Growing up i've spent most of my time with my mother, as my father was at work most of the time to provide for his family. The time he was at home i never had the feeling my mom and dad loved eachother and are merely married because of me and my sister.

As time goes by , growing older, my dad retiring and spending most of His time at home i more and more noticed how verbally abusive my mother is towards him. They are married now for 30 years, slept in seperate bedrooms for the Last 10 years and dont show any signs of love for eachother. My mom basically is bullying my dad nonstop, treats me worse than my sister (gets help with everything, whereas i have to deal and figure shit Out myself etc.) And so on. Therefore for me marriage was never on the Table, and my dad also always told me to never repeat his mistakes (he's pushing 70 now for him it is too late to change things), so early on it was clear to me that i need to go my own way.

My question now is, what was your relationship to your mother etc. like? Did you make similar experiences early on that made you realize how women can ruin your life ? How do you think of your parents relationship now? (Please forgive me for my english as i'am not a native speaker)