Do you feel like women are evil, they use you, they go towards bad boys, they give you a hard time? I cannot disprove that, and after the last failure a few months ago, I came upon the realization. The answer made me sad, but also gave me a burst of energy because now I know.

Men, we are programmed by the Society, by the Religion on a bullshit called Love. Every media, from movies to songs talks about Love. And we believe that Love is real, that Love is a noble thing to do, that Love is what women want. From the moment we got in years where we could understand things, Love is on our mind. Parents love us. Friends love us. Lovers love us. That is not true, all there is, are hormones in our body.

And there we go, believing in love, believing that if we show a woman how much we love her that she will be happy and she will accept our love. And we do it, and we actually get denied from love, or used for some time until she is bored or we are not of use.

And we are searching for answers. Why is that so? What is wrong with us? Do we not look good enough, have not enough money, we aren't popular enough, tall enough? Why do women say they want a good man, but when they get one we are put into a friend zone and she fucks Chad?

Well, guys here is the reality:

We are not in love when we meet a woman. She is beautiful, she is attractive, we feel a connection, and we confuse it with love. Those are just our male urges happening, not love. Because we are visual creatures, our eyes are our enemies, and we confuse the urge to fuck girl, as the feeling that we are in love. Yes, I understand, she is at that moment perfect, the best date we ever had, it is amazing how much we have in common. But that is all, be real.

Women, they do not feel "love" we do so early. As early as the first date. What she feels are just answers to her questions: "Is he a man worthy of having?" That is all guys, that question is all they have and all they seek is the answer.

The "worthy" comes in many shapes: Can he take care of me? (does he have resources?). Can he make my life more fun? (entertainment value). Is he a desirable man? (I don't want a man that others do not want, cuz that means he does not have a value) Can I trust him? (can I trust him that he only wants me?.

And that last part is the fucked up one. Can I trust him that he only wants me? The answer many of us would say is: "yes, ofc, I only want you."

But the problem is...they DON'T want to hear about it unless you have other women wanting you! Crazy right? Basically, women need A LOT more time to hear about it! And that time comes after they have seen you really want only her, and not other women that you also date. It is crazy.

If you show a woman you want her and love her too soon (that can last for few months of dating), she will see you as a needy guy that has no other options in life. If you present yourself as a good man, that will take care of her, that can buy her things to make her happy etc. she will not really like it. She will just use it for it.

But what happens if she is not sure if you like her? If you act like a Chad? What does Chad do? Chad has many women, he goes from one to another, he dates many girls at a time, he doesn't really love. And women love that. Women like to feel like they earned your love, like they stole you from all other girls, and now you in her web. She won! She is the best woman out there!

Fucked up right? You see, we men would like to have just one woman and be with one woman as soon as we like her. There is nothing wrong with that. But everything wrong on their mind.

And that is the realization I have. Now, when I do not care about women as much, I go on a date and just have fun with them. I do not message them, I only talk to them in real life. Basically, I put as much as 90% less of a work I did before. And they like me more. I am suddenly a mysterious guy! I am a guy that has plenty of options and they want me to be their only choice. Very entertaining to see that. Because basically, I am at the point where I have a vibe: if you do not want to meet me, that is okay, I will just go to one that wants to meet me. I am not afraid to lose a woman anymore, I do not care if they do not want to see me after a 1st date. And them feeling that is the best aphrodisiac for them.

I am very sad to see that. I feel like women just do not love. Even the good ones. I can use women but they do not care about being used. Not at the beginning. They ask me, if I like them, they ask me when to meet, they ask me are we a thing now. I stopped doing all of that. All those emotions, messages, plans I would have with them. I let them take care of those things. Then they think it is their idea to be in a relationship and they love it.

They are like little brats. The moment they feel they can't have something if the moment they want something and will do everything they can to get it. The moment they feel they can have everything, they will use it the best they can until it is of no use to them. 90% of women are like that. Maybe even more, maybe less, I don't care about the exact % but it does feel like that.

And it is the constant play for them. The constant need to feel needed! If you tell them every day, or too early that you want them, they do not fucking want you anymore. If they are guessing do you want them, they will ask you, they will cry, the will make a drama, but they will fucking "love" you.

I talk with my father with things. He is 65, few months until retirement. He lost his wife and I lost my mom 14 years ago. He was with other women, dating them for some time, and at some moment he just didn't care anymore. He wanted to have someone to share a life with together when he is older when his kids are no longer living with him. But he realized he does not need it as much as he thought he wanted. He wants his piece, he wants to be able to come home and just relax. He does not want to explain himself, he does not want drama. He does not feel like going out just because someone else wants to go out. He has 2-3 good friends and he goes out when he wants and feels like it. He socializes and talks with others when we have a need.

He is a very religious person and as such, I was very surprised to see his change. He is tired of women. He says they more-or-less just use men, that at the beginning they will help him out (ex. taking care of him and his little children who lost their mother) but at some moment in time, few months down the road or a year or two, they will just stop doing it. I literally heard many times a woman he dated telling him that why should they do ironing, why is he looking at them like a woman is supposed to do that (basically, implying that he is sexist).

He didn't really have a problem with women. There was no woman that divorced him and took his kids away or house/money. And yet, he does not want to share his life with a woman under the same roof. He does want to be a grandparent, and he would like for me to find a good woman.

But he understands me. He understands my problem of finding a woman that is capable of loving. And until then, I told him, I will not think about having a serious relationship, kids or marriage. Because I also like a piece, and all those things he said he likes.

I am still young, and I do feel lonely without a woman. I want a woman, and I do want love. I believe it has something with me losing a mother at such young days, that is why I was so needy, just wanted a woman to love me, to hug me, to even take care of me. I admit that.

But I do understand now. And even if I do not like it, I accept it. Women are just for fun, so if love. For too long I was too serious about a love, too serious about meeting a standard that society and entertainment media teach us. Too serious about a life.

Now I do what I want. I can't do everything I want now. I still need to find a job and start my real career. But the time I have I put into learning skills for my career, into my hobbies (I freaking love playing guitar, even if it is only for me and I will never be a rock star, but who knows!). I see women as the entertainment value. And they love that! They think I am mysterious, that I do not care and that they will change that.

Does it feel like I am not being honest with myself? It does. Because I want that love. It is hard ignoring it, but it is a must. If my father could live without a woman under the same roof for 14 years, I can do the same. Until there comes that rare one. But even then, guys, there is a big difference now.

Because...they have to earn my trust and my love. They have to show me their value. And I do not plan on being a needy guy anymore. Having just one date? Fuck that, I will not limit myself anymore and will just date as much as I want at a time. Because...guys, they want a guy who is with many women, and they want him only for himself.

Tldr. I don't do it, read or don't read, no hard feelings!