I suspect more than just a few of people on this subreddit may have decided not to go their own way in spite of having swallowed a lot of red pills, because they don't want to lose contact with their children. For some of us even partial custody would not be enough. For example, if we are convinced that the mother is useless as a parent and educator and would be the ruin of the children.

If you feel like, talk about your feeling on this issue, especially if it is personal.