Just take this in the context of how nice it is to not be worried about pursuing women right now, because it's a total shit show of disingenuous thinking at the moment.

Original article for citation:

https://theblog.okcupid.com/feminism-in-dating-its-not-about-making-the-first-move-but-having-the-choice-f4f2891dd4c9

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And the exact quote:
" But there is an outdated idea that all self-identified feminists feel and act the same way and that part of being a feminist means wanting to throw all traditional gender roles, including those that apply to dating, out the window. Is this actually true? Our data shows that it’s not, and that instead, most women who are bonafide feminists are still very open to being pursued — as long as they have choice. "

Followed up with:
" Of course, our data also shows that women making the first move can be a good thing: women who send the first message are 2.5 times more likely to get a response than men who do the same. But on OkCupid, we know that our users don’t always want to have to make the first move — because they’ve told us, and so we respect that. As Stiller says, “You’re absolutely allowed to be one way with you career or other areas of your life, and another with your romantic life.” "

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It's pretty amazing the mental gymnastics people have to go through to justify the behavior of women. Stay out of it, disconnect from this rat race. It's not worth it.