I'm divorced. I find I switch between two minds often when recollecting WTF happened.
"She" divorced me. But "they" created the set of laws that enabled "her" to do so very easily. "They" are AWALT, but "she" kept many of those traits hidden, intentionally or not, for many many years. "They" created the MeToo movement, but "she" didn't accuse me falsely of rape. "She" left to live the independent life "she" thought "she" was owed, because "they" promised it over and over everywhere "she" looked.
From her perspective, life was going to be so much better without this oppressive husband-thing legally attached to her. And after seeing how easy it was going to be, just some paperwork to file at the courthouse, freedom would be hers.
Of course, it didn't turn out that way for her. Real life sucked. She's struggling to get and keep a job. She's in debt to her sister for housing her. She's often asking me for cash (child's support advances, etc.) Barely a social life and very few luxuries. Hardly a thriving life.
I wouldn't know anything about MGTOW, TRP, MRA, PUA, Incels, AWALT, the true nature of feminism, and on and on, if it weren't for the divorce, which she initiated under the influence of the promise of female Utopia. Up until then, we had a strong nuclear family, including three children.
Now, I hate "them" and see how "they" brainwashed "her". But I can't ever reconnect with "her" because "she" still thinks "she" made the right decision. (Can't go backwards on something THAT big, right? Gotta keep face. Don't want to look like an idiot. i.e. there is no social support to acknowledge the mistake and repair the relationship.)
So, gentlemen, go your own way. This tide is too deep worry about an individual woman. "They" have done such an excellent job infecting and enabling the female masses (and vast numbers of men), that good people are tossing away decades of their lives for the propaganda promise of something impossible.
I'm left picking up the pieces of what's left to build again.
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She asks, I don't pay. She waits for the next month.
I'm not trying to fix anything either. Just observing the situation a little more objectively and trying to share a warning for the older gents here.
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Eat. Pray. Love. I hate that movie.
"Stale" after 20+ years. Like you, never cheated, never gambled, never missed paying any bill we owed, got us completely out of debt, all money was joint so it was completely transparent. That was the base survival part. We took regular vacations as a family. And even had a couple of "perfect romantic getaways" in the year before she filed. I still don't get it. But then, I'm not a woman.
Never again.
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Thanks. 20+ here. Yep, I supported her every time she wanted to change jobs, or stay at home, or start a new business, or take some training.
Still stunned that I'm building my life from scratch in my 50s.
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