My mother is a nagging machine (feeling suicidal)

CowardtheCouraglyCat · 2018-07-14T17:38:55+00:00

Focus on one thing- saving money. Once you’ve moved out and are financially independent your world is gonna be beautiful. So stfu with the suicidal shit, don’t acknowledge it, don’t admit it, don’t think about it or talk about it. Just get that money so you can start your life. I’m routing for you, boss!

gone_my_way · 2018-07-14T17:52:04+00:00

Your mum is just treating you like she is biologically wired to treat any male that has been in her proximity for an extended amount of time, she starts to resent your presence. It's nothing personal, that is just how women are like. Leave home, as soon as possible and you'll see she'll start loving you again.
Get a job, even if it's something shit. College degrees are worthless these days.
Never, ever, contemplate killing yourself. Always keep in mind people have been in harder situations than you find yourself in, and they found their way out. Don't give up dude. We're here for you.

Slaide · 2018-07-14T17:40:51+00:00

If you kill yourself, another woman will go on with her life with the belief she can do whatever the fuck she wants.

No. The best way to get revenge is to keep at it, succeed, and then throw it in the face of all the losers who made your life annoying.

You're 22. There are billions of people around your age on this planet who are yet to achieve anything. Stop worrying about it. Just do your best, look for jobs, and you'll get something. The problem is that people try to take far too big steps to try and succeed. Set daily/weekly goals for yourself and stick with them. Yes, even if they sound silly. Most people do not accomplish anything because they either set their goals too high or do not bother to do the little things they need to do in their daily lives.

Winners never quit. Quitters never win.

WolfgangBreitweit · 2018-07-14T17:56:27+00:00

I told my mother to shut up. She never tried again. Don’t forget. You’re a man. Also for your mother.

0x123d · 2018-07-14T17:32:17+00:00

Get a job, then get the fuck out of there. Relationships aren't important; peace of mind is paramount.

Sol_Install · 2018-07-14T17:48:57+00:00

I understand actually. I too have been at a point in which I felt like snapping and killing others. Two things happened though: I realized that the people I would kill die nothing to me at all. That just wasn't right to me. Another was that I would see how these young men would snap, kill people, and get killed themselves. And what happened after that? Men get branded as monsters. The shooter is dead and nothing happens. The world goes on like you never existed. So killing others is a waste of time. Killing yourself is also stupid because you might actually have a chance to escape and have peace and happiness in your life.

I know what it's like. Its fucking depressing. And because you live with her, you fear if you say anything, she'll kick you out. Not only that, being a female, anything you say that isn't exactly what she wants to hear results in her throwing a temper tantrum. On any day at anytime, you have no idea what is going to happen. You can't sleep in peace, eat in peace, nothing.

The only way out is to get a job, even if they don't pay a lot. Find whatever you can that you can tolerate. Money is the way out.

CDAYt · 2018-07-14T18:52:12+00:00

My dude, you are not alone I’m in the same boat as you. My advice probably wouldn’t be as good as you probably want when it comes to selecting employment. But I know for sure that it starts with your decision to make sure you get it.

Any chance you get to physically be away from that bitch, take it. She’ll then just move over to calling and or texting and you can just block the number whenever you want. Once you get enough money don’t hesitate to move out.

xdrunkagainx · 2018-07-14T21:18:25+00:00

Start here https://illimitablemen.com/2014/12/14/the-shit-test-encyclopedia/. Your mother is testing you to see what kind of man you are. By letting her see that you can be emotionally manipulated she finds you weak. You need to maintain frame and not let her shit effect you.

DisinfectantSolution · 2018-07-15T03:17:12+00:00

You need a change of scenery. Helped me bigtime.

RoundEarthMatters · 2018-07-14T18:34:33+00:00

If you’re in the US I’d suggest getting CDL(don’t do this unless you are really serious!) some trucking companies offer training for free , along with hotels and food. A good way to get out of the house, you’ll basically get a tiny apartment on wheels, and some companies pay good for first year.

Note: some companies with make you sign a 1-2 contract before you leave them or to leave the company early you have to pay for the CDL yourself.

tylrmcnl · 2018-07-14T22:19:20+00:00

Don’t forget women feed off drama and attention don’t give it to them

Freefrombitches123 · 2018-07-14T23:09:57+00:00

Take a stoic approach and remember don't make a permanent decision for a temporary circumstance. You're 22 and mgtow, you don't realise just how much potential you have on those two things alone.

see_the · 2018-07-15T04:14:30+00:00

The first step you need to take is to move out. Living in your car is the quickest way to do this. The root of your problem is proximity to your mom, and the solution is leaving. Living in harsh financial circumstance is much better than living in harsh mental circumstance, so please take that risk.

