Reading A Song of Ice and Fire. Beginning of Book 3, this is a guy who was planning to kill his Commander and flee his post. While planning he thinks of his past.

The worst was that slattern Bessa. She'd spread her legs for every boy in Hag's Mire so he'd figure why not him too? He even spent a morning picking wildflowers when he heard she liked them, but she'd just laughed in his face and told him she'd crawl in a bed with his father's leeches before she'd crawl in one with him.

He then killed her, but that's beyond the point. This is what he says next in his thoughts.

The twisted old wilding[Craster] has the right of it. If you want a woman to wife you take her, and none of this giving her flowers so that maybe she don't notice your bloody boils.

Moral of the story, if you don't supplicate and/or ask women and simply do what you desire you'll be successful. Otherwise you'll just bottle up rage until you go crazy and stab someone and then be forced to live the rest of your days on the Wall as a Brother of The Night's Watch.