People reacting different after lifting

RPAlternate42 · 2018-11-29T04:30:47+00:00

The respect is because everyone recognizes the draw of a strong man.

The hostility comes from two places: incongruity and/or jealousy.

If people knew you pre lifting, then when you get swole, they react poorly, especially if your frame is seen as too weak for your physicality.

Some people, beta dudes usually, get jealous and try to crab bucket you; instead of improving themselves (realism) they opt to make themselves the reference point and try to shame you into meeting them (idealism.)

They use words like "meathead" and "muscle head" and make claims like you must be compensating for something. ignore them: women will see the jealousy and be repelled, men will see the bullshit and be repelled.

Kings do not concern themselves with the opinions of the commoners and Gods don't care about the affairs of Kings.

HurricaneHugues · 2018-11-29T02:55:03+00:00

Wait til u reach 230lbs

tunit50 · 2018-11-29T03:30:11+00:00

I’m not the biggest but 5’7 155 and fixed my posture. people always mean mug the shit out of me and I always catch people staring me down. I’m confused by this too and I’m fairly friendly just somewhat quiet. I have noticed that a lot more girls check me out in college and I had very few girls in high school. Any advice or information on this?

vomit_romney · 2018-11-29T04:08:23+00:00

You didn't say what your starting weight was, which is relevant to your situation. Were you 180 4 months ago? Well yeah your friends are gonna think their juice-monkey mate is on some crazy quest. But if this is a slower conversion of your reality over some time then no, nothing to worry about.

People (usually women) get defensive or judgmental when one of their own makes a positive change. If you've spent any time around the sidebar and/or TRP you'll have read about the crabs-in-a-bucket mentality; dragging down anything attempting to crawl out.

I truly deleted those relationships that would / could not accept what I made myself into, and I'm stronger for it. Suggest you do the same, since it's all about you now.

mazaw19 · 2018-11-29T03:12:14+00:00

yeah man! I have been recently dealing with one dude at work being a little extra hostile towards me. Especially in front of Female coworkers. I'm 32 5'5 and 158lbs.. anyways since I've bulked up I've noticed this kid getting more and more distant, mostly because we used to go out on weekends with other coworkers to hit up a couple of bars. Now I've noticed being left out. Last time I tried to invite everyone out I tried to include some female coworkers and he got weird after that. I got the whole Beta protector vibe from him. Maybe he feels a little threaten by me? He even felt the need to inform me he got a coworkers phone# one morning.. this new 20 year old little blond, I almost couldn't hold in my laughter because I knew what he was trying to do. He's 22 and a cancer survivor, dudes probably 5'8 and went bold because of chemo, so I've been trying my hardest not to be a dick. I've spent 8 years in the Army Infantry, and did two combat tours, and he expressed to me how he wanted to join the, marines and blah blah blah... so yeah maybe he feels a little emasculated when he's around me... on the plus side I've been getting extra attention from the females, even caught the new little blond throwing me the eye when I'm not looking.

Title	People reacting different after lifting
Author	WorldlySilver
Upvotes	5
Comments	6
Date	November 29, 2018 2:26 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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