Have a Shitty Reputation In College. What Do I Do? (Long Post)

Short_Fly · 2018-07-02T04:45:22+00:00

Seriously, worrying about reputation in school is like worrying about letting out a fart while eating at Taco Bell. Do people around you notice? sure. Does it matter at all? FUCK NO.

School nowadays is a simulated, artificial, adult day-care environment that has ZERO relevance to the real world, and it exists primarily for the benefit for the administrators. Maybe 15% of the things you learned and remember in the comp sci/engineering/STEM related courses will eventually help you in your career down the road. Literally EVERYTHING ELSE is a giant ass-fuck waste of time, energy, and money. God help you if you are in the liberal arts and/or have massive student loans.

Everything. single. issue. you mentioned is about as trivial as mosquito shit. You are absofuckinglutely right, you are NOT insane, you DONT need fucking therapy, and most importantly of all, STOP FUCKING GIVING A FUCK ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF YOU.

Here's what you do from now on. You have ONE single fucking mission in life and that's to become the best version of yourself that you can possibly be. Everyday you wake up in the morning and head to the bathroom, look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that YOU ARE A FUCKING BEAST, YOU ARE A FUCKING WARRIOR, AND YOU ARE FUCKING AWESOME. Literally say it out loud and say it like you mean it. Then shower and clean yourself up, get some clinical strength deodorant/antiperspirant if you feel like you need it.

You go to school and do the BARE MINIMUM in class, as in just enough effort to pass and graduate with enough GPA to land you your first real job. After class go hit the gym and HIT IT HARD. Skip the fucking ellipticals and treadmills and go pick up heavy shit. Use the heaviest weights that will only allow you 3-5 reps X 3-5 sets, hit both upper and lower body (squat, military, bench, deadlift). After that go home, make yourself something healthy to eat. Eat WHOLE FOODS, as in food with just one ingredient. Quit all I mean FUCKING ALL SOCIAL MEDIA, facebook, tinder, whatever the fuck just straight up quit them all. Use your new found time and freedom to further YOUR OWN INTERESTS AND PERSONAL DEVELOPMENTS, such as your future career, business ideas, health, and hobbies. And most important of all, every single person you mentioned in your post, that mexican chick, that online chick, that other chick, those dumbfucks in your class your club those fucking teachers. STOP. GIVING. A. SINGLE. TINY. MODICUM. OF. FUCKING. FUCK. ABOUT. EVERY. LAST. SINGLE. FUCKING. ONE. OF. THEM. If anyone makes fun of you, doubts you, or says whatever dumb shit towards you, just smile and nod, and then GO DO YOUR OWN FUCKING SHIT ANYWAY.

You have just ONE thing to worry about, that is at the end of each day you go to bed knowing that you have made some progress towards making yourself a better person, and you will soon find that healthy, well-adjusted, like-minded people will automatically start showing up in your life. You will also quickly realize that trying to impress and fit in to your current group of dumbfucks and dumbcunts is about the biggest colossus waste of time you've ever done in your life

2018-07-02T04:05:01+00:00

Who cares! The biggest issue I had after leaving college was getting them to stop contacting me begging for donations to the endowment fund. Mother fuckers tried to kick me out twice and wondered why I threatened to sue them for harassment if they didn’t stop lol.

801735 · 2018-07-02T03:05:47+00:00

Meh, just live your life, all is good and well.

michaelmindset · 2018-07-02T03:14:30+00:00

The biggest changes always happen internally. Do not focus on the outside reactions, this quote has really helped me: “The sun does not judge it’s light by the shadow that it cast” meaning that you do not judge your value by the way others treat you. The way people treat you is always a reflection of themselves. Treat yourself with respect and others will respect you (but if they don’t it’s irrelevant b/c you respect yourself).

In regards to your past mistakes...I myself have had many “fuck ups”....especially socially. First impressions are lasting, it better to develop new relationships than to fix the old ones (Rollo Tomassi quote). Accept that these were people you failed with socially and embrace the challenge of starting fresh and building a new reputation. Best of luck brother.

HorusEyeDrops · 2018-07-02T03:15:48+00:00

Self consciousness is the first step!

I was sheltered from reality by a single mom so through life I autistically stomped on friends, did some crazy antisocial monkey shit. Eventually assholes (mentors!) gave me feedback and I figured out how to stop destroying everything around me :)

Dude, I fixed myself by a million series of trial and error. It was the same process in which babies learn language. They shoot too high too low, then just perfect.

Changing clothes, dying hair that's shallow bullshit, and that's not solving the root of the problem.

1) Look at Maslow Hierarchy. Corresponding to safety is lowering of cortisol/stress, affection satisfaction is oxytocin, esteem is serotonin, self actualization/exploration is dopamine. If you satisfy the hierarchies of people around you, they'll experience bliss. A great lifelong friend is likely someone who is addicted to the way you make them FEEL. If you want people to gravitate to you like moths to a flame, do what triggers their brain into drugging them. You'll become an addiction. Ehh.. but GYOW. I don't waste my time on making every person on earth feel "high" every day, my soul doesn't allow it.

