Just a vent

CiceroVoltaire · 2018-10-19T19:42:27+00:00

Not sure what to say, but here it goes.

Keep your emotions and desires in control as best you can. Understand their (women's) nature, and use it to protect yourself from it. Don't let yourself become emotionally invested. Armed with this mindset, you keep your mind, logic, emotions under the control of your will. You won't let a woman's actions control or effect you, act or become indifferent, impervious to them. Separate what you think and feel from what you express.

I tell my son because you feel anger, sadness, pain, hurt, does not mean you have to show it or express it. You can only control yourself, how you act, how you choose to react to the actions of others. You can't control what they say or do, but you can control how you react and let it effect you, or not, and to what degree.

Learn to be in control of yourself. All men have this power of will and strength inside of us. You need to find it, connect to it, develop it and master it.

Perhaps for mind, spirit, emotion and body, look into teachings of Stoicism or Buddhism?

You are all you need. Believe in yourself, find your inner strength and will.

rebelde_sin_causa · 2018-10-19T20:16:26+00:00

You're unlikely to get emotional support from a woman. As far as she is concerned, you are there to provide emotional support to her, not the other way around. What you get from her is pussy. The question is how much is that worth to you?

BanyoBill · 2018-10-19T19:44:09+00:00

Good start. But you're still into her because you're writing about her. When you don't think about her anymore you will feel even better. Sounds just like a situation I dealt with from my mid 20s to my early 30s. I would have little 3 month breaks here and there then get sucked backed into her bullshit when she 'needed' me again. I lost years. Good ones.

Recognize that she is still living rent free in your head right now and that you are not in the clear yet.

Good luck.

TCM-black · 2018-10-19T19:41:55+00:00

r/https://www.amazon.com/Love-Limerence-Experience-Being/dp/0812862864

Go read it. Then read it again. Then contemplate the implication, and read it again.

There is no concrete thing "love", it is an abstract notion that is highly subjective. Learn to remove it from your vocabulary, and replace it with more representative terms. Do you want a girl to be infatuated with you? Do you want a girl to admire and respect you? Do you want a girl to jump your bones? Each of these have different paths to take, and have their own difficulties to overcome; some may not even be possible.

Vague ambiguities and purposeful direct language are contrary ways of speaking that change not only how others perceive you, but in how you think and construct ideas yourself.

"she missed an opportunity of an amazing dude that would've treated her like a queen bur oh well". Many women don't want to be treated how you think they'd get most benefit. What did you really lose? If you lost a women who had no ability to judge a good man from trash, what does it say about her character? You lost your opportunity to have someone that has no virtuous merit; you lost nothing of value.

When you start acting in a way that distinctly projects your character and intent, then anyone you "lost" was of no value to begin with. It's also a very solitary path to lead, because people do not want to have a giant spotlight shined on them.

Title	Just a vent
Author	SpaceRivals
Upvotes	0
Comments	4
Date	October 19, 2018 7:33 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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