We've all done it. We've asked questions that we've known the answer to all along. Hell, I still do it. Inside, we're either seeking validation, or we don't have the balls to do what's necessary. Several platforms, such as the askTRP subreddit, serve as; launch pads, if you will, for people to ask what they should do although they know what's necessary to their victory in whatever they may be pursuing in life.

The fact of the matter is, the answers are inside of us and they have been all along. Where's that good old risk-taking spirit that brought civilization to where it is now? It seems that day by day, it dwindles away in all of us. For some, it grows. The following is a simple strategy I instilled into my daily thinking to make life easier for me. It helped me not chase validation, and it helped me reflect inside of myself for answers. It made me more independent and helped me maintain frame.

I'm not in Finance, but it seems to be my understanding that, like many things in life, investing is a gamble. Investors diversify all they can, but at the end of the day, there's still an underlying opportunity for them to lose their money. Some men day trade. The risk is heightened. This same concept follows us down to every single thing that people normally do. Every time you fart, there's an underlying chance that you'll shit your pants. Every time you cross the street, there's a chance that a bus will obliterate you. However, we do these things because we must. We do these things because they are essential for us to live our lives. Most importantly, we do these things because the risk behind them is very low.

If we do these things like second nature, why is it hard for a man to approach a woman? Let's think about this logically: every action has a risk factor to it. On the other side, there is a potential for reward. You have the potential to burn your house down when you spend some time in the kitchen, but the reward side is that you'll have a nice, warm meal to fill your belly.

Now, let's look at something as trivial as approaching a female. You approach 'X' at the bar. You start talking to her. Remember: risk to reward. What are you risking? Will she say no to you? Will she reject you? The only thing that could happen in that case is that your fragile ego is shattered. Boo hoo. Move on. There's literally billions of other females in the world. The reward? This girl is secretly a pornstar and she will fuck your brains out. I mean it. You've never been in pussy like this before.

"BuUuUuUuuUt iT iSnT tHat SiMpLe!!!!!!!!!"

Well, isn't it? What do you really risk when you do something to better yourself? Realistically, if you're in the gym, the worst thing that could happen to you is that you might injure yourself. However, that's only if you're training like an idiot, neglecting important aspects of training like stretching, mobility work, but look at the risk to reward ratio: The risk? You hurt yourself. However, you run the risk of hurting yourself with everything you do. The elevator you take up to your apartment could literally drop at any moment and you'd hurt yourself. Your oven could combust and you could die. However, the rewards reaped from the gym are unlike those of daily activities... Your confidence. Your physical health and appearance.

Certain things in life aren't as clear cut. For example, having an LTR. The margins for the risk to reward ratio there are janky because of the emotions involved. For example, you might think that you've found the one and that she isn't like the others. That immediately removes all of the 'risk' out of the equation. Does that sound logical to you? Let's say she's like the others. You run the risk of getting cheated on, you run the risk of getting her pregnant, and you run a million other risks. You do this because of a chemical imbalance and a little bit of lust. Now, to some people in certain situations, that might be worth it. This is why it's important to search inside of YOURSELF for a lot of these situations.

Next time you're faced with a problem (i.e., should I text her, should I wife her up) physically write a t-chart and make two columns. One for the risk and one for the rewards. You'll get good enough to eventually rationalize things in your head quickly and decisions will be made a lot easier.

Give it a shot.