My wife and I have been married for over 10 years, together close to 15. We have several children.
Ever since we moved in together I have made her (and eventually our kids when we were blessed with them) pancakes every Saturday morning. The only time I’ve not done so is when I’ve been seriously sick or away on business. I’ll wake up at 7 and make a big pancake breakfast, honey roasted nuts, bacon etc. My father did the same thing and so it’s kind of a family tradition in some sense (not really though as my siblings have not carried it on).
About 1-2 weeks ago my wife told me that she would be going on a “sex strike” that her feminist-mom group was organising (a Facebook group where moms get together to promote feminism/organise protests).
Now I’ve never been a political person. I just want to live a happy life with my family and nothing more, but I try to be supportive of my wife since this stuff is important to her, and I’m not informed on any of this political stuff.
But this just seemed wrong to me. Ofcourse she’s not obligated to have sex with me, but it seemed like she is trying to punish me for something I haven’t done. It really sat wrong with me. After a few days I asked if the sex strike was still something she wanted to do, and she reaffirmed so.
My response was to go on pancake strike. For the first time in our entire marriage (absent sickness or being away) my family did not awake to pancakes. They were very upset.
On the surface I think I haven’t done anything wrong. But on further reflection I think I might be the asshole because:
Not supporting something that’s important to my wife
Ruining a pseudo family tradition
Punishing my kids to get back at my wife
The judgement given here will determine whether my family wakes up to pancakes tomorrow. I will not contest or argue with anyone’s points.
Thank you
Edit: based on current feedback I will make pancakes for my kids. But I’m still on the fence about my wife. So keep that in mind when posting/upvoting judgements.
[–]throwaway1239484710 points11 points12 points (2 children) | Copy Link
Holy shit those comments are cancer. Yeah, it sucks for his kids, but oh well. They'll survive a few weeks without pancakes. On the other hand, that marriage without sex might not. Who am I kidding, this cuck will just start posting on deadbedrooms about his wife's new live in boyfriend in a few months.
[–]bigbadmars1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Right - who cares about the kids and their prediabetes. This “no sex” movement is going to totally backfire. What happens when the “strike” is over and the wives still aren’t putting out? Now there’s no plausible deniability. Additionally I find it funny that the wife’s “conjugal embrace” is not worth a $3 short stack in this guy’s mind.
[–]throwaway123948470 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Hahaha, I hadn't thought of that.
[–]BadassGT-CS5 points6 points7 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Soooo glad that is not my life!! Goddamn!!
[–]1Badshot4 points5 points6 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I match your "sex strike" and raise you "I am fucking your sister tonight".
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points (1 child) | Copy Link
I can't believe he actually thinks he might be the asshole. This whole sex strike thing doesn't make any sense at all, let alone for a married woman. All you're doing is punishing your own husband and hurting your own marriage, you aren't doing anything positive at all. And yet, this guy thinks he might be the asshole. Jesus fucking Christ, this dude is so cucked. I could understand feeling bad that your kids are missing out but, "Not supporting something that’s important to my wife" good God, just the fact that your wife even remotely cares about that shit shows what kind of woman she is. I just, I can't believe how cucked and manipulated men are now.
[–]Buchwild0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
The fact he questions himself is truly sad 💔
[–]Scorpiontail2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
So silly, try this instead: "You're right, honey. I think I'll go on strike, too...at least for you...there are plenty of other attractive women out there. Bye!"
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
That's why slapping your wife sometimes can be beneficial for the family.
[–]Ric-Fleur-1 points0 points1 point (0 children) | Copy Link
Perfect opportunity for the sucker to go find some strange but instead he’s a square and talking about fuckin pancakes like a little punk. I bet he wears a dress when he makes them too. He the type of dude who only fucks missionary I bet anyway so his hoe prolly just wants to find another dude on the sneak tip and is cucking him with some stupid protest as an excuse.