?

innerissuesorjail · 2019-05-30T01:47:03+00:00

May I ask your age?

innerissuesorjail · 2019-05-31T06:10:41+00:00

OP, it's often better not to defend yourself; cowardice is underrated and survival is nice.

Title	Guilt for being bullied for years (and disrespected) and not defending myself
Author	innerissuesorjail
Upvotes	21
Comments	22
Date	May 29, 2019 8:32 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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