Oh, my blue pill orbiter days when I would hear something like this from some girl I either fancied or thought at least could casually date and I naively thought to blame the assholes she dated and not her poor repeated choices. What many blue pillers and hopeless romantics miss is the underlying messages within such a statement which when roughly translated means:

  • I'm a very poor judge of character and a serial one at that
  • I obviously prefer bad boys
  • I want you to feel sympathy for me and absolve me of my poor decisions
  • This is a shit test to see if you are an orbiter or a fuckboi
  • If I do decide to date you I will cheat and later dump you for one of my old asshole boyfriends or a new one I just met who gives me tingles and I won't think anything about all the times you let me cry on your shoulders or cuddled next to me when we watched a sad movie that I wanted to watch or how many times you took me to nice restaurants and bought me gifts
  • Not all of them were assholes but I can't blame myself for those relationships falling apart and some of them kicking me out their homes when I refused to cook and clean then cheated on them
  • I need you to blame men and not me because patriarchy or some shit

This kind of statement fells a lot of blue pillers because it plays on their sympathy. Also it plays on their ego as a man. They think those other guys were less than men to have treated her so poorly and that he will show her how a real man treats a lady.

Occasionally, they'll throw in a line about how they are partially to blame and this is when the blue pill falls completely into her trap by saying something like "No, don't blame yourself! It's not your fault! You're an awesome woman (ha! based on what, Einstein?). They just didn't know how to handle someone special like you!"

Guys need to use their damn brains and think if a girl keeps winding up with "assholes" the common factor is her and her fucked up choices and/or dodging of accountability - neither of which is a good scenario.

tl;dr: If girl says she's had a lot of asshole exes, the real problem is her. GYOW and avoid the sucking mire of her emotional swamp.