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What a timely blast from the past. I wrote that a few years ago, I still stand by those words today. Although today I might re-frame it from "women" to feminine thought process, and there are plenty of men whom I consider to be quite feminine in their thought processes as well.
/r/MGTOW12/01/18 05:29 AM
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Follow-up trial date is January 2nd. How did it go? I go back to court tomorrow, January 3rd. Been divorced now for 5 years, but readdressing custody in a new hearing.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/18 01:08 AM
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It's a tinder date. you shook hands, played chess on your phone, and acted fidgety.. You did not establish frame. You did not show up with a sexual agenda, you did not kino, you did not escalate. You did not show confidence, you did not do anything to generate attraction. Why would you expect there to be any?
/r/askTRP25/06/16 03:55 AM
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offended hell.. i want them to tell all their friends about me..
/r/askTRP25/06/16 02:25 AM
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I use those almost exclusively.. women are emotional creatures. Let them feel emotions when you address them.
/r/askTRP25/06/16 02:17 AM
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I love my dog. she is a chocolate lab named Daisy. she just turned three in february. I trained her since she was a puppy, she does sit, stay, ball, leave it, no, go to your spot. she is loving and enjoyable to be around. she also is high energy and sometimes a pain in the ass. but the good outweighs the bad. I also know that if I cook myself a steak, and then set it down on the coffee table and leave the room to go pee, she's going to eat it. I cannot be mad at her for eating my steak, she's a …
/r/askTRP25/06/16 02:09 AM
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You need to stand on your own feet my friend.
/r/askTRP25/06/16 01:54 AM
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She might be bi-polar, or bpd, or just on drugs. No matter which, she's damaged goods. However you attracted her and are still attracted to her - so you are probably damaged goods as well. My advice is to monk mode, get your head and body healthy and then date healthy women.
/r/askTRP25/06/16 01:53 AM
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Move out. The only one you can save is yourself
/r/askTRP25/06/16 01:50 AM
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stop seeing her. she is toxic to you, it is literally poisoning your mind.
/r/askTRP25/06/16 01:48 AM
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There is no balance because the two concepts are polar opposites. You may think, there is a fine line between these two, and that is wrong. To understand this you must understand a simple concept. In almost all things, motivation and mindset make all the difference. If the motivation comes from neediness, the action will come off as shitty. If the motivation comes from confidence, the action will be fine. Outcome independence does not mean you do not care what the outcome is. It means that you k…
/r/askTRP25/06/16 01:39 AM
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Her reward is your attention. Do not reward bad behavior. Positive or negative attention really does not matter.. it's like training a puppy or child. There is no "talk about it", or "ask to see her phone". Stone silent, change your locks. Delete from social media and rename her on your phone to lying-bitch to help you remember why you are not speaking with her. Get tested.. they have rapid turn around clinics. You'll know in a few days. edit to add, option 4 is the closest to what I would do ex…
/r/askTRP25/06/16 01:28 AM
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You will eventually go from playing the game to living the life. What may be a song and dance right now will become who you are and the actions very natural and come without thought or premeditation. Once you get there, the rules bend. I think jazz musician Charlie Parker said it best, "Master your instrument, Master the music, and then forget all that shit and just play. " And there is a lot of truth in that. "Rules are important", however, as you progress in a subject - any subject - you will …
/r/TheRedPill12/04/16 08:24 PM
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Under the assumption that someone is purchasing the book for themselves, I think it is great. Under the assumption that someone is buying a self help book for another person, I think the idea is awful. Give people advice if and when they ask for it, not just because you have advice you feel like dolling out.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/16 05:19 AM
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The part that confuses me is the "want to LTR a girl" before dating her. What? that is a huge reward to only bestow on a worthy woman who is working hard for your attention and affection. Giving that away with zero investment from her is atrocious. You are the gatekeeper to relationship. By giving it away so soon, she lost interest in you - exactly like the first girl being the gatekeeper to sex. Once you saw her give it away for nothing, no investment from you - you lost interest in her. You go…
/r/TheRedPill12/04/16 05:17 AM
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it does get old, and juggling a handful of women can be exhausting. I agree.. that said, I think 200k a year is the sweet spot..
/r/TheRedPill11/04/16 04:59 AM
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not reacting as if you've done something wrong it's called frame. when you allow yourself to be painted as tho you have something wrong, you will be painted as thought you did something wrong. do not defend, rationalize, explain.. any of it. Never frame yourself in the wrong, superimpose your reality on top of the bullshit.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/16 04:08 AM
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I do not think there are substantial benefits to giving time or attention to a woman you find attractive but are not fucking. sure, you can make friends and hang out and maybe leverage your pseudo friendship to meet new women. But why? You can meet new women with or without her. That being said, I am friends with quite a few women, especially bartenders. They offer value, preferential treatment, good drink pours, sometimes give you a ride home, sometimes get you food, social status value - don't…
/r/TheRedPill05/04/16 02:14 PM
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go sleep with 10 women in a 4 week span. tell me how "paired" you are with number 10.
/r/askTRP03/04/16 06:58 AM
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"unless we have a specific conversation stating otherwise, you should assume I am seeing other people". do not defend, or explain, or rationalize. It is what it is.
/r/askTRP03/04/16 06:51 AM
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It is the same reason women lie about their "number". It is the same reason they put up last minute resistance before having sex on a first date. They are concerned with their status, specifically perceived social status. Being outed as a cheater publicly, is a shameful thing to be labeled. So the hamster goes on the attack, anything to make her the victim in the situation. Because in her mind, it has to have been your fault - there is no length her mind will not run to to make it not her fault.…
/r/TheRedPill03/04/16 12:20 AM
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The double venue is absolutely a good strategy. It makes one date "feel" like two or three. It increase familiarity, and increases comfort. I like that I have a go-cart track close by, because if things are going well at a first venue I can bounce there for a 20 minute visit, because who doesn't want to drive a go cart after 3 beers? It is fun, and with fun comes feelz.. Then I tell them I need to jet home to "let my dog go pee"... I say it in a "the evening is over" kind of way, and they do not…
/r/TheRedPill01/04/16 06:16 PM
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if his biggest problem with her is that she had another dick in her 12 years ago, he is doing pretty well.. I also think he should let it go
/r/TheRedPill01/04/16 06:04 PM
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Fuck no. He should fuck her on alternate weekends when the kids are with Dad, and fuck six other women just like her in his rotation. You are self limiting yourself here.. I have seen multiple single mom's who set up forwarding the security cameras in their house to their phone so they can come over at 1am if I text them..
/r/TheRedPill01/04/16 04:56 PM
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you are well on your way.. that said, she doesn't want you to solve all her problems. sometimes the best answer is "ask your girlfriends", sometimes the best answer is an ignore. sometimes the best answer is just to slap her ass and tell her it's time for bed.
/r/TheRedPill01/04/16 04:43 AM
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I think you forgot to post what you had to say.. You are on a podium in front of 140,000 people, you spoke for 30 seconds and then left us with a web link? That's pretty much the definition of a commercial, isn't it? 30 seconds.. this reminds me of why I cut cable.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/16 04:24 AM
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If that is what you want, then go for it. Use the tools and wisdom of the men around here and take a chance. Just understand that there is no such thing as "unconditional love". There is no such thing as "forever love". But love is real. It is very real, and LTR's can be enjoyable experiences. They have a shelf life, and no one really knows in advance how long that shelf life is. It could be 3 months, 3 years, or 10 years. Who knows. Understand the risks, use your head, and then play the game ge…
/r/TheRedPill28/03/16 02:50 AM
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no one is 100 / 0 masculine to feminine, except like Mike Tyson. Read his biography.. he is just as unhappy as everyone else. His mother was a crack whore who threw him into the streets, his father was a pimp who ignored him until he was a millionaire. He has spent his entire life trying to get external validation. Yes, he absolutely excelled at boxing, under Cus's lead.. the only family he knew.. and when Cus died, under King who used and exploited him. Go back and watch what Robin Givens and h…
/r/TheRedPill27/03/16 12:30 AM
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My mom passed away the week my divorce was finalized. I am sorry for the loss you went through. That sucks. Your are correct though, nothing makes a man grow up more than going through that and coming out on the other side a better man. I look forward to reading your story.
/r/TheRedPill25/03/16 08:01 PM
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treat her entirely as a new prospect, keep frame, if she thought of you as beta before, she might be open to just coming over to your house for beers to catch up.. (she has no idea)..
/r/askTRP19/03/16 06:30 AM
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When I was 12, I loved looking at 13 year old boobs. When I was 15, I loved looking at 14 - 17 year old boobs. When I was 18, I loved looking at 15 - 20 year old boobs. When I was 25, I loved looking at 18 - 27 year old boobs. When I was 35, I loved looking at 18 - 35 year old boobs. Now that I am 40, I apreciate a pretty woman from 18 to 40. When I am 80, I will probably want to fuck anything from 18 to 70. Given a long enough timeline, "every woman is likeable"
/r/TheRedPill19/03/16 06:27 AM
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I have a different take but the same outcome. Too much kino on a date implies sex as the outcome. If you have done a makeout, or a feelup, or a grind, and then ask her to your house.. it is too implied and she knows it is only for sex which makes her feel slutty. I have seen this LMR at the bar/club/party. Leaving room gives that feeling of "who know what will happen.. he just needs to let his dog go pee.. wheeee... how did my pants come off?"
/r/TheRedPill19/03/16 06:23 AM
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I feel sort of lonely or isolated to the fact that most women are just like that. Truth is most women are like that. Women love emotions and drama and love and sex.. yes, they love love.. and they eat it up. You can have that as long as you always understand the golden rule. What's the golden rule you ask? Always add the words "right now" to what she says. It really does not distract from the enjoyment of the moment, I mean the moment is still good. It is just a solid reminder that the "normalcy…
/r/TheRedPill19/03/16 06:05 AM
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kino is all about escalation. You start with the most subtle and harmless touches. Shaking hands when you meet, a tap on the shoulder.. Next level is holding of hands when you change rooms, as in take her hand and lead her. Next might be something like like laughing at a joke together and putting your hand on her arm casually as you lean forward and share a smile and eye contact. From there, you watch her reciprocation. You calibrate your movements and escalation based on her reaction. If she is…
/r/askTRP19/03/16 05:18 AM
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If you want unconditional love, get a chocolate lab puppy and train her from day one as "your" dog. she will never give a shit if you lose your job. she will never care if you get sick or injured. she'll just love you
/r/TheRedPill18/03/16 01:49 PM
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don't drink soo much.. close the deal.
/r/TheRedPill16/03/16 07:53 AM
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You like female attention but refuse to be attractive to women because ... of course.. mgtow. You have admitted low "SMV" (and I truly dislike that terminology but in this context we all know what you are saying, and it is true). You are not a pro league player. You are a self chosen celibate. Accept it. There is nothing wrong with that per-say.. it is part of nature. Only the strongest and best breed. It is how nature ensures life to prosper. How to get the female attention you desire? Well, th…
/r/TheRedPill09/03/16 01:53 AM
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So for the next 10 days, I’ll be doing this experiment. This would be a million times more interesting if you had said, for the last 10 days I did this - and here is what I learned. Posting your plans in advance is actually quite detrimental to your ability to effectively pursue them. For EXACTLY the same reason you are allegedly planning to do this experiment ironically. Here is a decent summary of the science and research on this: Shut up! Announcing your plans makes you less motivated to acco…
/r/TheRedPill09/03/16 12:58 AM
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masculine women are terrible to be around and absolutely repulsive to masculine men. Consider the women you are dealing with in this professional context, consider how masculine or feminine they are.
/r/TheRedPill08/03/16 05:49 AM
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You two want different things. That is not a good or bad thing, it simply is what it is. I think you should be honest with her, and let the chips fall where they will. It is a million times easier to start a new relationship with boundaries than fix an unfulfilling one.
/r/TheRedPill04/03/16 10:10 PM
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I learned more about women by taking dancing lessons and dog training lessons than anything in life.
/r/TheRedPill02/03/16 11:55 PM
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you are not hers, it is just her turn.
/r/TheRedPill27/02/16 08:31 PM
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How did the subject of relationship come up if this is only your second date? On your first date, drop this: "unless we have a specific conversation stating otherwise, you need to know and assume I am seeing other people". Even if you are not seeing anyone else, just say it anyway. I do encourage you to see other people tho, as it truly builds the abundance mentality. If nothing else, prefacing the start with that gives you the open to see other women should the opportunity surface. It also sets…
/r/TheRedPill27/02/16 12:39 AM
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fuck motivation. You need discipline. http://impossiblehq.com/get-disciplined-not-motivated/ http://sourcesofinsight.com/discipline-vs-motivation/ http://www.getmotivation.com/motivationblog/2015/08/why-discipline-is-better-than-motivation-for-your-success/
/r/TheRedPill26/02/16 08:16 AM
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I can not answer that, no one can. You are in a situation that has damaged the college careers of others before you, and damaged the professional careers of others before you. Destroyed reputations. There is no telling where this will go for you. You do have a real threat in front of you, which is why your body is all racked up in anxiety - tension, your body is preparing you for this challenge. You should thank it by the way, that increased heart rate is putting more oxygen into your brain so y…
/r/TheRedPill26/02/16 07:29 AM
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Gotcha.. so other people know she had consensual sex with you, then she came back to you bed consensually a second time a week later and is claiming she was assaulted the day after? Defer to your lawyer on that question. Do not speak about it with college students at all. If the police ask you, let your lawyer guide you in how to answer - there is a reason I said make him be the one to get the police involved. He will be right there.
/r/TheRedPill26/02/16 06:17 AM
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I agree with you. Do not talk to the police when you are the suspect. ok, agreed. She shows up at your house with a bat threatening you, has struck another person, is on probation, is on drugs, is mentally unstable, and now spreading lies about you. Fuck yes, you are not the suspect because she does not want the police involved. You be the one to get the police involved. Put her on the defensive. Although, I would have my attorney arrange the meeting with the police because .. "this is serious a…
/r/TheRedPill26/02/16 06:01 AM
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Except carriers do not do that.
/r/TheRedPill26/02/16 05:55 AM
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but doesn't want the police involved. I'm freaking out right now!! IDK what to do, the writing was on the wall. She already hit some girl in the dorms with a bat, i guess W was on a bunch of anti-depressants and bi-polar pills and is off since she is on probation. Lawyer up immediately. Have him get the police involved. Have him demand to get the police involved. She showed up at your house with a bat, threatening you. has struck another person with a bat. is on drugs and showing signs of mental…
/r/TheRedPill26/02/16 05:46 AM
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I have 4 plates as of late. There is no way you have 4 plates and this mentality. step 1 - find some self respect. step 2 - come back in 3 months. step 3 - cringe at what you posted.
/r/TheRedPill25/02/16 02:52 AM
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if a woman is going to cheat she is going to cheat whether with you or not Agree. The only way to 'morally win' as you put it is to go MGTOW. Disagree. There are plenty of single women out there and no need to sleep with married women. You can opt out of sleeping with married women without giving up sex.
/r/TheRedPill24/02/16 05:02 PM
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You are confusing amoral versus immoral. The message is amoral, that does not mean you have to act without morals. Whether he acts on his knowledge of how to use strategy for sex does not change the fact of that strategy being true. The message is amoral, actions can be moral or immoral. TRP does not tell you who to be or what want, only focuses on the reality of how the world works. I also no longer will see married women, as after evaluating everything I decided it was not something I wanted i…
/r/TheRedPill24/02/16 05:42 AM
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Semi-friend of my ex wife who we both knew before we separated and I moved out. She lived in the same subdivision. Only had sex once. In same social circle as my ex but I would not call them friends. Our kids went to same school, but she did not live in the subdivision. Semi-same circle as my ex, as in in the same community - I found out later our kids know each other. I did not actually know her until after I moved out. On and off for 3-5 months. Bartender at a bar I used to frequent often, she…
/r/TheRedPill24/02/16 02:51 AM
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After my divorce I slept with quite a few married women. At the time, I didn't even know why I was doing it... it made no sense. I was recently divorced, from a cheating wife - and here I was sleeping with married women. I got a lot of perspective out of those 1.5 years. Women cheat, lots of women cheat. Men cheat, lot's of men cheat. Lot's of infidelity happens, something like 80% of relationships must go through it - and those are the ones that admit it. Basically, my perspective is that every…
/r/TheRedPill23/02/16 11:34 PM
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There is a reason we call them plates.. and a reason we use the analogy of juggling them. Sometimes a a plate breaks.. so you get a new one. 5 or zero. Never have 1 plate. That's not how it works.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/16 11:11 PM
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well sure.. but I asked you a question. A specific question.. the sentence just above that ends in a question mark. You did not answer it.. Answer that, and then... that is your damn map...
/r/TheRedPill13/02/16 11:36 AM
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You got a ways to go brother.. Stop focusing on things you have no control over, you only control yourself. Look inside, free yourself. The only one you can save is yourself.. truly that is the only one that matters. ..that being said, anger is a good thing. The anxiety you rail against above is a good thing. Both are your bodies way of warning you and preparing you for a challenge. Feel it.. hell.. welcome it. Let that increased heartbeat remind you that your body is increasing oxygen into your…
/r/TheRedPill13/02/16 09:52 AM
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This is a great post. I have said a few times before that if I had known then what I know now I probably could have saved my marriage, but if I had known then what I know now, why the hell would I have wanted to? And this post exactly summarizes what went wrong. At the end of a 15 year partnership and 12 year marriage, I was being cheated on. I found evidence, confronted. Deny Deny, trickle truth. We did marriage counseling. The counselor agreed with me, and encouraged me to snoop her computer, …
/r/TheRedPill11/02/16 11:19 AM
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If he doesn't know you extremely well, he won't trust you. So, my friend has been dating this girl, M, for years. (She wants marriage etc etc, but that's another post itself). We all usually congregate at the same mutual friends house for such occasions. years.. The dog isn't aggressive... He's not antisocial, you can interact with him, He's comparable to a grizzly bear in terms of reacting to humans. cognitive dissonance much? It is not the womans fault, and it is not the dogs fault. Your frien…
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 07:55 PM
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I love animals, especially dogs. I have had two rescue dogs and had enormously rewarding experiences doing it. I also had one dog that was in the shape similar to the above described animal. I no longer have that dog, nor would I ever have another dog that bites people it has known for years without a reason. Just like you remove toxic people from your life, you remove toxic animals from your life. Seriously, the guy has an abused dog that bites anyone who puts a hand out to smell, with a smile …
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 07:05 PM
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I like to project as much of a "no judgement zone" as possible with girls. Girls I am gaming, girls I am dating, girls I have fucked, girls I am not even fucking anymore who just keep showing back up into my life over and over.. It doesn't matter. I take a slow, silly smile half laugh at the shit they say. Let them blab on.. and I have heard the above, and more. Lot's more. Judgement is simply not the helpful in the situation. You hear what you need to make good decisions, so don't ..you know...…
/r/TheRedPill06/02/16 11:53 PM
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he say's a lot of controversial stuff regarding rape. Here is one of his posts.. you decide. I told her I wanted to take her home. “No sex,” she said, a phrase that she could pronounce very clearly. I made the universal sign for sleep, telling her that I was tired anyway. It took about twenty minutes to get her to understand that just because she came to my place, it didn’t mean we had to have sex. Her tiny size really hit me when she took off her heels. I asked her how much she weighed. “Thirty…
/r/askTRP04/02/16 05:36 PM
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4 months no sex? During this month, she would also text me to meet her for a date Since I told her I liked her, she has been initiating contact for dates Before we are official, I need to say something.....I really value my virginity" She is the one leading and setting the tone of this relationship. Be the man, set the tone and lead. By letting her manage the relationship, you're going to keep getting what you get.
/r/askTRP04/02/16 05:02 PM
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one-itis is an oxtocin brain chemical response. There are two ways to decrease the chemical response. Lift, exercise, whatever you have to do to increase testosterone. Inject it directly if needed. Testosterone is the bodies natural agonist to oxytocin. source: http://www.pnas.org/content/107/22/9991.full and others if you are not afraid to google. The second major mechanism to deter pair bonding is to sleep with other partners, lot's of them. Each new partner reduces your ability to pair bond s…
/r/TheRedPill04/02/16 04:36 PM
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you can't save anyone but yourself..
/r/TheRedPill31/01/16 06:50 PM
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I was not aware of this sub, but I just subscribed. I read nmmng several years ago, it was the first on my journey. I would probably credit Dr. Glovers book as the book that saved my life. I read models a few years ago as well. I remember bits and pieces of it, I liked it at the time but disagree with parts of it now (from memory). I still have my copy and will be joining you guys in Feb for a re-read. Do you have a published list of what books are lined up for the year? Are you open to suggesti…
/r/TheRedPill31/01/16 04:37 PM
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Being a man at the core of it means taking responsibility for yourself. If you have money for alcohol, you have money for chicken and broccoli. Choices matter. Make them.
/r/askTRP31/01/16 04:57 AM
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Alcohol is a GABA receptor agonist, and reduces anxiety and inhibitions. Chemically, it alters your neurotransmitters and brain chemicals. This create a situation where without alcohol, your baseline may not be "normalized". This takes time to re-balance. As for things you can do to help it re-balance. First, recognize that this is not a permanent problem, it is a temporary situation. You have to re-train your brain to relax sans alcohol.. well you do not have to of course, but that seems to be …
/r/askTRP31/01/16 03:36 AM
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Female that you want to fuck. circle eye contact. look at left eye, hold contact a few seconds, then right eye, hold a few seconds, then her mouth and lips. then left eye again, then look away. start over. Only do this if she is also showing interest. Female that you do not want to fuck (friend, acquaintance, etc.) right eye primarily, treat her like a man. Male in power (professor, boss) right eye predominantly. Hold eye contact for a few seconds while they are talking, look away, regain eye co…
/r/askTRP30/01/16 06:17 AM
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Great work here. I have lived a lot of this. Here is the way it plays out, during the cheating is what is called gaslighting. That term refers to a form of psychological abuse where you make the other person feel crazy for their feelings. When those little holes in stories pop up, and you wonder, and she comes back in a way that makes you doubt your sanity and hate your own feelings because now in your mind "you are the problem". It is one of the most gut-wrenching things tat can be done to a ma…
/r/TheRedPill28/01/16 10:17 PM
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Take it a step further, and call it what it is. Hyper Stimulation Just as our bodies did not evolve to eat sugar every day, or sit in traffic, or be surrounded in sex messages all day, or binge watch netflix, or have access to designer and party drugs, or surf the internet constantly for hours, we are constantly over stimulated. These increases dopamine, which excite us, which causes our bodies to eventually down regulate our dopamine receptors. This creates a need to constantly seek more stimul…
/r/TheRedPill28/01/16 06:42 PM
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That natural certain "worldview" is called reality. Awakening to that worldview is extremely valuable. However, awakening to that worldview does not mean someone should be a dark triad asshole Machiavellian sociopath. It means that he should simply recognize what is around him and his place in it. Here is an example. In 2008 our financial circles had a large collapse. People reacted in various ways, usually based on misconceptions about how the world worked. Some folks did understand how the wor…
/r/TheRedPill27/01/16 08:51 PM
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My view is that TRP does not tell you what to be or what to do or what to want. It is up to you to determine that. It is a collection of facts presented in a fairly straightforward way in order to help you get what you want out of life. You want to fuck lot's of women, here are some strategies that will help you. You want to find a good woman to settle down with, here are strategies that you can use to protect yourself. You want to remove sex from your life to focus on yourself, here are some fa…
/r/TheRedPill27/01/16 07:50 PM
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That is exactly the concept being presented. Your situation may work for you, If your man is truly feminine it could be great. However, it will likely be very unfullfilling for a masculine man to pair with you. If he is suppressing his nature, as in trying to please you and change his true core - it will be a struggle.
/r/TheRedPill27/01/16 01:00 AM
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The thing is, I am not telling anyone to be anything. I am stating an observed perspective that by being feminine and pursuing and presenting feminine character traits - you will attract the polar opposite - a masculine female. That by being more assertive and stoic, more masculine, you will attract a more feminine woman. Most relationships are somewhere in the middle, with a softer man pairing with a woman who can think and function in society and have a job and do things. That by being closer …
/r/TheRedPill27/01/16 12:58 AM
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Yes, this post is heavily influenced by his philosophy coupled with my own experiences.
/r/TheRedPill27/01/16 12:50 AM
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Reading Daniel Rose Sex God Method changed my life.
/r/TheRedPill27/01/16 12:50 AM
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I think you will find plenty of white trailer park queens who love disability checks to. So I would say it has more to do with class than race. Now ask yourself, how feminine or masculine are these women you are referring to? What do they wear, how do they communicate, do they convey feminine traits?
/r/TheRedPill25/01/16 09:23 PM
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Thank you for your well thought out reply. Other than the alpha/beta division which effectively is used as a classifier for whether a man is dominant or submissive, nobody really needs to know all these different subtypes, it's not integral to sorting out your life, so if by "what a load of crap" you mean "knowing about these things is not necessary to being a complete man" then we agree. But if you mean "these archetypes pertaining to different men don't exist" then that's where we would disagr…
/r/TheRedPill25/01/16 09:10 PM
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I have never read it or heard of it.
/r/TheRedPill25/01/16 08:23 PM
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Allot of insecure women end up being masculine women. You know, the angry at the world type that just wants to cause harm and throw down. She'll still want a man to toss her around but no man can because she's to heavy. I think this is a fantastic point, but I did not want to get off on the tangent above. Consider a healthy, attractive young woman. Top of the charts in sexual market place value as is the common way to describe them here. She can be feminine, but as she ages.. and hits that "wall…
/r/TheRedPill25/01/16 05:25 PM
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A masculine man will repel masculine women like two north poles of a set of magnets. A masculine man will repel masculine women like two north poles of a set of magnets. She'll repel you more than she repels you, because she'll still want a masculine man. Thank you, I agree, and have corrected the above sentence.
/r/TheRedPill25/01/16 12:46 PM
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Nature is a beautiful thing. The strongest survive. The strongest pass on their genetics. The bottom 5% do not pass on genetics because that is terrible strategy for the success of our species. It just doesn't work that way. If you are in the bottom 5%, either get your shit together and increase your value or accept your lot in life. Those are truly your only two options. No one wants a 400 pound dark triad, do not kid yourself. It doesn't work like that, you will not be mind fucking some girl i…
/r/TheRedPill24/01/16 09:33 PM
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TRP is not a movement. It is about being a better man.. do not listen to men who want to be a better woman. Downvote the shit out of that non-sense.
/r/TheRedPill24/01/16 09:29 PM
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Ever changed jobs? Do you ever call your old companies to ask how things are? Of course not. It doesn't help you and it doesn't help them.. it's awkward, it's uncomfortable, and it in no way can be beneficial to your goals in life.
/r/TheRedPill20/01/16 05:29 PM
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The guys are busting on you but they are correct. Go ahead, prove it for yourself. Field test it. tinder up 20 girls, do 10 one way, do 10 the other. Report back with number of dates and lays. Facts trump opinions.
/r/TheRedPill20/01/16 12:13 AM
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that's not a shit test. You offered multiple days, multiple places, even across town. Then offered to change it again? You were way too available. Go back and look at OP's text strategy, he has the right idea.
/r/TheRedPill20/01/16 12:11 AM
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Alphas don't love? Women don't love? That's silly, they both have the capacity for the hormonal activities I explained above. What you might be getting at is that chemically speaking, testosterone is a natural agonist to oxytocin and it reduces oxytocin in the body. A man producing more testosterone will not be as likely to be blinded by love. Subsequently, sleeping with multiple partners reduces the ability to pair bond with a single partner. Therefore a man who has multiple partners - especial…
/r/TheRedPill18/01/16 06:03 PM
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Love is a set of brain chemicals, feel good reward circuit brain chemicals. They are released as a relationship forms, usually in response to what you have trained your brain to feel familiar with. Dopamine - the got to get it drug. The chase of a woman, the thrill of a new relationship. Leading up to the first kiss, first sex, the hunt. Serotonin - the got it drug. The satiated feeling after sex, after release, after achievement. Oxytocin - the connection and feeling trusted/accepted drug. Rele…
/r/TheRedPill18/01/16 02:31 PM
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You sound extremely invested in what these folks think about you. That by itself is not a terrible thing, as you should protect your reputation. But your motivation for doing so does not sound like you are protecting yourself for the right reasons - ie - your current and future happiness. It sounds like your motivation is because you want them to like you and have some innate need for that to happen. Apologizing when you have done nothing wrong is icky.. and people will notice it. Avoiding confr…
/r/TheRedPill16/01/16 02:04 AM
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of course it is. It literally is as simple as saying. "this is canceled". let her siblings take their anger out on her for ruining it. or not.. and let her do whatever without repercussions.. which is probably why you are in the situation you are in.
/r/TheRedPill15/01/16 04:52 AM
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His post is not about being an effective communicator. It is about online dating, and the period of time between you meet a girl on okc, pof or tinder and before you fuck her. That period of time is a limbo. During that period of time, you are not real. Neither is she to you. Untill both of you are standing in front of each other, neither are real. She has seen your pictures, and you have seen hers. That initial attraction is all that matters until you see her. What omlala is very correctly stat…
/r/TheRedPill15/01/16 03:34 AM
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you are not doing your kids a favor here.. they are not as dumb as you think. Do you really think cheating, and then getting divorced on her terms benefits them? Picture yourself in 20 years, your child comes to you - says, "dad, I am in this awful marriage and miserable. there is no love, my partner is terrible and unkind. I just want to be happy again" Is your advice to that child to go fuck someone at their work? Or is it to take control of their life and make their happiness important to the…
/r/TheRedPill17/11/15 08:55 AM
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trp is not a movement, it is not about saving anyone but yourself.
/r/TheRedPill17/11/15 08:22 AM
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I wish there was a way to give you one half of an up-vote, since you only wrote half of the topic you claimed you would cover. I like the direction you are going in, but it seems like a rough draft that you just gave up on halfway through it.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/15 05:00 PM
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My family was in shock. Her family were in shock. Friends were in shock. "How? You guys were made for each other!" Yeah, tell me about it. She goes ahead and puts all our memories and promises and goals down the toilet. Why? I couldn't comprehend it. You could not comprehend how leaving a girl for three years would end like that? You can not comprehend how being completely unavailable for years would result in that? We all have needs.. her needs were unmet, so she made changes to get them met. I…
/r/TheRedPill02/11/15 09:38 AM
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You sound like a 22 year old a-hole who has never been married. Well, I'm 40, was married 15 years. You do sound pathetic. If she wants to slut around, that's ok? Why are you even married to this women if you don't care who's dick she is on as long as it isn't yours?
/r/TheRedPill01/11/15 07:26 PM
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If you are not fucking her, someone else is. She might be fine with that.
/r/TheRedPill01/11/15 06:32 PM
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That's why we call it frame. You framed yourself as doing something wrong when you apologized, therefore - you did something wrong.
/r/TheRedPill29/10/15 09:16 PM
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"Buy me candy!" -- "No, I already spent XX, bitch!" no way.. you'll get fat and no one will ever love you.
/r/TheRedPill24/10/15 07:19 PM
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TRP does not tell you what to do with the knowledge, other than to get what you want from life. If you want to fuck sluts, use the knowledge to do so. If you want to find a LTR, use this knowledge to do so. If you want to exploit women for fun or profit, use the knowledge to do so. TRP is amoral. Sexual strategy is amoral. Here is an analogy. In 2007 and early 2008, it was quite clear to anyone paying attention that the global debt market was locking up and stressed beyond belief. Those that did…
/r/TheRedPill24/10/15 06:58 PM
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Their nature is monstrous and it's only a question of time before her hypergamous alter ego rears its head. That is incorrect. It is a statement based in fear. You do not know that. Women are not "monstrous", any more than chocolate labs are monstrous. Any more than men are "monstrous". We are wired by our biology, yes, but there is more to it. My dog will eat a steak if I cook it - put it on a plate - set it on the coffee table and go pee. She will. I still love her. It doesn't make her a monst…
/r/askTRP20/10/15 06:45 AM
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Your relationship was based on who you were on entering the relationship. If you are changing course now, there will be turmoil. Perhaps you are disrupting the power dynamic - and perhaps that is the issue. Perhaps you are just showing a drastically different face and she questions if you are still the man she fell for. Some relationships will not survive the power struggle. If you care for this woman, consider her needs and adapt accordingly. More than likely, you will discover it is MUCH easie…
/r/askTRP20/10/15 06:29 AM
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I am going to disagree with you here. To me, this sounds like you have been practicing martial arts for maybe a few weeks and this guy is blowing smoke up your ass and you are eating it up. It is not a choice to have feelings, and thinking you can choose your feelings is silly. You choose your actions. You control you, and by performing actions - consciously and deliberately - in time you will change your thoughts by creating new patterns in your neural pathways. Stoicism is not ignoring your fe…
/r/TheRedPill19/10/15 02:52 PM
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after two failed marriages, a "man sale", five kids, 30k in in child support debt step 1 is getting the vasectomy scheduled. step 2 is making your needs important to you. .. worry about step 3 later..
/r/TheRedPill16/10/15 05:48 AM
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Bulletpoints in answers please for easier reading. First off, this really should go to asktrp. Second, bulletpoints only to make it easier for you? Fuck you. It is no one's job to spoonfeed you answers. Find your own answers. Use the format specified, give something to the community. You do neither, you do not even want conversation.. If you were on a podium in front of 133,000 people, is this what you would say? what a useless crap post.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/15 05:27 AM
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Feelings are more powerful than logic for women. Mr. Homeless generated a lot of emotion in that woman. Emotion in any context means you are occupying real estate in a woman's mind. How many guys here have been cheated on by a girl who dropped that name of the guy she slept with by saying how much of an asshole he was? Generating any emotion is more powerful than being invisible.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/15 07:59 PM
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agreed.. "I really like you.. I am going to take you to the finest taco bell in the city, and I want to you to get any two things you want from the dollar menu."
/r/TheRedPill07/10/15 02:48 AM
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This is soo critical. Many fine folks here fall into the belief that if they read this book or watch this youtube video, or read another TRP post - it will sink in. You cannot logic yourself into change, your actions define your thoughts. Our thoughts are made up of neural networks. And we use the same "paths" in those networks. The way to change those paths is to make new ones. Actions make new paths, reading does not. This is key why something like no more mr nice guy is so worthwhile, but onl…
/r/TheRedPill30/09/15 12:42 AM
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I am interested
/r/TheRedPill23/09/15 01:31 AM
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OP's post aligns with my experience as well. If you show a sign of weakness and everything falls apart, that means you have not been congruent to date and her seeing you show a form of weakness makes her realize how fake you have been. Tingles is not love, tingles is lust. Love is a set of brain chemicals formed mostly by the release of oxytocin in women coupled with what they have trained their brain to respond to. Really, it means you fuck them right and make them earn your atttention and affe…
/r/TheRedPill17/09/15 11:22 PM
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http://www.redpillhandbook.com/ handbook v2 and sidebar pdfs.. let the kungfu download begin..
/r/TheRedPill16/09/15 05:49 AM
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Stop approaching women right now. That comes later. What your lawyer thinks of your ex means nothing. What police tell you off the record means nothing. Currently, she will spin this as you kidnapped your children, and are keeping them in a hotel. You are at war, and you need to keep that thought in your mind at all times. As for tips or resources, first - do not contact her again. Do not see her, and especially do not see her in a setting where it is just you and her. Do not fuck her. Hard next…
/r/TheRedPill12/09/15 10:57 PM
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I wanted to give him some extra spank bank material while I'm working Bullshit radar detected, no woman talks like this.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/15 10:49 PM
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Feeling shitty the next day is most commonly due to electrolyte imbalance. ie - not enough salt. Potassium, Sodium, Magnesium are the three pillars of electrolytes. Going with protein focused diet, you will not get enough salt thus, will encounter what is commonly called keto flu. Feeling sluggish and shitty.. Simple solution is to drink pickle juice. Also, Mortons "Lite Salt" has a good bit of sodium and potassium. Use it for every meal if you are going to go carb lite.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/15 07:46 PM
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make your peace, but protect yourself doing it. Do it for you, not her. My mother passed away 2 years ago, and while she gave me a lot of toxic messages, I made peace with her on my terms. In time, your mom will also pass, it'll hurt. Take the time you have now to find what you need. You can hold your own frame, you can do this on your terms. You do not even need to do it perfect, but it is worth doing.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/15 06:22 AM
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and apologizing.. saying he was in the wrong made him being wrong real. that's why we call it frame, he framed himself as being wrong. therefore he is.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/15 05:54 AM
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add "right now" to whatever she says she is feeling.. If she says, "I love you" .. interpret that as "I love you right now". simple.
/r/TheRedPill30/08/15 11:40 PM
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A man should trust himself.. then it doesn't matter. Maybe she is lying, maybe not. Time will show all secrets, no matter what they are, as long as you trust yourself - you will handle it.
/r/TheRedPill30/08/15 11:35 PM
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Your takeaway is wrong. If you hold the power in the relationship, she will be on your side. I have seen the fierce power of this. If you are on the wrong side of the power side in the relationship, you get what you described. The lesson is not that your girl is not on your side, the lesson is don't be a bitch.
/r/TheRedPill30/08/15 11:32 PM
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Monogamy isn’t the norm in the animal kingdom, by far. So why do we so hungrily desire this form of relationship? Because our brains developed differently from other animals? Seriously, we commonly accept that men's brains and women's brains are wired differently - but did you consider that humans brains are wired different from deer? Take an animal this did evolve similar to ours, the prairy vole. http://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/what-can-rodents-tell-us-about-why-humans-love-180949…
/r/TheRedPill27/08/15 12:30 AM
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"unless we have a specific conversation stating otherwise, assume I am seeing other people".
/r/TheRedPill25/08/15 03:58 AM
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No. You take the lead, if she wants to follow she will. If she truly hates your dinner pick she will say something. She can offer an alternative, or you can choose again, or you can just do what you wanted in the first place. Of course not every woman wants to be dominated. Only about 80% of women are feminine at their core. Only about 80% of men are masculine at their core. When a man becomes more masculine, and is paired with a woman that is feminine, she will soften. She will follow the lead.…
/r/TheRedPill22/08/15 05:19 AM
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first, it's a fitness test for us as the pack leader. Do you want to make the decision and stand by it/defend it? It is simply the feminine wants to yield. She wants you to be the leader, thus the decision maker. If she doesn't like your decision sure she will say something. What she is saying is that she trusts your decision. And that by forcing her to make the decision, she must become more masculine to offset your indecisiveness. This is why most women do not like feminine men, it repulses th…
/r/TheRedPill22/08/15 05:14 AM
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Which again is why masculine and feminine are better more accurate descriptions instead of alpha beta. His comment is still accurate, just swap those words in.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/15 05:08 AM
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you girlfriended her in a few days an were writing her love letters? jeesus fuck man. you were not where you thought you were to begin with. Go back to seduction sub, this is what they practice - and by their standards, you did well. You lied and faked it, got laid. Got discovered by your actions, words, body language, got tossed.
/r/TheRedPill21/08/15 01:04 AM
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I like: "Unless we have a very specific conversation stating otherwise, you need to assume I am seeing other people" up front in the first date or two. It sets the tone of the relationship without rubbing her face in it. You do not have to explain or defend it either. It just is, communicated subtly, but with just a hint of possible commitment down the road that she would have to work for.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/15 04:52 PM
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TRP is not a movement, the only one you can save is yourself. It is not about changing the world, it is about changing yourself. Stop trying to change the world, this only dilutes the message.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/15 06:23 PM
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He was a feminist at heart. He believed that women in control was the natural order of things, and that men being in control fucks everything up. https://books.google.com.au/books?id=LV2PABIiE1UC&lpg=PA149&vq=briffault%20feminist&pg=PA149#v=onepage&q&f=false
/r/TheRedPill18/08/15 08:25 PM
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that site appears to also be hosting the sidebar docs
/r/TheRedPill18/08/15 04:00 PM
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All relationships can end at any time. In the past three years I have been in a few LTR's, and I ended up ending every single one of them. Big waterworks from the girls each time too. In your scenario, you are painting the woman as the one who has all the power in the relationship. Just do not be that guy.. You can have a spine and a heart. You can enjoy love, giving and receiving. As long as you you can get out if it stops serving your needs, getting "in" is not that scary.
/r/TheRedPill11/08/15 03:01 AM
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you got a long way to go still.. you are wrong, but that's ok. It isn't about what other people do, it's about what you do. What do you want? What are you prepared to do to get it?
/r/TheRedPill07/08/15 09:49 PM
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Here's my list of what actually works. Work hard, yes. work hard, if you do not enjoy the work - either suck it up or find something you like. Your first ten years should be all about reputation. work ethic, integrity, personal relationships. Do not trow people under the bus. Move jobs every 2-4 years in your first 10 years. Make moves for cash. So many people get a "good" job and stay there forever. Most of the time you do not make big moves up in the same company, you need to move up by making…
/r/TheRedPill07/08/15 08:42 PM
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TL;DR If you're ever in a situation where you are helping someone swallow the red pill or understand why modern feminism is a "Trainwreck" then show them this video. No. If you personally can not articulate why you feel or think something, shut your mouth. Educate yourself before you speak. If you cannot speak on the subject from knowledge, then you are just following another persons agenda. And something as simple as feminism, you should know the key points. If you do not know the points and ar…
/r/TheRedPill02/08/15 06:06 PM
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Would you say this applies to all jobs, even if you work at McDonald's? Yes, it doesn't matter if you work at little ceasars pizza or for exxon mobile - your job description, always can be summarized as make your boss look good. I usually don't talk much to co-workers unless it's work-related. Is this the best way to handle it? you need to protect your reputation at work. No one will do it for you. This really is not something you should laugh off. My question being; Has anyone here had experien…
/r/TheRedPill01/08/15 02:08 PM
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8/1 - last night was an early night, in bed at 10:30pm, woke at 3am but right back to sleep, woke up at 6:30 had morning sex with girlfriend who spent the night, and then I got out of bed at 7:30. - 8 hours 8/2 - late night, home at 5:30am (after 3 hours of horizontal cardio), into bed, awake at 11:30 - 6 hours. 8/3 - 7 hours 8/4 - I attempted to get a good nights sleep last night, forced myself into bed with melatonin at 11:30, fell asleep around 12:30. then woke up 3, then woke fully at 5. 4.5…
/r/TheRedPill01/08/15 12:34 PM
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challenge accepted.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/15 05:44 PM
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well, if he is looking for trust and emotional connection, it's an oxytocin kick he is after. edit to add, increasing testosterone will reduce the desire for oxytocin, it is the bodies natural agonist.
/r/TheRedPill29/07/15 11:41 PM
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Which is why the terms masculine and feminine are more useful than men and women. I see feminine men all the time that are just bitches, and behave in the same emotional needy way we refer to "women". I have known a few women, usually older, who are intelligent, logical and hard workers. They are masculine women.
/r/TheRedPill29/07/15 07:09 PM
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I say what I think. sometimes I am down-voted, sometimes I am up-voted. Neither truly matter.. In the words of a more versed man than myself.. If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two impostors just the same; http://www.poetryfoundation.org/poem/175772 Let these people who do not know me judge me, I am ok with that. I do not need to delete anything.
/r/TheRedPill29/07/15 04:48 AM
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you were not fucking her right...
/r/TheRedPill26/07/15 05:14 AM
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is like winning the special olympics. so.. even if you win, you're still retarded?
/r/TheRedPill23/07/15 09:18 PM
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You probably need to understand that she is already fucking someone else, and if I honest, probably has been for some time. You stopped being attractive, she bonded with new friends. She ditched you on valentines day to hang out with others? Dude it was over then. You were living together, and then she moved out on July 1st? Dude, it's been over. Relationships do not move backwards like that. You need to move on.
/r/TheRedPill22/07/15 04:23 AM
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Doubtful, because it is not legal. That is not how the real world works, so they created it as a plot device.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/15 07:16 PM
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This is good news in my opinion. It will reduce the amount of users that swing in, completely unable to contribute and unwilling to learn. For those searching for answers, the term "Red Pill" is literally everywhere these days. Every blog, every men focused site is aware of us. From Roosh to No More Mr Nice Guy forums. If someone is seeking answers they will find it. Those just trolling around looking for bullshit may not find us, but in my opinion, that just means less garbage posts to deal wit…
/r/TheRedPill16/07/15 10:15 PM
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http://www.redpillhandbook.com/
/r/TheRedPill16/07/15 06:03 AM
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Down voting puzzlement: Not sure why my post got severely down voted. Because nowhere in your post did you convey anything that resembled frame. You have the emotional hose firmly connected and are allowing her feelings to define your feelings. In the conversation that ensued, probably 80% of it was me defending myself for having looked in her briefcase. She transferred her guilt to you, and you took it. You fell right into defending yourself, explaining yourself, rationalizing yourself. To her …
/r/TheRedPill16/07/15 04:08 AM
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and it applies to men as well. More partners means that the pair bonding mechanism gets weaker. As we have more partners we do not build stronger bonds with new partners. Do you think someone like Roosh can have a serious marriage? Of course not. To see this in action, what is the cure for oneitis? go fuck new women. Invest less in her than she invests in you. While RP may try to ignore that, the truth is simply that whoever is less invested in the relationship has the power. If the power is in …
/r/TheRedPill14/07/15 08:14 PM
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How old are you now? Are you out of the toxic living environment and on your feet? What are you doing to stop the "victim" mindset and stand.. no.. excel on your own?
/r/TheRedPill08/07/15 05:24 AM
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Me either, I have two kids to raise. They need me, I have no safety net. I will not be helping them by dieing. The only one I can save is myself.
/r/TheRedPill08/07/15 05:17 AM
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then do not post useless posts?
/r/TheRedPill26/06/15 11:42 PM
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No. I do not think so. A small lapse in frame does not erase a girl who is into you like that. And your story doesn't line up for timeline to support that anyway. I've been seeing this girl for a month and everything was going great. After dinner things go to the bedroom but it turns out she's on her period so we can only make out for a while. I open up emotionally. Right then she tells me she's actually not on her period and wants to have sex. Look at that order of events. She didn't reject you…
/r/TheRedPill26/06/15 09:20 PM
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I learned this the hard way. Sure, it's easy to 'hold frame' behind you computer screen but in the moment it's easy to forget that frame even exists for beginners like myself. "Everyone has a plan 'till they get punched in the mouth." Mike Tyson
/r/TheRedPill25/06/15 05:55 PM
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playing pool on a first date, girl is touching my arms and chest. her: ohh, you must work out. her: don't get too big me: you too
/r/TheRedPill23/06/15 05:19 PM
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If I had known a few years ago what I know now, I probably could have saved my marriage... but if I had known then what I know now, why the hell would I have wanted to?
/r/TheRedPill19/06/15 09:56 PM
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Solipsism; from Latin solus, meaning "alone", and ipse, meaning "self") is the philosophical idea that only one's own mind is sure to exist. We speak of this term here, but I do not think it is as widely understood as it should be. Solipsism means everything is only relevant on how it makes her feel about herself. A woman's empathy for another woman who was just cheated on? she can feel how that feels and understands it, it hurts her feels, so yes, she has empathy. A woman feeling disrespected b…
/r/TheRedPill17/06/15 05:19 PM
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umm.. I do not think rape scenes start with enthusiastic blowjobs. that's pretty much the definition of how consensual sex works..
/r/TheRedPill05/06/15 10:21 AM
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Your brain can be fooled even if it knows it is not real. That is why we can be afraid of a scary movie. We consciously know it is not real, but the lower parts of the brain will react as though the situation is real, and thus release brain chemicals because of it. A scary movie will give you more adrenaline, because in a real situation you may need to actually fight or flight. Watching porn is along the same line, you may consciously know it is not real, but on some level your body is reacting …
/r/TheRedPill03/06/15 01:46 AM
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Of course they are deceptive, it is their nature. The point of the post is for men to begin to accept it, instead of being angry about it. If a man appends the words "right now" to everything he hears.. as in "i love you .. right now", he will be better fitted for the real world. It is not that women are honest, it is that women are driven by emotion, and emotion and feelings change like the weather.
/r/TheRedPill02/06/15 07:19 PM
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That's a bad pony and you should not bet on her. ditch that bitch
/r/TheRedPill02/06/15 06:49 PM
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no more mr nice guy - robert glover - every man should read this, and do the exercises. it will take some time, and it will be the best investment in yourself you can do. Three years ago, this book saved my life. way of the superior man - david deida.. (this post) .. it's a bit new age-ish.. but there is something to be gained from it when i say no I feel guilty.. this is a lesson in assertiveness. exercises, things to learn and practice. how to win friends and influence people.. it still stands…
/r/TheRedPill02/06/15 06:42 PM
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I don't think the vast majority of guys under 29-30 here are really going to take all that much value from this text. That's probably accurate. However, there are 115 thousand subscribers here. I am sure there is a percentage that this message will resonate with. For them, they should take the message and learn from it. Sure, anger is actually very good. It generates action, and many of the boys here need to be active. They need to channel that anger into productive energy, to be a better man in…
/r/TheRedPill02/06/15 05:09 PM
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I agree with you and I hope your comment makes it to the top. The point is not to lose yourself into the romanticism, the point is to understand that a woman is indeed fickle. She is a changing cloud in the sky. The point of this post is not to excuse women's bullshit, it is a viewpoint to replace anger with acceptance. There is a lot of anger in TRP, and I want to simply be the change I want to see. You can choose to see a woman for what she is, a woman. You can accept that and enjoy it. You mu…
/r/TheRedPill02/06/15 04:46 PM
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You did not gain 5 pounds of muscle in a week.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/15 10:34 PM
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I was going to quote the exact same block. Only my response is that you get the behavior you reward. When she acts in a way that displeases you, do not fuck her. ignore or punish, but certainly remove your attention from her. That's positive attention and negative attention, give her zero.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/15 10:32 PM
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She thinks, this problem makes me feel bad emotions, I associate these emotions with this person, so this person must be punished. Revenge becomes the primary motivating factor as she lashes out at anybody she feels to responsible for the negative emotions that she’s experiencing as a result of the responsibility she cannot deflect away from her position of authority. you just described every mans experience with divorce
/r/TheRedPill29/05/15 06:27 AM
2