2) Win at all of life's games to be perceived and in actuality the most valuable person in your tribe. Win at the game of modern etiquette. Wash your clothes, etc. take care of yourself.

3) I recommend Jordan Peterson's 12 rules for life.

4) Everyrhing you know is a lie, same with me. As primates we sadly base our lives off the shadows on the wall, and not on wha casts the shadows. Go out into chaos and force yourself to adapt and order everything. Grow the hell up, man :)

Best of wishes

2018-07-02T03:29:10+00:00

Honestly mate, I think you're over thinking it all. College doesn't last forever, just chill out about it all. The more you think you're in thst boat the more so you convince yourself that you're. MGTOW is about you going your own way my man. Make your own path! Don't adhere to social concept and what's right or wrong.

CynicJoe · 2018-07-02T04:19:39+00:00

It's better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you're not. - Andre Gide

2018-07-02T04:30:46+00:00

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2018-07-02T04:31:00+00:00

Have you read, -- how to win friends and influence people -- if not read that book? and when you are done with it pick up - public speaking by dale carnegie --

your friends are not wrong about therapy although the kind works for me is a long bike rides -- totally clears my head. You should figure out what works for you and do it more often. Rock climbing, cooking, going for run, camping ... whatever works do that.

DO NOT PAY HEED TO WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU -- you come off (from your comment) too self-conscious, without confidence and trying to please others.

OldRoad · 2018-07-02T06:00:00+00:00

If you haven't already tried, I'd say that you should look into medical treatment for your condition. Even if it doesn't 100% cure you, it would probably be worth it, if it significantly lowers your symptoms.

My advice about what else to do depends on just how unhappy you are with your current situation.

If you basically can barely stand walking around campus in your daily life of going to class, and if you have a lot of time left in your college career -- and if it doesn't set you back too far in your college progress -- you may want to look into transferring to a different university, particularly a large one where you can be a "face in the crowd," if you want to be one. This may sound like "quitting," but my guess is that it's probably not good to force yourself through three years of being really, really stressed. Sometimes the easiest way out of a situation is the best choice.

I think that small universities tend to be rougher for anyone who doesn't always "fit in." At a large university, you'd be amazed how much easier it can be. Living off-campus is also better, in my opinion, especially if you can live with relatives or good friends who understand you. So you can have a healthy environment around you when you don't have to be in class, and you can just show up for classes, be "all business," and then go back to where you live to study. I think that such a plan can really help with the social stress.

It also helps to consider your personality when choosing your degree. Let's say that you improve your condition, but maybe you are concerned that you may tend to still draw some negative attention from other people in your future. Well, why pick a career where you are likely to constantly be having to socialize with people who may not understand you? You could save yourself all kinds of stress by doing some research now and working toward the type of future job where you are likely to be working independently much of the time. Or usually never around the same people very often; that way, there isn't much time for people to develop an opinion about you, and you might only see them once or twice anyway during your career. Of course, this career decision may depend in part on what career you have already been working toward, and how far into that program that you already are.

As for friends, I suggest having a few good friends and/or relatives who understand you, instead of trying to win the opinions of dozens of people. With college, you'll probably benefit from focusing on studying anyway, and not so much on socializing.

If you just don't find good friends in your daily environment, don't underestimate the Internet. With the Internet, you can seek out friends who are similar to you, and who understand you. You can chat with such friends online, play video games with them, share advice, and so on. You can be fairly anonymous on places like reddit, if you don't want people to know very much about you. And with online, it's easier to cut back on socializing if you need to spend more time studying.

People who experience challenges, in one form or another, can sometimes feel like they are the only one in their situation. But there are billions of people in this world. Imagine how many people must be either going through experiences like yours, or have had similar experiences in the past. From your original post, it seems like you are putting a lot of blame on yourself, but consider that perhaps there is something wrong with other people who won't mind their own business and let you have an enjoyable college experience.

Remember that such other people often have their own problems. You may feel like all these other people fit in, but there are some nasty people out there who will make fun of other people, when the nasty people honestly should be focusing on dealing with negative things about themselves. I mean, a person could be totally an everyday person, and those negative people would find some way to bother them.

One more thing: Be good to yourself, but also keep working to be the best person that you can be. Be a good person, and do good things.

College may be challenging, but it's very possible that, decades from now, you may look back on things that you worry about today, and realize how far in the past that was, and how little it turned out to mean.

setpejoki · 2018-07-03T01:45:50+00:00

The Red Pill + MGTOW is the best. MGTOW alone is unfortunately not enough. You have to gain the inner peace that TRP has to offer.

You can't control how ugly you are (to an extent) but you can control how you react to any given situation. A low cost (at least it used to be a low cost) way of learning how to think and act in the world is by doing TRP w/ women. Better to learn how to be icey w/ women than to learn at the poker table.

Title	Have a Shitty Reputation In College. What Do I Do? (Long Post)
Author	pipre23
Upvotes	9
Comments	30
Date	July 2, 2018 2:59 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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