“Grant me the courage to accept the things I cannot change,

The courage to change the things I can,

And the wisdom to know the difference.”

Why Are You Angry?

I love women. I love meeting them, spending time with them, getting to know them and, of course, having all kinds of wild sex with them. I accept them as they are and don't get mad when they act like, well, women.

When you first start swallowing The Red Pill, it's easy to get angry at women – convenient, too. It's easier to blame women than to blame yourself for not understanding them. When you expect them to act in a way that's consistent with your (blue pill) worldview and they don't, you get frustrated. And when you eventually realize that your worldview was wrong the whole time, you get pissed.

But it doesn't really make sense to get angry at women. Would you get mad at a child for acting childish? Of course not. It would be unrealistic to expect a child to act like anything other than a child.

I think a lot of guys mistakenly expect women to act like men. This isn't surprising, with all the equality talk that society throws around. But the truth is, men and women aren't equal – we're quite different. We think differently, feel differently, and behave differently, with different needs and desires.

Once you accept these differences, you're free to let go of your anger and appreciate women for what they are. You don't have to be bitter and resentful. You don't have to be angry. Once you accept and understand women as they actually are, you can really start to enjoy their company in a meaningful way.

Sometimes, The Truth Hurts

And sometimes, it just sucks. Does any guy want to believe that women are opportunistically-driven, self-centered, solipsistic creatures who would rather fuck an arrogant douche bag than a kind, caring nice guy? Of course not. I know I didn't.

I, like many of you, wanted women to be what I thought they were: gentle, loyal, comforting creatures who made relationship decisions based on experience and rationality. But if you take an honest and objective look around, you'll quickly realize that this simply isn't the case.

Women are the way that they are. They're not going to change on their own and there's nothing you can do to change them. The only thing you can change is your own mind. This leaves you with three choices:

  1. Denial – You can deny that you were wrong about women. You can just keep believing that women are the way you want them to be, the way you've always imagined them, in spite of overwhelming evidence to the contrary.
  2. Anger – You can accept that you were wrong about women, that they are the way that they are, but continue to blame them for not being what you want them to be.
  3. Embracement – You can accept and embrace women as they actually are.

Embrace The Truth

When you first learn and accept the truth about women, your expectations change. Once you begin to understand their true nature, you no longer have to deal with the same frustration and anger you once did. You start expecting women to behave realistically and they don't disappoint.

By taking things one step further beyond acceptance and actually embracing the way women are, you put yourself in a position to start creating meaningful relationships with them. With an accurate understanding of women, you'll be better able to meet not only your needs but also theirs.

As I said, I love spending time with women and I always have. I no longer see them as the mythical, mysterious, pedestalized princesses that I once-upon-a-time did, but I enjoy their company even more now than ever before.

By accepting women as they are, you'll be able to attract a lot more of them. No surprises here – this is the focus of most Red Pill posts. By embracing the way women are, you'll be able to develop deeper, more meaningful relationships.

Mind you, they won't be the comfortable, effortless blue pill relationships you'd once dreamed of. Those relationships don't actually exist outside of romantic comedies. They don't even exist inside the minds of women.

I now write sci-fi and fantasy novels, but I got my start in the publishing world writing romance novels and erotic short stories (two popular and lucrative genres). That experience gave me even more insight into the feminine mind than I already had.

Romance novels are the ultimate female fantasy. Girl meets boy, they fall in love, no one cheats, and they stay together happily forever. Sounds, on the surface, like a typical blue pill fantasy – but it's not.

The men in these books are dominating, controlling, and powerful. They objectify, grope, and tease the female lead characters relentlessly. Women don't want meek, passive, nice guys – you know, the kind of guys they say they want. They want a man who's in charge, a man who isn't afraid to take them by the hand and lead the way – all the way.

When you embrace this reality, when you start to understand what it is that women really want, you can actually start to give it to them.

Give 'Em What They Want

I love making women happy and always have. What I haven't always done is known how to make women happy – really happy. I used to think, like many of you, that being nice and doing things for women was the way to make them happy. It's not.

There's something so beautiful and satisfying about making a woman really happy. Those of you who have done it know what I'm talking about. You make a woman feel so good that it changes the way she walks and the way she talks. When she's around you, her voice gets higher and she moves as if she's floating on air. She hangs on your every word with wide eyes and an intent smile. She's at her best and she's happier than ever – and it's all because of you.

That's what's possible when you embrace the way women are – when you embrace The Red Pill, treating it like a blessing rather than a curse. You become able to give women exactly what they want – what they've always wanted. And in doing so, you'll get them to treat you the way you've always wanted. Both of your needs will be met in ways they never could've been had you never swallowed The Pill.

Conclusion

A lot of guys become angry when they first start learning about The Red Pill. They blame women for being the way that they are when, if anything, they should be blaming themselves for not figuring things out sooner.

While you're welcome to cling onto that anger, letting it keep you bitter and lonely, you don't have to. If you allow yourself to accept and eventually embrace the way things are, doors open, birds sing, and the heavens align.

Things are the way that they are and there's nothing you or anyone else can do to change that. Though I'm not at all religious, the serenity prayer – the quote at the top – comes to mind.

Accept what you cannot change: The way women and relationships actually work (The Red Pill).

Change what you can: Your beliefs, attitudes, expectations and the way you treat women.

Know the difference: You're not gonna change her but you can change yourself.

Take care and be well!