She promised me I could count on her and that when I needed her she'd be there, but when the time came that promise was worthless. code for "I was needy, it exhausted her." Take responsibility for yourself man, this is your fault; not hers. You made a poor choice for dating, you lost frame, she tired of you needing her, she left you for something more fun. Go read the sidebar. A woman you are dating should never let you down because you should never depend on her. Hell, she's 21.. who trusts a 2…
/r/TheRedPill29/05/15 03:04 AM
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This is why we tell men to avoid high partner count women, it changes our ability to pair strongly with a single mate in the future. The same principles and mechanisms apply to both sexes. Have oneitis? go sleep with 10 women, you will no longer be strongly paired with her/ or anyone for that matter. Granted, men have testosterone, which reduces the flood of oxytocin; but it's still the same mechanism.
/r/TheRedPill26/05/15 06:25 PM
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I love my dog. she is a chocolate lab named Daisy. she just turned two in february. I trained her since she was a puppy, she does sit, stay, ball, leave it, no, go to your spot. she is loving and enjoyable to be around. she also is high energy and sometimes a pain in the ass. but the good outweighs the bad. I also know that if I cook myself a steak, and then set it down on the coffee table and leave the room to go pee, she's going to eat it. I cannot be mad at her for eating my steak, she's a do…
/r/TheRedPill24/05/15 06:16 PM
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I do know about the context of dopamine, and the Op is not that far off the mark. Your condescending reply however is the bullshit post. In the context of brain chemistry, 3 chemicals make up the primary responses in regards to reward circuits. There are plenty more, but dopamine, seratonin and oxytocin are the main ones. your brain also produces dopamine when you drink water is this why water game works? Throwing the word dopamine in your explanation doesn't mean shit unless you specify the amo…
/r/TheRedPill24/05/15 12:48 AM
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hi "a woman".. people hate this sub because of something called "cognitive dissonance". cognitive dissonance is the root of all depression and anger generally speaking. it means you have two competing thoughts in your head at the same time that the brain cannot resolve. Examples of cognitive dissonance that affect people. love is forever, divorce/death/infidelity. one cannot experience the latter and hold to the belief in the former. It causes depression and anger because the mind cannot hold tw…
/r/TheRedPill23/05/15 07:33 PM
2

