I am 1 month post divorce and 9 months post separation. Before I knew about this group I was (drunk) and thinking one evening. It occurred to me the point at which my life became complicated was about 16, when I started dating. I wanted to be loved so badly that I got sucked into the Nice Guy syndrome to win over women and had never considered putting myself first. Looking back I remember bike rides, playing ball with my friends and really enjoying my life. I came to realize that I have let these relationships have done little but drag me down and keep me from what I wanted for myself.