Backstory:

Hey guys. TRP has changed my life for the better. I discovered this place about 3 months ago. I'm 18 and I just finished high school. I'm a decent looking guy. I've got a great mission and I've had a growth mindset from a young age.

I met a cute girl about a year ago in one of my classes. Let's call her X. We hit it off nicely. The attraction was clear. I was an accidental alpha at the time. However, deep down I was a beta. I waited too long and I never my a move. She lost interest. We stopped talking and we went out separate ways.

I then met another girl. She was one of the hottest girls at school and she had a sweet personality. I lacked experience and messed everything up. Being perceived as an alpha can only last so long. I had a shitty social life and a toxic beta mindset and that eventually came to light.

I was devastated. It was then that I found TRP. I've read the sidebar and several books recommended here. I have read hours upon hours of theory. What I haven't done enough of, however, is apply what I have learned.

I ran across X a few weeks ago. The vibe was completely different this time. We were both taking part in an event organized by our school. We hung out and we had fun. I messed up once again by not making a move and not making my interest clear.

I saw her at the gym a few days later. I finally made my move and asked her out (this was after she told me she had a crush on one of her coworkers). She gave me a bullshit reason why she couldn't hang out.

Cool. Whatever. Abundance mentality. I said ok and got back to my workout. I focused on myself, went out with friends and hit on other girls. My mistake was that I didn't strike while the iron was hot. I had gone from being her top option to perhaps being her second option. Fuck that.

We got our results from the event. We talked on the phone and I truly had a DGAF attitude. She could sense it. I gave her no validation whatsoever, considering she had left me on read a few weeks ago. I told her I was busy and ended the call quickly.

She texted me a few days ago asking to go to the gym together. I said I couldn't because I was busy. She tried initiating conversation a few times. It was clear that I had gone back to being her top option.

I was in no rush. I was focusing on myself. I'm a busy guy and I've got a mission. I texted her to meet me at the gym a couple days later. She said she couldn't go but that she'd like to see me. I told her, let's hang out this week. She sent me her schedule and her availability.

Problems:

I've never been on a date before. This will be my first. I'm a decent looking guy and I've got social skills. Most people guess my n count to be in the double digits. I definitely carry myself like that. I've got a huge level of self-respect and self-belief.

This is why I still consider myself an accidental alpha. I have no experience whatsoever. I've never even kissed a girl.

I'm not mentally ready for sex. I'm also not physically ready (I've got a problem and I'm figuring it out).

My goal for this date is to have a good time. To escalate. To get my first kiss. The best case scenario is probably a nice make-out. Pretty much the stage right before sex. Honestly, I'm just trying to learn and get better. My expectations shouldn't be too high. This is some good preparation for university.

I've got a shitty social life and I don't really have anyone to talk to about this. My dad is a complete beta as well.

Questions:

  1. What's a good first date? I'm thinking maybe going to the gym and then getting something to eat after? Or maybe going to the bookstore to return some of my books and asking her to come along? Any good ideas?

  2. I just graduated high school and she's a year younger. How far should I go with escalating and kino? We've known each other for a while and it would be a bit odd if I start applying kino all of a sudden.

  3. There's still an element of plausible deniability. In her mind, she doesn't fully know if I'm into her or if I'm asking to hang out as friends. How do I make this clear? When should I go for the kiss? She's clearly into me.

  4. Best excuse not to have sex if she wants to? (Most probably won't go that far, but you never know).

  5. How should I set the date? Call? Text? Tell her to meet me there or pick her up?

Any piece of advice is great. Call me names and tell me I'm being a pussy if you think so. I know many of you deal with way more advanced problems but everyone starts somewhere. I'm at the lowest of the low right now and I'm aware of it.