don't listen to nice guy on audiobook in the car. read the book, when you reach an exercise stop reading the book. do the exercise. some of them take a week to perform. do them, write about them if you want to collect your thoughts. you cannot logic yourself into change. you cannot think yourself into change. actions are what change thought patterns. do actions, do the exercises. doing them will rewire parts of your brain which results in absorption of the material. what you are doing is the equ…
/r/TheRedPill22/05/15 08:07 PM
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It is not so much the pat on the head from a woman that keeps them in this track. So many men grow up being raised by single mothers, and soo many little boys grow up telling themselves what they will not be when they grow up. They listen to absolute poison from a young age, and promise themselves all these things they will never be. That pat on the head is from themselves... because they do not have a clue how much they have swallowed a pack of lies and the cognitive dissonance to confront it i…
/r/TheRedPill22/05/15 06:34 AM
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I was under the impression that Susan wanted to have sex with me. The way that she talked to me and everything she said indicated that she wanted to have sex with me. But Susan didn't want to have sex with me. Susan lied to me with her heart. No she probably wanted to have sex with you, you just failed the shit test. She did not lie to you because you do not understand the language. She enjoyed her time with you in the "right now" sense. She did not lie, she just followed her feelings. If your g…
/r/TheRedPill22/05/15 02:25 AM
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go out and meet real people. go talk to real women, you will find most are not feminazis at all. most men do not get false-rape charged. If you only see women through the eyes of the internet, especially this damn place, you will have a hugely misguided sense of what women are. My mom used to watch fox news all the time, she was convinced that we were ten seconds away from disaster at any minute of the day. That doesn't make it true, she just got her news (and perspective) from a poor source.
/r/TheRedPill16/05/15 09:45 PM
6