SlainFunicle · 2018-07-14T18:14:22+00:00

When you think about being suicidal and whimp out remember their are people worse than you, yes you are at the bottom now in your situation their is only one way to go and that is up, if you find mgtow your whimp days are over get a job any job and plan and work from their, God never build the world in one day make plans and stick to it.

J_St0rm · 2018-07-14T18:51:23+00:00

What’s your degree in...?

mathathon1234 · 2018-07-14T23:12:51+00:00

If you are feeling that way, tell someone like one of your friends. And if you really are going to do it, call the police on yourself man

muricaj · 2018-07-15T02:23:14+00:00

Avoid the house as much as possible. Since you need work, look for it physically so that you are out of the house. I don't know if you have free libraries and WiFi like here in the US but if you do, spend most of your time there so that you can look for work, enrich your mind, and avoid the toxicity of your home environment.

Niggatonic · 2018-07-15T04:51:48+00:00

anyone who is in dispair and having a suisidal crisis isnt just willing to hurt themselves, they will hurt others around them. keep on trucking on with your mom as long as you can but you MUST have an emergency exit plan. dont let her get your goat man. lots of us here are going theough bad mother problems (myself included). its because your mom doesn’t approve of your low SMV. fuck her bro. live your life. you did the right thing coming here. there’s nothing wrong with you if you aren’t committing any crimes so chill out. +support for you

HorusEyeDrops · 2018-07-15T07:36:10+00:00

I've been there.

Before thinking about suicide any longer, ask yourself, "was there ever a time when I didn't have these thoughts?" Remember, life is a sandbox, I bet you've had much much greater times.

Move out ASAP. On Indeed.com, you can apply to lists and lists of jobs within 10 minutes. I just did that and after two days, I got three offers.

The two most common things people write in their memoirs before suicide: 1) They thought things were going to get only worse 2) they thought they were a burden on their peers

Things are already likely to get better for you. You're about to have freedom!

I doubt you're a burden on your peers. If you are to any degree, you can adapt and lessen it. You're already helping give me something interesting to do, by motivating me to type this!

Take it easy, man.

the_count1234 · 2018-07-15T07:38:13+00:00

Have a some patience, save any money you can, find a job, and when that day comes when you can move out, you will be so truly happy that your smile wont come off your face. You want peace? This is the only way, not killing yourself. Everyone here is cheering for you buddy!

NetoIncognito · 2018-07-15T08:31:41+00:00

Only thing killing yourself will do is give your mom more attention, and women love attention.

I overdosed in pills at 23. Two bottles of anti- depressants. I don't know how long I was in the hospital for, woke up had a bunch of skin rashes and a few broken bones. Also had pneumonia from choking on my vomit.

Life can get better, but only if you let it.

You didn't mention your major so it is hard to determine a course of action. If need be get a Master's in something practical.

Carpet bomb for jobs. It will take about 100 applications to get 1 interview or so. If you don't hear back for a few weeks have someone look at your resume. Take any job, you can move up from there later.

Get a job and move out. Make a budget for you necessities. Cut your mother out of your life if you need to.

Make goals: Long term and short term. Too many people go throughout their life without a purpose. Get physically fit.

Do what you want to do with your life.

ZcytheP · 2018-07-15T01:48:24+00:00

Don't do it friend, just realize that she is envious if your success and just wants to leech you wherever possible, deny her. Deny her attempts to leech your mind, deny her attempts to lech your wallet, deny her attempts to leech your potential, deny her from taking one step into your life. Ghost her whenever possible, Walk by her in the hallway. bam, ghost. Don't even acknowledge her presence. Now, like with all women, she will eventually start trying to get your attention, even when you ghost her, she'll bump you in the hallway, trying to start a conversation, then, she'll start yelling at you for no/little reason. Just stay quiet, don't say a word to her, and vent your anger into the engine of your mind. Better yourself.

Title	My mother is a nagging machine (feeling suicidal)
Author	BrazilianMGTOW
Upvotes	49
Comments	35
Date	July 14, 2018 5:29 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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