I'm 35, she's 31. I've been with my ex for 9 years and married for 5 of those 9 years. No kids. We recently decided to get divorced after I found out she cheated on me on a work conference trip 2 months ago and she found out I cheated on her on a trip to Japan 7 months ago, so I moved out a couple weeks ago and we are currently discussing splitting the finances. Haven't started the divorce paperwork yet. We've been meeting up for dinner and/or drinks once or twice per week over the topic of finances. She says I'm much nicer now that we're separated. Anyways...is it OK to fuck my ex even though we've decided to split? Neither of us are seeing other people. Have any of you had success getting with your ex for sex after you've already split? Is it a bad idea?