Do not send that.. 2 things here friend. It's Friday, making plans for Wednesday- 5 days away- with a 22 year old is forever. She will be approached 20 times between now and then. She may get a better offer in that time and doesn't want to limit herself. of course between now and Wednesday you may self destruct and over text or whatever.. again, she doesn't want to commit to something far away. You have a much smaller window of attraction than you think you do. Second thing - if a woman replies …
/r/askTRP16/05/15 05:03 AM
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I like to be clear and up front, I like this sentence and do not talk about anymore after. No need to discuss other girls or dates. "unless we have a very specific conversation saying otherwise, you should assume I am seeing other people".
/r/TheRedPill14/05/15 10:22 PM
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people like naturals. no one likes a faker. talking about redpill is like the guy who says if he pretends to be a dick he will get laid. he has this entire strategy, he fishes ATM receipts out of the trash in convenience stores so girls will find them and think he is worth more than he is. yeah.. he is a shitpile. a phony. the guy who just floats through life, falling ass backwards into money and pussy.. yeah, everyone loves that guy.
/r/askTRP14/05/15 03:50 AM
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who cares? you are competing with yourself. you should focus on being the best man you can be. Focusing on others is a distraction you do not need.
/r/askTRP14/05/15 03:46 AM
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you have to escalate. you do not go from 0 to blowjob with a girl you just met. it doesn't work that way. kino is the touch form of escalation. Look for the kino ladder if you are new to this, but basically it states that first you start easy, a touch on the arm, shoulder, back, then legs.. then isolate her, get her out of social light, your place, hers. Then go for the makeout. Once things heat up and clothes are coming off, you usually do not have to ask for the blowjob, it just happens. Now, …
/r/askTRP14/05/15 03:33 AM
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He also says that many relationships will not survive you getting healthier and that it will bring to light this situation. Sharing the book can be good or bad. If your goal is to save your marriage, no, never share. She does not want to see a weak man "cheating" to appear to be better which is what she will see. If your goal is to make yourself stronger and find a better relationship, sure. One of two things will happen. 1) she will shame you for your past and efforts at which case you must end…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/15 02:53 AM
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I fundamentally disagree. You will never be perfect, life is a journey, not a destination. Having a mindset that you have to wait until you are ready is very self limiting. You have a choice here, the choice is "ok, right now, you're healed, now what?" Go out there and live your life for you. Yes, you will make mistakes. That's fine. Yes, you will nuke relationships with girls you care about, that's fine, they're are new girls being made everyday. Do not settle for crap women because you think y…
/r/TheRedPill14/05/15 12:05 AM
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"your right.. this isn't working for me either, I'll help you pack"
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 07:37 PM
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She clearly either does not understand or respect my needs. not exactly. she just does not find you attractive.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 07:36 PM
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just put a shot of tobasco in them and toss it..
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 06:45 AM
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the mechanism is called the fade.. create an non-judgement zone, fuck her right and let her talk. let her be open and free .. and if you hear something you deem unworthy, stop texting her. stop seeing her. just fade. never try to save a ho. never try to explain what her repercussions will be. I have seen women stay on the "carousel" into their 40s or later. There is always a thirsty bitch who wants to fuck her. let it go, it's not your job to save her. fade that bitch and move on..
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 06:43 AM
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turn off your tv and join reality. this is a scripted tv show, there is nothing to learn from it.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 06:40 AM
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increased dopamine through fast reward activities leads to down-regulated dopamine in the brain. sex addiction, porn addiction, video game addiction, internet addiction, gambling addiction.. etc. not unlike tolerance to alcohol. so you need the fix more often to feel normal. this is basic neurochemsitry. sure it feels good, you are hitting reward circuits in the brain. same as drinking, or anything else that surges dopamine. taken too far, you can develop problems. everything in moderation.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 06:12 AM
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get the meme shit off of here. talk like a man and say what you have to say without trying to cutsy it up.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 05:53 AM
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when you improve yourself, it forces those around you to look at their own choices and they will lash out at you instead of dealing with their own shit. my advice to you is to move out and stand on your own feet. you are a grown up. act like one.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 05:49 AM
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go read the dopamine thread in trp. it's the same thing, the chase, one more , one more.. it's the same with porn (google prairy voles and porn), video games, gambling, drugs, etc. you need to rebalanced your brain neurotransmitters. same as all addiction
/r/askTRP12/05/15 05:12 AM
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that's a ton of words, which directly equates to the amount of emotion you have tied up in this question. i am going to guess that some girl teased you and never put out. you entered her frame and left your own. from now on, "you get dick when I say you get dick". next her and never speak of this shit again
/r/askTRP12/05/15 05:10 AM
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Now I am not a bad looking guy myself and have been told I am handsome a good bit of times from different people .. the buying public is never wrong. if they are not buying your product they are telling you that they do not like your product. If you find rejection often, the problem is you. It could be physical, it could be neediness, I dunno.. something is completely not attractive. Look inward, not to your brownness.
/r/askTRP12/05/15 05:07 AM
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sure.. do what you want. I suggest something light and funny.. "what's my third favorite brat up to tonight?"
/r/askTRP12/05/15 05:04 AM
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are you done with your victim puke? have you exhausted your supply of blame for where you are today? what do you want in life? what are you prepared to do to get it? shut up with the ohh poor me, I wasn't loved enough. No one was. get over yourself, you are not special. And the next generation of bastard children raised by single mothers will be just the same. grow up, never speak of this shit again. own yourself, unfuck your head and get on with life.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 05:02 AM
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He takes care of my mom, takes her out to nice dinners, provides for her and for me, a roof over my head. Full stop. You are living there? You are a grown man, and you are living in his house. If you do not like what he is doing, you need to stand on your own two feet and move out and grow up. You cannot save anyone but yourself.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/15 06:10 PM
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so many posts, and it's like no one even saw the Dopamine post that got stickied a few days ago. porn and video games have a huge potential to be overall net-negative for your brain chemistry. our bodies have something call homeostasis. It means, it tries to always achieve balance. If you are hitting the reward circuits for dopamine with porn or video games, (or gambling, or overeating, or drugs for that matter), your brain will stop producing it on its own as much. Then your brain goes into a p…
/r/TheRedPill10/05/15 12:48 AM
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four weeks of back and forth. After I confronted her she was very apologetic and loving and remorseful. She denied just about everything, and little by little more and more came out as I asked questions. I spent a lot of energy trying to get to the bottom of lies and things in her story that just didn't jive. It drove me crazy. At the end of 4 weeks I was exhausted trying to prove she loved me, prove what was a lie and what wasn't. I forgave her, told her that whatever happened was in the past a…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/15 03:43 AM
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She has since tried to leave things at my place to "mark her territory". I tell her that I am going to hide them as soon as she leaves I have what is called the "lost and found".. it is a drawer in my dresser where shit that gets left behind goes. Once a woman sees her hair clip mixed in with bras and ripped panties, she gets the point. When she texts after a visit that she left something, my only reply was that I'll toss it in the lost and found. ignore words and observe actions, sure they will…
/r/TheRedPill07/05/15 10:34 PM
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No idea why you got downvoted, this is exactly correct. Long standing science says announcing your plans before doing them will de-motivate you. Because just announcing it gives you the validation and sense of completeness. https://sivers.org/zipit ignore words and watch actions, that applies to yourself as well.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/15 04:13 PM
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I learned more about women by taking lessons on dog training and dancing than anything else. ..this post is about compliments, but the bigger picture is "attention". your attention is the prize. negative attention or positive attention, it really doesn't matter. If you reward bad behavior you will get more of it. If she is doing something that makes you unhappy, ignore or punish. For small infractions, ignore. Here are the levels to react with. 1) stfu - shut the fuck up. just go silent. 2) leav…
/r/TheRedPill06/05/15 03:38 PM
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I have been in your shoes. 13 years married, two kids. she was cheating. I found SMS text messages, and confronted. she trickle truthed me, meaning as time went on I heard one more detail after another. we did marriage counseling, and the cuselor gave me the same advice you are getting from others.. the var - voice recorder, check her phone, install a key logger.. and I did all of it. It was aweful. I spent soo much enery trying to find out, trying to prove she did or did not do something. It's …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/15 02:17 AM
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No I do not regret it. But you raise a valid point. Having multiple partners outside of a committed relationship does reduce your ability to pair bond. In both men and women. I do not know how anyone can argue that. What is the cure for when a man has oneitis? Go sleep with other women, by increasing your partner count you see how many options you have and will not attach as strongly to a single partner. Stretched further, women can become almost interchangeable. http://media.giphy.com/media/B4l…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/15 06:38 PM
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I do not understand your question.. was there one? That incident taught me a lot about how women cannot be trusted to be loyal unless they have a selfish reason to be loyal. They treat it as a burden and constantly look for ways to get rid of it. well.. that's a bit of horseshit. your girl calls you on losing frame and the lesson you took away is all bitches are selfish? there are things you can control and things you cannot. other people are outside of your control, be it a waiter or your women…
/r/askTRP01/05/15 04:00 PM
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it means be able to fit into social convention, to move like water but be a rock when needed. to fit within the expectation and be invisible when needed. here is a quote from over a hundred years ago, a poem. http://www.poetryfoundation.org/poem/175772 "If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch, " It is saying that you can "fit" in your environment, and move freely from environment to environment. from common man to kings. You do not change wh…
/r/askTRP01/05/15 03:32 PM
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I found it at 36. After 13 years of marriage, I got the "I just dont love you anymore" speech from my then wife, she took the kids for the weekend. I spent the weekend trying to figure out what the fuck.. Turns out that phase is very popular as a search on google, as many many men get it at some point. One of the turning points in my life was a post with a link saying to read this within 24 hours. I did.. I cringed as well. Then once finished, I ordered it on amazon with 1 day delivery. I re-rea…
/r/askTRP01/05/15 03:13 PM
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i think you are trying too hard... You appear to me to be trying to find a script or routine while chasing these girls. being more laid back and let them do most of the chasing has been a more successful strategy for me. also, I like your line “suck my dick like you like it”. the one I like to use on new girls is this one. once she starts the blowbjob, "stop.. I do not want the same tired blowjob you gave your last boyfriend. get on your knees and suck my cock." obviously body language and eye c…
/r/TheRedPill28/04/15 05:55 AM
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not every women will be a 10. in fact 99% will not be a ten. You do not have to be perfect either. That fact that you have some sense of game, body language, dngaf, .. you will still be fine. The idea that you have to be perfect, some adonis, to get laid is just stupid. Most normal people fuck all the time. Just do not be socially retarded, do not be physically gross. In fact, I would argue that trying to be perfect is quite detrimental to your goals. Plenty of guys (myself included) pull pussy …
/r/TheRedPill22/04/15 10:33 PM
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are you illiterate? I specifically said do not listen to women. I clarified that does not mean you completely ignore them, you just do not internalize what they have to say, because what they say is only valid for the 2 seconds they say it.. You can hear what a woman has to say, and decide if it has merit. She does not get to decide if it has merit.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/15 07:55 PM
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simple.. add "right now" to it. a womans mind is like the weather, it changes constantly. sometimes calm, sometimes stormy.. nothing you can do about it, nothing she can either. that's why you should not listen to women in a sense. I mean, would you go outside to have a conversation with the weather? Sure, sometimes it is nice to sit on the porch and listen to the rain fall.. just like it is sometimes nice to enjoy hearing a woman ramble on .. but, you don't "listen" or if you do, you know it is…
/r/TheRedPill16/04/15 06:16 PM
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blow $400 a month on groceries for two people. what? how is that outrageous?
/r/TheRedPill16/04/15 06:08 PM
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my answer was generic, that is why people (like myself) down vote without reply. because replying is not worth the effort in many cases, but down voting signals the distaste for the idea. a down vote is not an attack on you, relax. you do not have to be "right" on the internet. your answer may indeed be correct for someone who finds it useful to them. we all take and use different things, but for people searching for answers, the "score" helps them evaluate how helpful it is to a large audience.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/15 12:14 AM
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i like the third date rule.. if she treated me like this on the third date, would there have been a 4th?
/r/TheRedPill15/04/15 09:08 PM
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I hate people that downvote without saying why they did so. because it is not a good use of time to argue or defend or explain something to someone who has already made up their mind on something. Nor is it anyone's job to educate you. However, down-voting is useful to signal other readers that they should not place much weight on an incorrect post.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/15 08:28 PM
1

