Starting from scratch, I have three kids from 2 old relationships and I refuse flat out to be some kind of babysitter to enable their ways.

Well about 6 weeks ago, W moved in because his baby mother had slept with someone else and basically kicked him out, with only the clothes on his back, Well I like people, so I helped him out, he's overweight and I do calisthenics so he begged to be a part of it, and committed for 4days, because he has to go to his exes every weekend. OK let's get to it,

cus he eats rubbish, I start to include him at meal times but it quickly becomes apparent all he cares about is his phone, every two seconds it's a text from her, Ive got to go here, take the kids, I want to go to town with my friend, grab the kids,

He's never here,

For example yesterday we worked out for maybe 40mins, he had to go to the bank for his mum, then walk 45mins there and back TWICE, before just not bothering to tell me he wasn't coming back.

Then this morning I message him like every day, "shall we do this?" No reply, huh?

He's still not back and it's dinner time, so I call him, "Where you at?" "oh well, I had to pop out this early morning, one of the kids is sick?" I say nothing, just hang up. I know it's lies because I deadbolted the door at half 7 last night.

I can't find a way to him to let him "see" that those kids are nothing but a weight around his plums that she'll tug on anytime he wants something.

He told her he was going for a drink with an old school mate, female, she responded by bleaching his clothes and threatening him with everything from drowning the kids, to blocking him, accusing him of his know what?

But this hasn't made him think God this woman's finds destroy me, I got to escape,

Instead the phone buzzes and hes on it, "oh I best reply quick, otherwise......"

But texts from anyone else, he just puts it back down, do it later.

He's whipped and he's not even getting anything, but grief.

She has had boyfriends, late night visitors and one kid asked him "when daddy's coming back?"

I guess the real question is do I just let him do his own thing and leave him to struggle through it, stop throwing effort against the wall so to speak?

Time for me to do me abs and lower body.

Stay free lads, it's a war against masculinity, the only way we can win is by teaming up and proving our place.