The hypocrisy of anti-feminists who say feminism is "man-hating"

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This is probably the most common reason I see for the opposition of feminism these days. In pop culture feminism has become synonymous with man-hating. You can see this just by going on the comments section of any "neutral" news site that has an article on feminism, let's say, BBC News. Often you will see many commenters, even women, saying "All feminists do is hate men. Feminism sucks!"

I'm not going to argue here whether feminism encourages man hating. What I'm going to talk about is how those people who vocally oppose feminism because of its "anti-equality" blatantly ignore The Manosphere.

There are a few subreddits that can be included in the Manosphere. The first is incels. This has been banned, but incels now have discussions elsewhere on the internet. Incels stands for "involuntary celibates". Their ideology states that it is women's fault that these men are virgins. Women are too stupid, selfish and vain to appreciate these fine men for who they really are. They have advocated for all women to become sex slaves and other atrocities. If you want to see some examples of incels in action you can always go to the IncelTears subreddit.

Keep in mind that Reddit allowed this subreddit to be active for years, despite users talking about violence against women. The subreddit was only taken down when a user talked about committing violence against a "Chad" (A Chad is a man that is desired by women).

Another subreddit is MGTOW. This stands for "Men Going Their Own Way". One look at their subreddit will tell you that these people are indeed failing to go their own way. The point is to encourage men to be independent from women and to avoid relationships and marriage with them. This would be fine if they did not spend their days posting misogynistic nonsense and memes on their subreddit. One of their favourite things to do is to post articles of female criminals and circlejerk about how bad women are. Of course, nothing is posted when a male criminal is in the news for being particularly bad.

Finally, The Red Pill is, I would argue, the most misogynistic subreddit. This is a subreddit for pick up artists. These men base their lives around seducing women for the sole purpose of sex. They post about how women are basically children, yet despite this still continue to try and have sex with them; this has pedophilic vibes. They post about how to emotionally abuse women and even physically abuse them, with posts about how to overcome "last minute resistance" during sex (basically rape). This subreddit is so dangerous because it actually encourages men to go outside and talk to women. Their ideology teaches them that women are attracted to awful, misogynistic men. They encourage subscribers to be racist to women of colour because they think that that will seduce them, for example. The subreddit treats women as if they are all a hive mentality and that these pick up techniques will work on all women. In fact, in their own words, AWALT: All Women are Like That.

Keep in mind that the last two subreddits are still up with many subscribers. The content policy of Reddit states that content is prohibited if it is is illegal and encourages/incites violence. Hate speech is undeniably illegal. Additionally, there have been many posts on The Red Pill encouraging men to be non-consensually violent towards their female sexual partners. I don't know what Reddit is thinking in allowing this community to remain active.

I don't think feminism can even begin to compare to these subreddits. It saddens me how feminism has become a joke and that the average person if asked on the street on what their opinion of feminism is might say that it's just "man-hating". Meanwhile the Manosphere is actually misogynistic and I don't see mainstream YouTubers making countless "Rekt MGTOW" compilations. I think that this shows how the idea of a woman hating men is extremely unacceptable, but far right wing men can get away with misogyny. Hatred should not be acceptable, period. If these people genuinely believe that feminist ideology promotes the hatred of men and anti-equality, then they should definitely be outraged at the content that comes out of the Manisphere. I don't see videos being made on Jordan Peterson's blatant sexism but here we have Rekt Feminist Compliation #203 where someone asked for their pronouns to be respected.

One example of a hypocritical person is Ethan from H3H3. I stopped watching his content due to the influx of "Rekt feminist" videos. He frequently talked about how feminism was man hating and how he actually wants equality. He never made any videos on incels or The Red Pill, even though they are more in the mainstream now after Elliot Rodger and similar criminals. He has a podcast where he only invites right wing male YouTubers. He's really showing how much he supports equality there!