replace alpha with masculine and beta with feminine. most men want the soft caring nuturing qualities of a feminine woman, thus we encourage them to be masculine. the polar opposites attract each other. sure, a masculine woman needs a soft man. where do you think the "who wears the pants in the family" notion comes from?
/r/TheRedPill15/04/15 08:19 PM
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well yes, a man with options has leverage. leverage is enormously valuable to have in negotiations. everything in life is a negotiation. along the same line, when do we get the "dread game, it works with car dealerships too!" post?
/r/TheRedPill14/04/15 07:27 PM
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I do not think you need monk mode, but no more mr nice guy deals very heavily with what you described. nice guys have nothing to do with being nice, it has to do with altering your behavior to get others to notice, like, and validate you. he has exercises in the book, do them. dont just read it.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/15 05:13 PM
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you cannot logic yourself into change. you cannot read something, and absorb it. Actions change behaviors, not thoughts. You do not need to dissolve your ego, you just have to put what you read into practice. That is why a book like no more mr nice guy can be effective, they have exercises. and books that explain and logic do nothing. You have to go out, interact with real people, and change your actions. From that, you change behaviors, you change the actual brain synapses and make new circuits…
/r/TheRedPill14/04/15 08:30 AM
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if you want love, unconditional love at that, get a chocolate lab puppy, name her a cute southern name like daisy or georgia. take her to the dog park often and get pussy as a side benefit. ...seriously, if you doubt this, put your girlfriend/wife in the trunk of your car. leave her there for an hour. then open it. do the same thing with your dog.. which one is happy to see you when you open the trunk?
/r/TheRedPill10/04/15 02:08 AM
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women are reflections of their men. I have yet to meet a woman with an actual hobby that was not just an adopted hobby of the man she was with in the past.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/15 08:46 PM
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I like the way you handled that, but I also think the trp notion that you should never pay is bunk. I think the man should pay for the first date IF he invites her. I also think he should make it cheap.. I like taco trucks personally. women are security seeking creatures. emotional security, physical security, financial security, etc. paying for the first meal signals to her that you understand this dynamic. Now, do not get me wrong, I am not saying you need to buy food for a girl to fuck her. t…
/r/TheRedPill08/04/15 02:27 AM
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motivations trump actions. If you are being nice from a perspective of trying to please someone because you want them to like you, or want something from them, yes it is very weak. If you are being nice because you are secure in your positiion and can give value freely without the need of approval, then no, it's fine. Something like 80% of communication is non-verbal. Your motivations will be sub-communicated through your vocal inflection and body language. go read this, http://madamenoire.com/2…
/r/TheRedPill07/04/15 04:42 PM
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instead of using the terms alpha and beta, replace them with masculine and feminine. You will attract your opposite, which is why we encourage men to be more masculine. Because those can be very rewarding relationships for both sides. The man provides masculine energy, the woman provides feminine energies of caring, nurturing. What is described above is a masculine woman. She will attract weak men because she will always seek her polar opposite in this. Yin and yang.
/r/TheRedPill06/04/15 09:24 PM
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here is one thing that this girl did, that some girls do to me, and I just don't know how to respond. I'd like TRP's opinion: When a girl says to you "you can do anything you want to me" in bed, my gut reaction isn't to immediately let the lizard brain take over and manhandle the shit out of her, especially if she's a stranger. Hearing that or "tonight is all about you" pulls me out of the zone (and my frame) really fast, because my gut says what I was doing before she said that wasn't good. I'm…
/r/TheRedPill05/04/15 04:50 AM
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Based solely on Briffault's Law, the one who cares least controls the relationship. that's not what Briffault's law states at all.
/r/TheRedPill22/03/15 04:21 AM
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""Say it. Loosey goosey." "Loosey goosey." She says, trying to hide the smile forming on her face for saying something so stupid after crying. Don't let that smile go away just yet. "Now say it three times fast!" "Loosey goosey loosey goosey loosey goosey..." She's full on smiling now, and laughs when she looks up at me with those teary eyes." That is what is meant by bring her into your frame and do not enter hers. and she absolutely loved you for it.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/15 07:37 PM
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"What would the red pill man do? He would pull out the hammer of god and make justice. " I know you were talking about him, but I'll put that make justice tag right back on you. One thing a red pill man would not do is run to the internet to be a social justice warrior in order to right this wrong. Let that man live his own life. You live yours and stop trying to save him.
/r/TheRedPill16/03/15 12:30 AM
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For me, there is no end game. Because there is no good or bad, there just is. There are no good or bad decisions to be made, just decisions. No good or bad experiences to encounter, just experiences. It is called being outcome independent. Needing an "End Game" screams needing a specific outcome, and thus struggling to achieve it. Most of the guys here are nice guys, who grew up with this mindset that if they followed the right script and did the things that society expected of them, and made th…
/r/TheRedPill06/03/15 04:57 AM
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as always when you read things on the internet, flip the genders around and listen to it. do not date women with higher partner counts because she will not attach as strongly to you, thus giving her the power edge in the relationship. do seek many partners because it will help you not attach strongly to a women, thus giving you the power edge in the relationship.
/r/TheRedPill03/03/15 08:15 PM
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You are trying to avoid rejection by putting yourself in a position where she has to approach. By putting the job of initiating on her, you are going to miss out on a lot of opportunity. More to the point, the women you are limiting yourself down to are going to be much more masculine natured and aggressive. Personally I prefer more feminine women. It is the mans job to lead.
/r/TheRedPill24/02/15 08:19 PM
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In a professional sense, this is exactly correct. Always have a clear destination in mind; in fact have multiple. You should have short term goals (milestones), long term goals (achievements). You will literally think about the destination and your current situation and mentally create the steps needed to arrive there. If the destination is too far away and you cannot, you need to establish a midpoint and mentally create the steps to arrive there. Repeat as necessary. No one builds a space shutt…
/r/TheRedPill20/02/15 07:50 PM
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no offense, but I really think you are over thinking this. There are social context, and it is always your job to understand the context in which things are done. A smirky comment delivered over beers is just that, bullshitting among friends. It is not a power play, and should not be interpretted as suc h. However, sometimes other men will (out of their own insecurity) lash out at you and disrespect you. In those cases, swift merciless retort is the only answer. In a work setting, again, bullshi…
/r/TheRedPill18/02/15 08:39 PM
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she may have willingly fucked him, but he is still a piece of shit.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/15 08:30 PM
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'are you regretting this?' and she got all shy, her tail went between her legs and looked to the ground replying with 'not at all. you aren't a creep' or something like that. This same thing happened probably 2 more times - one when she first came in and i said she looked good and the next time when I said she should feel privelaged to be here with me or something like that ... This is cringworthy. You asked her if she regretted being with you? It is very rare for a woman to be outright rude to …
/r/TheRedPill18/02/15 07:38 PM
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Plato - Greece philosopher from around 300-400 BC. We're fractured creators trying to be whole..
/r/TheRedPill14/02/15 07:03 PM
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her reasons for being unhappy with you are bullshit. That is your first clue she is hamstering reasons to explain why she is not bonded with you. I know you did not ask for advice, but I will give you some anyway - it may be useful to other men in your situation. If you want to save your marriage, here is my advice to you. Do not ever leave your house again in the "pack a bag and sleep elsewhere" sense. Do not give up your bed either. Do not fight with her anymore. Stop defending yourself or jus…
/r/TheRedPill12/02/15 05:28 PM
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I would be curious how this works for you, my experience has been that if you project too much provider they will respond by not going for the first night lay. I have seen this over and over. A girl I meet, have drinks flirt, dance, whatever, get her to my house for one night stand only to have her looking at artwork on my walls or piano or furniture or pool in the backyard or whatever and I go to close and suddenly she closes up and puts a TON of anti slut defense up. She doesnt want to be seen…
/r/TheRedPill11/02/15 01:57 AM
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there is an entire chapter in no more mr nice guy on this. but the basic premise boils down to too many little boys growing up with the mindset of what they will never be, (based on a one-sided description) instead of growing up with the idea of what they want to mirror.
/r/TheRedPill30/01/15 11:45 PM
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never listen to what a girl says she wants.. the request for essay was never a real request. it was a shit test for him to qualify himself. which he failed (ie did as requested). flip that script. she has to qualify herself for you.
/r/TheRedPill28/01/15 02:00 AM
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body language. Let me answer your question in a way that does not exactly answer your question but may provide some insight. I am a Dad. A single Dad now, and I have a 13 year old girl and a 9 year old son. They know the "house rules", they know to pick up after themselves (mostly), they know not to take food to their rooms (mostly), they know that when I am working or on the phone not to be obnoxiously loud. They know not to come to me at 10pm the night before a school day with "I need ..." the…
/r/TheRedPill27/01/15 07:32 AM
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It is not nuance, they are polar opposites. I am going to quote a post by Dr. Glover, the author of No More Mr. Nice guy because he sums this topic up very well in my opinion. http://www.nomoremrniceguy.com/forums/showthread.php?t=24714 The Difference Between Confidence and Arrogance I was having breakfast with my friend Todd the other morning at one of my favorite hangouts in Puerto Vallarta. Todd made an observation that he believes there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. He had…
/r/TheRedPill22/01/15 10:17 PM
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if you think you need to be more exciting, do it for you. not her. do not change a thing "for her", or for any woman.
/r/TheRedPill22/01/15 05:16 PM
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shit testing is her trying to determine where the line is by testing boundaries in order (subconsciously) for her to feel secure in the relationship and his ability to lead. gaslighting is serious mental abuse where she lies and manipulates in order to (consciously) have the partner question his sanity so that she can not feel bad about bad choices.
/r/TheRedPill21/01/15 09:32 PM
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also, anytime you here the words "I'm bored" from a woman, the correct reply is "time for bed".
/r/TheRedPill16/01/15 04:34 AM
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There's a glimmer in women's eyes that they lose That look is called the "thousand cock stare"
/r/TheRedPill12/01/15 12:24 AM
3

