She only listens to what i have to say for example i have a nice story i wanna tell and then she'll listen with like 40% of her attention maybe pushing 50% and then she'll be like oh yeah fun and ask me to do something she doesn't want to do.

Or she'll ignore me all fucking day and only when she needs something done she'll like start up a conversation and eventually be like oh i still need to do that, at wich point i mostly walk away but she will still be like let's do this together (wich means you'll do everything and i will lift the least heavy thing and also pretend like i'm doing something while holding it so you'll move some more things in the meantime.) there are so many more things but as a kid you don't expect your mother to do this sort of stuff to you, now i'm redpilled i can see things clearly, i still help her now and again cause it's still my mother obviously but damn can't believe my stepdad puts up with this shit.