On the benefits of exuding major confidence AND a question on variations on the normal ways to pick up a girl

1.) I'm fresh out of a 4 1/2 year LTR. 31/m/fit. I bartend weddings and last night decided I was going to have some fun. I made a commitment to turn the charmers on in a big way. Here are the strategies I used

exude major confidence
flirt with every single girl in the room. Young, old didn't matter. I got everyone's name, introduced myself, and made them feel good, laugh, etc. Within an hour, I was extremely popular amongst all ladies in the room. I built up my value.
once I identified the girl I clicked best with, I began to aggressively and confidently flirt with her. She was LOVING IT
it wasn't long before she gave me her #.
as it became obvious that she was very attracted to me, my nervous inner nice guy wanted to come out. I squashed him immediately. I focused on staying aggressive, bad boy, confident, and decisive.

2.) Is it ever acceptable to give a girl your number? This is typically frowned upon as beta behavior but I am in a situation where I think it's appropriate.

I take guitar lessons and this shy but hot girl works the register. I know she is single. It's hard to make much small talk because she's always busy and she works side by side with other co-workers. When I do talk to her, I call her by her name and I'm confident.

Anyways, I know that approaching her in front of customers and co-workers to ask her # would make her uncomfortable. So, I think I'm gonna slip her my number and confidently tell her to call me if she wants to go out after her shift is done. Or just give her my number and not say anything. Build anticipation.

Thoughts on this strategy?

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Lot's of reasons.

1) Makes her invested in you. She has to do the action of putting her name and number in your phone. Your not asking for her number, you are telling her to put her number in your phone. Women want to be led, to be told, not asked.

2) After you text her, she will have your number without the awkwardness of giving her the number or having her ask for it.

3) Provides immediate acknowledgement of whether she will do it, no wondering if she will, or wondering if she gave you a bad number.

4) You get to play the cocky first or second message, hey do me a favor and send me a picture to my phone so I can see who I am talking to. That plays on the you have plenty of women in your life and need to see a face in order to know who is texting you along with again making her invest in you, ie. do something in order to get your attention. It flips the script and they love it. If she is not compliant, you know immediately and can move on.

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They are probably talking about videos like this or similar ones out there. It can work, but you need to have the right frame for it, and as a newly single dude back on the market after an LTR, this may be a bit above your skill level for the time being.

That said, the steps you are taking in your bartending gig and in the field will get you there sooner rather than later, so keep with the frame you have in that context and apply it to every day life.

Is it ever acceptable to give a girl your number? This is typically frowned upon as beta behavior but I am in a situation where I think it's appropriate.

Personally, I prefer to get their number first, with a simple "Let me get your number," but don't get too caught up on whether or not it's Beta to ask or be asked for your number during an exchange.

You know who sweats that conundrum? Betas who are too busy dissecting whether every human interaction they could imagine is Beta or Alpha because they are too big of pussies to actually get out into the field and apply that knowledge, risking rejection in the process. Does asking for a girl's number give her some fleeting upper hand? I don't know, I guess, but if you aren't a total bozo and have a modicum of charisma and confidence, you can swing the pendulum back in your favor once you are out on the date by continuing to demonstrate your value.

Of course, you don't get to that point until you actually, you know, get her fucking number. So, don't overthink the stuff.

In regards to guitar store chick, honestly, dude, it doesn't sound like you've built up any rapport whatsoever with her. Feel free to try and get her number, but I think there are more sound strategies to that end.

If you are cool with your guitar teacher, let him know you think the girl is cute and if he's cool, see if he can hook up some kind of happy hour with her and his girlfriend, and maybe one or two other employees who won't actively cockblock you.

Right now, she probably sees you as one of the many customers in the store. Get her out in a different venue to build some rapport, DHV, and eventually for some one on one time after you have the preselection of her co-worker and the rest of your company all cutting to your favor as well.

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Title	On the benefits of exuding major confidence AND a question on variations on the normal ways to pick up a girl
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Date	July 14, 2013 6:15 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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