I am going to tell you something I wish someone had told me. You paired with your dysfunctional equivalent. Most lilely you paired with a bipolar women, who showered you with passion and affection at first and you felt great. In time, your relationship changed and she began to resent you, because she has a void in her that cannot be filled. I personally dealt with suicide threats, depression, the works. At the time, I was married, and I felt like it was my job to help her rebuild. I encouraged h…
/r/TheRedPill07/01/15 08:57 PM
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I don't want to cheat. I'm happy in the relationship no you are not. you are not getting your needs met. you paired with a broken woman, who most likely is being honest that she isn't digging it. I have seen most women on depression meds do not enjoy sex. Stop denying your sexuality. Stop suppressing your needs. Stop making the relationship more important than you. Here are some options: "you are right, this is not working. I'll help you pack". "this is not working, I want a woman who wants me p…
/r/TheRedPill07/01/15 08:37 PM
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I learned a long time ago that in the professional world you should never go backwards. If you are considering quitting a job, find a new one before you leave. If they counteroffer the new job offer, no matter what never accept a counter offer. It creates a bad scenario; 1) it almost never ever addresses the work conditions that made you unhappy in the first place. You wil still be unhappy, even perhaps if you have a few more dollars/vacation days etc, you will still be unhappy. Your "loyalty" t…
/r/TheRedPill07/01/15 06:00 PM
3

well.. he invented a protocol called http, in order to share particle physics information and theories from CERN (where he worked/works), with universities without needing usenet, ftp, veronica, archie, and all that old shit that no one here would even remember.. unless you had an email address with bangs(!) in it that is.. If you recall early websites of the 1990's.. his creation was novel, but hardly recognizable by what we call the web today. Thankfully people built on his ideas to make it mo…
/r/TheRedPill25/12/14 09:00 PM
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There is a polarity. opposites attract. Feminine and masculine join in the same way that magnets attract each other. A masculine man and a masculine woman will repel each other like two "north" faces of a magnet. A Feminine man and a feminine woman likewise. If you want to know why so many men applaud masculine women, all you need to see is the vast amount of feminine men out there. That type of relationships can work, to some degree, but it will not be as rewarding for most people. About 80% of…
/r/TheRedPill23/12/14 06:24 PM
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top story: sexual people have more sex. film at 11.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/14 07:29 PM
8

you are not a real person in a woman's mind until you have slept with her. and unless you fucked her right, she will never be nurturing to you.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/14 07:27 PM
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she is 20, they have been together for 6 years and they have a 5 year old daughter. yup.. she looks about what I would expect.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/14 02:26 PM
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she is taking your uncles farm. sucks for him. what does this have to do with you? it's not your farm.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/14 12:45 PM
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you didn't lead the interaction. you did not set the tone or pace. she was down to fuck and kept giving you hints and you kept disappearing so she found someone else to fuck her. You didn't do anything wrong except perhaps read the situation that should would just sit around waiting like a puppy dog for you. Obviously not. Hindsight being 20/20, and armchair quarterbacking this, I think you should have left the bar and isolated her hours earlier and gone for the fuck.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/14 08:37 PM
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38 now, divorced two years. I had relationships all my life, never had a real problem with women, but I had some wrong ideas on what women wanted (needed) me to be. If I could go back in time and tattoo something on my inner eyelids as a teenager, never listen to words, observe actions only. Make your decisions based solely on actions, never words. Evaluate what works and does not work based on solely on what results you get, actions, not words.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/14 06:54 PM
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thinner condoms.. I swear by non latex condoms, because good god the women that announce a latex allergy at the last minute. what is it about bartenders and latex allergies? I have two types that I keep. trojan bareskin non latex - these are very thin, good for the problem you are having. lifestyles/skyn in the black box - these are much thicker, they help with premature problems. honestly both feel good, try both. have both on hand. let your girl tell you what she likes as well.
/r/askTRP06/09/14 03:28 AM
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agreed. all contact has motive. she may not realize it but if she is texting you all day, she is thinking of you all day. good job building attraction by being exactly what we talk about here every day. do not take her out.. just tell her to be at your house at 10pm one night. she'll know what's up.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/14 05:34 PM
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A post about holding frame full of examples of not holding frame. I wanted to tell her about Jenna just to see how it would affect shit and how I'd have to maintain frame, but figured I'd just save it for another day. We talked for 20 more minutes where I told her some RP shit without calling it RP. I said that men were the gatekeepers for relationships, women for sex. I said that I didn't want a relationship, but liked spending sexual time with women. It does not matter what you say, it matters…
/r/TheRedPill03/09/14 10:37 PM
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You seem to think that if you follow a script, everything will work out, and you will be rewarded for your hard work with reciprocal emotional connection with women. Let go of that, there is no script. You do not be the asshole in order to get the girl. You lose the attachment to outcome, and that will increase your attractiveness level to women. Faking it comes off as needy and shitty. It shows up in your body language and women sniff it a mile away.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/14 01:17 PM
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it's not your job to save her. she makes her own decisions. go for what you want without shame, if she wants to come along for the ride, so be it. it is never your job to save her from you..
/r/TheRedPill30/08/14 09:26 PM
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good lord.. let's make up problems that do not exist so we can bitch about them like a bunch of women?
/r/TheRedPill27/08/14 04:51 PM
2

