So here’s my sad story, I’ve been in a relationship for over 20 years and have 4 kids with my partner , oldest is 18 youngest is 9. I am self employed and she supposedly is a artist but she doesn’t make money in fact her art costs me a fortune and the house is overflowing with unwanted and unlovable bits of her art , this didn’t used to be the case as she used to sell a lot of stuff but about five years ago she decided to stop making things people wanted and start making things she wanted to make which is basically Feminist pro woman stuff. She doesn’t show me the slightest affection ever , any physical contact is always instigated by me and she loathes my politics and my opinions and has said many tines if i met you today I’d never had gone out with you. She runs women only FB groups with 10’s thousands members and spends all her free time administering these groups so our evenings are spent with her silently on her phone or iPad and me playing my guitar or doing stuff . About 3 years ago I decided to research feminism and found it abhorrent so I learnt how to debate and argue points by watching YouTube vids of anti feminists so now when she spouts off her dogmatic ideology I have a logical response and I use her arguments against her when I can as well and because I’m clever and adroit I can do this in a way that ruins any thing she says. This has made it even worse but I figured if I’m going to have to deal with this then I might as well have done fun. I’m 53 she’s 45 I’m fit and healthy she’s morbidly obese , I’ve worked all my life , she’s had 2 jobs , one working for her dad for 2 months the other her sister got her a job in the store she managed which lasted 3 weeks , she left because her sister is a bitch and wouldn’t give her preferential treatment , these jobs were both over 25 years ago. Our house is a mess she does hardly any housework and when she does she moans about it constantly , her cooking is shit and she hates cooking so much that the kids ask me to cook all the time so I usually cook as soon as I get in from work in fact anything she does that’s not for herself alone she moans about , she hates everything and hates it when I point that out to her. Wow just actually typing this in bed (I broke a few ribs working last week so I’m resting this week) has been helpful. On the whole I know we’re just together because I love the kids and she prob does too but I’m starting to think I deserve better but my life has been totally about work and family for so long that I have no idea but I know if I left her she would get all our friends support and her groups of fat feminist cat piss smelling cunts on FB would support her whine i would be evil villain. Well I’m that already as when I meet her friends from these groups they ignore me or do something really fakey to me so I know she’s complaining about me online while I gave up all social media as it’s pointless virtue signalling