Like I already said, I have too much to lose that I already came dreadfully close to losing. if that truly was the case you would drop this bitch like a stone. every day you continue with her you are still at risk. you are not free and clear.
/r/TheRedPill27/08/14 02:24 PM
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You need to own up to your failures in the relationship. Yes, you got cheated on because of qualities you lacked. She did not respect you because your actions did not demand respect. All women are like that. She is not special, and she is not some demon out to fuck you over. She just is. Here is what is going to happen, the part of your cunning plan you neglected to think through. She is going to get knocked up, and you will be raising or at least supporting some autistic or down syndrome kid fo…
/r/TheRedPill27/08/14 02:21 PM
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I find that after sex is the most emotionally non-manipulative time to discuss anything with a woman. shit tests after sex are near non existent if you have any sense of frame at all. the term shit test is used to define a scenario where she is subconsciously or consciously testing you to see if you will tolerate being disrespected. she inwardly wants to feel your strength, and feel secure in it. I do not consider what you described above as a shit test, she was telling you she was insecure abou…
/r/TheRedPill25/08/14 06:11 PM
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if you cannot manage the cost of a cheap cell phone to text a girl, you probably cannot manage the cost of dating. either grow up.. or remain a child.
/r/askTRP24/08/14 10:05 PM
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bar bullshit is bar bullshit.. laugh and shake it off. sometimes, the vibe is wrong because it's not bullshit, and the guy is disrespecting you. never allow anyone to disrespect you, for any reason. react with body language and frame, words if needed if you can insult him with a straight face and complete calm, and swift immediate violence when called for. never let an interaction between you and an aggressor be about or because of a woman, your interaction with him is 100% between you and him. …
/r/TheRedPill24/08/14 09:07 PM
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you say you see her every few days, skip the texting and wait until you see her. talk to her and push for an actual date. skip the texting as you obviously do not have enough attraction or rapport with her.. (yet)
/r/askTRP22/08/14 08:36 PM
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a women you do not offer commitment to is a plate. plates do what pates do.. when you juggle them too long they wobble and crash. you move on with the others..
/r/askTRP22/08/14 08:32 PM
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talking about it makes it real.. she may be struggling to deal with this in her own mind. sorry dude.
/r/askTRP22/08/14 08:28 PM
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if you want a girl to like you, she needs to feel good about herself when she is with you. that's what all the shit is about. pre-selection, status, high value, etc. because of basic woman psychology and solopism, she is only capable of viewing the world as it applies to her. things that make her feel good are good, things that make her feel bad about herself are bad. for a girl to like you, she feels good about herself. when a girl feels bad about herself, as in you pumped and dumped her and ma…
/r/askTRP22/08/14 07:50 PM
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"I think you should go home.. you can cry in your bed, but not mine" .. instant attitude adjustment.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/14 04:16 PM
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sure, but by that rationale, IF blah, then blah. If I go to the store, I might get robbed. If I drive on the freeway, I might in a wreck and die. If I stand up for myself, I might get assaulted. If she lies, I might get in trouble. ... it's all bullshit, but if you want to live your lives in fear about what may go wrong, go ahead. This is not leadership, this is not being in control, and it damn sure is not maintaining frame. It is reacting from irrational fear. it's bullshit.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/14 04:12 PM
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why do you give a shit if her parents are out of town or not? this reads like you are in high school but you say you have been fighting MMA for 5 years? why are you making her problems your problems? More importantly, why are you assuming the worst possible case scenario in your head and reacting from fear based on it? she drank vodka, I better keep watch so she doesn't choke on vomit.. better record her so blahh blahh.. Moral of the story: if you're a man, don't be alone with a girl who can do …
/r/TheRedPill20/08/14 02:11 PM
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she is an ex for a reason, move on. I have done the ex to plate thing, it seems fun for a while but she will re-attach, she will bring drama, everyone around her will know every detail. skip it. fuck her if she is throwing it at you, but avoid situations where you can. no contact is the best bet. your goal in life right now is new pussy and lots of it.
/r/askTRP19/08/14 09:29 PM
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if her business is a money pit, and she cannot afford an accountant, perhaps just being honest about a negative is a good answer. close the business, it is losing money, and you cannot even afford to run it. any further effort is throwing good money after bad. you have to do what is best for you, and best for your family. If that means ending a business that is dragging you down, then as the leader, you need to lead and be making the right choices for your family.
/r/askTRP19/08/14 09:25 PM
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"she's in the top 5".
/r/askTRP19/08/14 09:22 PM
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Why do they love being treated like shit? it matches their view of themselves. do not discount women with low self esteem, they will work very hard for your approval when you give little. give her plenty of physical sex, eye contact, dirty talk, and frequent slaps on the ass.. and very little emotional connection and you can spin that plate for years.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/14 09:12 PM
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smelled your neediness. what did you do wrong? you were emotionally needy.. how can you fix it? stop doing that.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/14 09:04 PM
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that mentality is the problem.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/14 06:58 PM
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they married in college, have a 7 year old. I going to bet they are at the 9 year marriage mark. I'm also going to bet she read up on divorce laws and saw that at the 10 year marriage mark she gets a much better payoff.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/14 06:46 PM
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/r/diy - build shit /r/BBQ - cook shit /r/trucks - build and drive. instead of finding ways you are wrong and bad, go find cool shit to do.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/14 01:28 AM
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you will be treated exactly the way you allow yourself to be treated
/r/TheRedPill18/08/14 07:30 PM
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do not believe anything she says, especially anything from her about wanting fair, wanting civil, anything that makes her sound like a decent person. you are at war, you do not have to take the low road, but you must protect yourself from her taking the low road, and you must expect it. In the USA, it is a conflict of interest for a lawyer to take her case once the lawyer has consulted with you. finding the biggest bulldog lawyers in town and booking initial consultations with every single one o…
/r/askTRP18/08/14 06:58 PM
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"love" is a set of brain chemicals released in response to situations you have trained your brain to react to. Olympic athletes do not date homeless people. Broken people fall in love with broken people, because it feels normal to be treated like shit for them. They react to the go away/come here drama, and the brain chemicals released by strong differences. Every relationship has a shelf life, but, people do tend to get comfortable; in jobs, and in relationships. If the good outweighs the bad, …
/r/AlreadyRed18/08/14 05:44 PM
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a bunch of really awful answers here.. 1) stop expecting anything from her. accept her as is, or if a big enough deal, next her and move on. you cannot control her and any attempt to "need" her to be something she is not will be exactly that - needy. 2) you can reward good behavior and ignore bad behavior.. when she goes to the gym, tell her how hot she looks in her yoga pants.. even if she has a little muffin top, reward what you want more of and you generally will get it provided she is into y…
/r/TheRedPill16/08/14 04:29 PM
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in other words, the same way you potty train a new puppy.. the "reward" is your attention in both. (positive or negative). reward good behavior, ignore or punish bad behavior. punishment is removal of your attention and affection.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/14 02:11 PM
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they're trying to extract as many cash and prizes as our twisted fucking laws will allow. that is the female divorcee's definition of fair.. I actually heard mine tell me, "I just want what I am legally entitled to".
/r/TheRedPill08/08/14 09:52 PM
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The author is correctly stating that you cannot change or control other people, and that if you have an expectation to do so, you will be frustrated. If you have an attachment to how someone should be, and they do not measure up you will have more misery. However, you can state what you want, what you like, and she may choose to change her own behavior. You did no such thing, you did not change anything, she changed her behavior. The RP side of this is that by making it stated what you expect or…
/r/TheRedPill08/08/14 09:38 PM
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you are rewarding bad behavior, which guarantees you will receive more of it.
/r/TheRedPill06/08/14 04:04 PM
2

There is a ton of science on this, but not a quantitative attempt to tie it all together. Speaking of basic pattern that occurs between species, one article that really opened my eyes was this one about prairy voles, one of the 3% of animals that enter into monogamy like humans. http://www.reuniting.info/pair_bonding_101_beware_novelty_aphrodisiac basically, it is a biological need, which is why we all do it. But increasing dopamine destroys the ability to pair bond. go look at our bodies and th…
/r/TheRedPill06/08/14 01:51 AM
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You should always be evaluating a womans character, especially when dating. Waiting is fine, but for whatever reason you see a red flag and determine she is not long term potential, you should escalate and move to fuck her as soon as possible. If you enjoy her company, continue doing so as long as it is enjoyable to you. If you cannot determine a woman's character before sex, after sex will be impossible due to pair bonding and oxyticin.. having sex literally blinds you to some minor things that…
/r/TheRedPill04/08/14 12:23 AM
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who cares? how does this effect anyone? how does it effect you? how does it effect me? what about this article or your description will cause you to live a fuller life? what about this will cause you to get what you want out of life in terms of career or love? not a damn thing. life is not fair. accept it. thrive in it. stop being a victim and bitching. no one gives a shit.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/14 05:19 PM
2

I view it like this. No one can change my mind about anything. No one has the power to convince me to change my opinion or plan. Only I can do that. However, I always am looking for new information to make my decisions on. If someone shows me a new perspective and based on new information I search my deepest wisdom and decide based on new perspective I change course, only I have done so. Of course you will listen when your woman says things to you. You will hear what she says, but it is up to yo…
/r/TheRedPill31/07/14 03:14 PM
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it falls under You do not have to do it perfectly you are not a ten, you do not have to be perfect. she is not perfect. you do not need to be an emotionless robot. Of course you will have different roles, especially in a long term relationship. You can be vulnerable, you can be open, but your default needs to be solid. Your core should be internally focused and solid. Of course you are human, be human. But do not let her moods, or her words, shape your course of action. You shape your course of …
/r/TheRedPill31/07/14 01:38 AM
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radical feminists make up like 1% of the population, at best.. stop reading the internet and interact with real girls. that's how you get over it.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/14 01:19 AM
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if she smokes, she pokes. a girl who smokes is the fastest "flag" I know of to get a one night stand..
/r/askTRP28/07/14 11:21 PM
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the word is solipsism. it is used here a bit, and you need to understand it. women are incapable of looking at the world objectively. Only as the world relates to them. The world is their own mind, and any news story or event is only viewed as it applies to them, or how they feel about themselves because of it. as it relates to your question, women hate the idea of men going to find better mates overseas because it is a form of rejection to them personally, even tho it has absolutely nothing to …
/r/askTRP28/07/14 11:16 PM
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http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person/ It always comes down to this..
/r/TheRedPill21/07/14 03:32 AM
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it all boils down to hyper stimulation. Your body evolved over hundreds of thousands of years in a certain environment. In that we developed reward centers to make certain things "feel good". It feels good to fuck because it keeps our species alive. It feels good to eat and make friends and have family and community because those were good things for our species. But you can activate those reward centers artificially as well. You can get high to the point that you are incapable of dealing with l…
/r/TheRedPill21/07/14 02:47 AM
1

But the support is not "for" the mother. In the legal sense, the support is for the child. The mother cannot release you from obligations to your children because she is not the receiving party. If you do not want children, do not get women pregnant.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/14 06:29 PM
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"The male teen was served with petitions from juvenile court in early February, and not arrested, but when the case went to trial in juvenile court in June, Foster said prosecutors forgot to certify that the teen was a juvenile. The case was dismissed, but police immediately obtained new charges and also a search warrant for his home. " Case was dismissed but they just charged him again? Is that not double jeopardy?
/r/TheRedPill09/07/14 03:44 PM
1

I think it is bi-directional, that which is chased, runs. I date multiple women, and have for almost 2 years now. I can say with 100% certainty that when a woman gets clingy and needy to me it is a huge turnoff. When they get attached like that and start assuming and asking "what are we", it's generally time to end things. I have found that in almost every case, given enough timeline, every woman I date more than 4 times ends up wanting more commitment from me than I care to give. And I see it m…
/r/TheRedPill09/07/14 01:48 AM
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I settled in mediation because I was seriously avoiding the court system. I worked out a custody agreement where during school year I have kids everyday from afterschool until 7pm, and 100% during just a bit over half the summer. I gave up nearly all of my existing assets to do so, but no alimony/spousal support. She cleaned me out, but I can always rebuild what I had and more. I have already regained a lot of ground. She will blow through whatever monies she collected in a year or two and be ba…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/14 05:06 PM
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Yes, she was cheating on me with two men over the last two years of our marriage before I found out. Our marriage had deteriorated, and I had no idea why.. I can look back at it now and see how she gas lighted and lied and pushed my buttons of abandonment and trying to be a good father, good husband to blame me for little things and bring shit up from years before to put it on me. Once I found the cheating it made a more sense. We did marriage counseling, and then after a few weeks I made the mi…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/14 04:58 PM
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Last names are funny. I insisted my wife take my my last name, and she did. Not an issue, and not spoken of again until about 8 years later when I find business cards with her maiden name (hispanic). I ask wtf.. and am told that the hispanic women she deals with wont call her because my name.. and she wants them to know she speaks spanish. load of bs. When I discovered the cheating a few years later, I also discovered she had multiple email accounts, facebook accounts, twitter (I didnt even know…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/14 03:40 AM
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This falls under the 3T's. tease, touch, tell. tease her, playfully. touch her physically and often. tell her what to do.
/r/TheRedPill03/07/14 04:46 PM
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Our divorce rate is 50%, and no one wakes up and says I don't love you anymore, its all cheating. And those are the people who cannot make it work. I have read the infidelity percentage of any LTR is closer to 80%, and given that's the number that admit it, yeah .. everyone cheats. Why do you think no-fault divorces exist? it's because 99% of divorce is about infidelity.. the court does'nt even want to hear it anymore.
/r/TheRedPill03/07/14 01:49 AM
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It's the same as training a puppy. the animal craves attention, good attention, negative attention, doesn't matter. They crave the feelings and emotions it gives them because they are emotional creatures. When you get mad at a woman and lose your shit like that, you are in effect rewarding her. Reward good behavior, punish or ignore bad behavior. If something bugs you, the first level is flat ignore it, it never happened, change the ubject. Next level might be to shut the fuck up and go to a dif…
/r/TheRedPill02/07/14 12:58 AM
3

I think you should make a goal of getting 10 women back to your house for sex before you become so discriminate. If you are having no luck at all, lower the bar. You are not wife hunting..
/r/askTRP29/06/14 08:17 AM
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TRP does not tell you how to live your life. It does not tell you what to want. If you want to fuck lots of girls without offering commitment, do it. If you want a good woman you can be monogamous with, do it. It is a collection of observations that help you navigate the pitfalls in modern life. It is truths that are not common knowledge. It will help you define what it is you want and how to get it. It also gives you some tools to keep it.
/r/askTRP29/06/14 08:14 AM
2

I read a book last year called 5 love languages or something like that. The basic premise of the book is that there are different ways people like to show or feel loved. Just because touch is important to you does not mean that is how he feels. Aside from that, make him a sandwich, bring him a beer, and give him a blowjob. problem solved.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/14 07:48 AM
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I have never heard "you're not my type". I have been rejected on cold approach. I have had a table cold stare me down. I have been white knighted a few times. but never heard not my type. There are like three things, attraction first. you are either attractive to her or not, she has to be open to your frame to even begin. And that number is less than 50% of women. some are happy in relationships or fuck buddies, some are on their period, or text fighting with their moms, or their cat died that d…
/r/TheRedPill24/06/14 04:51 PM
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I get what you are saying, but it's nice for a girl to bring you soup when you text her your sick. It's nice to sit down and have a girl sit at my piano and play for me, especially if I had no previous idea she could play. It's nice when your outside doing something and a girl you have only seen a few times starts doing dishes or makes the bed. I do not need any of those things, but "women are for fucking and that's it" does not exactly ring true either. I will say one thing, when I hear a woman…
/r/TheRedPill24/06/14 03:52 PM
2

one of my favorite dates is the grocery store. she shows up, ask her to think of a number from 10 to 20. i embellish, it doesnt have to be a whole number.. decimal places is ok. whatever number they come back with, 14.56 for example.. ok. then tell her the game. going to grocery store, she has to cover sides and drinks, you cover main course. winner is the one who comes closest to number without going over. you can easily get steaks under 14.. she can easily get potatoes or zuchinni and a bottle…
/r/TheRedPill22/06/14 10:20 PM
2

plates are plates, enjoy. Any more than once or twice a week contact at most, and she will develop relationship feelings quickly. Unless you want that, limit the amount of time. Other than that, no rules, do what you wish and always remember that when spinning plates, plates do what plates do.. eventually they wobble and crash.. so always be adding new ones to when that happens it is a shrug event..
/r/TheRedPill22/06/14 12:41 AM
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stop thinking of yourself as a victim.
/r/TheRedPill21/06/14 03:00 PM
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that was awful and painful to read. you were the chump who bought a flower at 3am, trying a woo a woman. her friends tore it up because how desperate and weak did that appear. they laughed at you on the way home.
/r/TheRedPill21/06/14 02:43 PM
3

anxiety much? control freak much? there are things within your control, and things outside of your control. accept that, live your life the way you want to.
/r/TheRedPill18/06/14 04:25 PM
1

that was terrible foreplay..
/r/TheRedPill15/06/14 02:49 PM
0

how on earth is this downvoted? this line is gold and is something I text out multiple times per week. "...got shit to do".. is the correct answer to any text message shit test, the correct answer to time sink girl, and to the request for you to sit and play text message queen.. yes, be busy, have shit to do.
/r/TheRedPill11/06/14 07:19 AM
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bourbon..
/r/askTRP08/06/14 08:12 AM
3

I think you should stay out of it. let them sort it out themselves, nothing good comes of your direct involvement in this. divorce is disgusting.
/r/TheRedPill02/06/14 02:33 PM
2

frame.. defined is that self amused, self focused, self conscious attitude that says that no matter what anyone else thinks, I am ok with the world as it is. It says I can handle what life throws at me. Your description describes stoicism, which is good. but not exactly the same. frame is the awareness that no matter what happens, another women is around the corner, another job is around the corner, you do not have to put up with any shit because it's all horseshit and you will handle it. frame …
/r/TheRedPill30/05/14 11:40 PM
3

the root of most depression or unhappiness is cognitive dissonance, or put another way holding two opposing thoughts in your mind at the same time. It generally means you swallowed, or were fed a spoonful of lies and you cannot hold the lie and the self evident truth at the same time. "love is forever" vs "i want a divorce".. "you are special" vs "you are the same decomposing flesh as everyone else" .. "this time it is different.. " "not all women are like that.." So you said it best, drop the e…
/r/TheRedPill30/05/14 12:29 PM
4

simple text will do .. "my place, 9pm" .. ..
/r/askTRP29/05/14 07:07 PM
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how is your congruence? are you the same guy after 2 or 3 lays as the guy the first night? I have encountered situations before where I get more attentive after fucking a few times and it is a turnoff for her. if you start off aloof and mysterious, but then share too much (talk, feeling, etc), she will see you in a different light. nothing turns a girl off more than feeling like you were not representing yourself truthfully at first and "changed" for her.
/r/askTRP28/05/14 07:06 PM
1

she got drugged up and created problems. why would you make her problems your problems? you walked and ignored. good job on that. as for now, she seems remorseful by her words but what are her actions saying? no person is perfect, if the good outweighs the bad, and you like - stick with it. I will say one thing, usually when a girl freaks and gets weird/jealous, it is because she lacks security and it scares her. in this case, she lacks emotional security. "we're committed but not officially tog…
/r/askTRP28/05/14 06:50 PM
3

you have potential..
/r/askTRP28/05/14 02:31 PM
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reading it is not enough, did you do all the exercises and actually write them down? understanding is not enough, you must do actions. actions is what changes neural pathways. change your actions, your thoughts change slowly because of them. when your thoughts change, your core beliefs do as well.. slightly slower. but actions are critical. some of those exercises are a week long in duration.. you have not done anything if you did not do the exercises.
/r/TheRedPill27/05/14 10:56 PM
2

i slept with 3 married women in the past year. every one of them "bothered me" to some extent, but not enough to not fuck them. 2 of them are in divorce now. I will not do it again.. you have to make your own choices. morality is a bitch. my advice is to do it both ways and be honest with yourself about how you feel. if it is something you want more of, do it. if not, don't.
/r/askTRP26/05/14 07:03 PM
3

memorize this reply.. "got shit to do"
/r/askTRP26/05/14 07:00 PM
1

best way .. shut the fuck up and walk. .. no one controls your mood but you. if she can control your mood it is because you gave her power to do so.
/r/askTRP25/05/14 04:05 PM
1

because it is your fucking job to lead. don't ask or expect her to pick the place and time. she is greenlighting you in.. she wants you to take charge of the situation.. when she says downtown around 11 .. reply back with .. cool, xyzbar - 11:01ish. .. and by the way young jedi to be.. anytime a girl says she is bored, the next words out of your mouth need to be, "then it's time for bed"
/r/askTRP25/05/14 03:50 PM
4

you have never met her. you are fantasizing about her being perfect. get out of your head and go do something. if you want to persue her, do so, but don't make her out to be a unicorn. she isn't. as for LDR- long distance relationship in general, I think they are a terrible idea. the notion that someone would purposefully seek out someone unavailable to have a relationship with says a lot. go meet girls who are available, don't find strangers and make them out to be perfect in your mind.
/r/askTRP25/05/14 03:47 PM
1

So I ask you, TRP: 1.) How do I get my girlfriend to heed to my needs? you don't. you and only you are responsible for your needs. you do not control her or anyone else. you control you and your reactions to life. or 2.) Should I be sexually active with other women while I work on getting my girlfriend to be the woman I want her to be? or you should accept her the way she is, not who you think she could be, not who she says she is. exactly what her actions define her to be. then make a decision …
/r/askTRP25/05/14 03:43 PM
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rpgirlthrowaway, are you in houston? let's get a drink..
/r/askTRP25/05/14 03:40 PM
3

i bet you think you are cute enough to be a pain in the ass .. you're not.
/r/askTRP23/05/14 06:03 PM
3

that is not the definition of a whore.. that's the definition of a woman.. all women are like that. never underestimate this solid fact. (under the right circumstances) .. every woman on the planet is 30 minutes from her next relationship. never underestimate a woman's desire to be in a relationship, and if she is already in one, never underestimate her desire to be in a better one.
/r/TheRedPill23/05/14 03:24 AM
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..the thing about married women, you are competing against one guy, a sorry beat down bastard. with single women, you are competing against every dick in town.. yeah.. it's pretty much that simple.
/r/TheRedPill23/05/14 03:16 AM
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what a rip.. just go to the source of this article and read the full pdf he stole it from. .. link removed, apparently my pdf link was changed.. google daniel rose sex god
/r/TheRedPill22/05/14 08:43 PM
1

The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place. Past benefit provided by the male does not provide for continued or future association. so I told her she's not getting any money, I am not paying for anything (specifically not for the car and not for the kindergarten) and that I want her to pay 50% of rent. And I told her that I am not paying for ONE MONTH so she c…
/r/TheRedPill21/05/14 10:42 PM
5

you can train a puppy by rewarding good behavior and ignoring or punishing bad. proper punishment being to remove your attention, which is what they ultimately crave, even if it is negative attention. giving strong attention, especially negative attention to an attention starved animal will guarantee more of the same bad behavior. realize that giving strong emotion to an emotional driven animal is a reward. the proper way to train your puppy is to go emotionally cold to her bad behaviors and mak…
/r/TheRedPill21/05/14 10:36 PM
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should have agreed to buy her a drink, then ordered her a water.
/r/TheRedPill21/05/14 05:05 PM
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you have a strong attachment to a specific outcome here. this girl is losing interest in me, and she talked to another guy.. what do i do? you do not do anything, women will enter and leave your life. it is the nature of things, accept it and embrace it. if you want to get closer to this girl, show her with your actions. don't explain it to her, show her. ask her out, sit close, tease, touch, tell - escalate and fuck. she will either be into it our not. enjoy the dance .. push pull, she chases, …
/r/askTRP21/05/14 02:17 PM
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of course it is possible.. it is not about sleeping with slutty women. it is about getting what you want from life. in life, in love, in work, everywhere. single men want sex, and the rp sub is focused on sexual strategy, however the underlying framework is about embracing your masculinity, shedding your fear, losing anxieties, learning to let go of expectations and trust yourself. those qualities will help you in everything you do. it is to solidly call bullshit on the loads of bullshit we are …
/r/askTRP21/05/14 02:10 PM
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the money is gone, consider it badly spent and be done with it. how much more are you going to spend badly? look on the bright side, at least you didn't marry her. several thousands of dollars is fucking cheap to learn this lesson compared to what many have to spend to learn it. what is this "cannot leave the relationship" talk? let me explain this to you, pretend you are at a car dealership, and you are talking to the salesman. he gives you a high number and you balk.. to much, the negotiation …
/r/askTRP21/05/14 02:03 PM
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No idea why this was down voted, it is exactly the right answer from a what to read perspective. That being said, it seems to me that what you describe is that you are the one stopping you from getting what you want. the guy who wrote no more mr nice guy (dr robert glover) also has some relationship material called "getting all the way in", and the basic premise is that once you understand how easy it is to get out of a relationship, it is not so scary to get into one. and he lays out some prett…
/r/askTRP21/05/14 01:45 PM
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"Lesbi honest" .. "non-sloots" .. "chix's" .. "facial book" .. "slootstagram" .. I stopped at two sentences in. forget red pill, learn english.
/r/TheRedPill21/05/14 01:21 AM
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i should have prefaced that comment with "from the womans perspective".. the article is why women cheat, answered by women. the reply was in context of the article. from the womans perspective, it is her mans fault.
/r/TheRedPill18/05/14 12:45 AM
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she gave you shit, known as a shit test.. she felt emotionally insecure about the relationship, so she wanted to see where you stood. she gave you shit to see what you would do with it. you choose to defend, rationalize, explain, all known as failing the shit test. better answer.. "I don't like that you always call the shots for when we're going to hang out and what we're going to do " .. that's cool .. bring your sexy ass over here about 11 tonight..
/r/TheRedPill16/05/14 09:53 PM
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paying for pussy is like paying for tap water at a restaurant..
/r/TheRedPill16/05/14 09:49 PM
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this is simple shit.. there are only two types of women that cheat. 1) promiscuous sluts 2) women who married loser men who are the cause of all their problems. and when she looks in the mirror, who do you think she sees? all cheating women will rationalize their decision as the mans fault. this is why building and keeping attraction is key. this is why earning and maintaining her respect is key.
/r/TheRedPill15/05/14 06:23 PM
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tease, touch, tell tease her, find something to tease her about. lightly, like you would your bratty sister. google banter touch her, skin contact. first her leg, casually, glancing, then move up. this is critical for escaltion. google kino escalation tell her to do something, get her to invest her time or energy. make dinner and give her tasks, tell her to bring a bottle of wine when she shows up.. google ben franklin effect. then logistics. make it easy to have plausible deniability, it "just …
/r/askTRP15/05/14 04:20 PM
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yikes.. i disagree. if you are in a ten year marriage and getting sex once a month, do not read "bang".. do not flirt with girls in public. the last thing you need is another damn woman in your life right now. fix your own toxic wiring first. start with no more mr. nice guy for starters. I think it is pretty safe to say that if you dropped a "captain/first mate" talk with your spouse she would revolt hard. and she probably should, you are not leading so she has no trust in your ability to lead. …
/r/askTRP15/05/14 04:15 PM
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I would not get so caught up on the labels, women are people too. those labels are generalizations to help understand concepts. It's a model, and the first rule of models is that every model is wrong, however they can be useful to understand the dynamics. the "carousel" refers to women who discover that they can get whatever they want by fucking lot's of guys without consequences. the "wall" refers to women who discover that eventually the value of the guys they can fuck is on the decline, (qual…
/r/askTRP15/05/14 03:54 PM
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well.. i hear what you are saying but really.. who gives a shit? why would you ask them this? do you really want to hear what they have to say? There is nothing to be gained here, only to make yourself the ass that spun up the cognitive dissonance distortion field.
/r/TheRedPill15/05/14 03:33 PM
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I was raised by a single mom until I was 13 or so. and in that time there were two stepdads and then some boyfriends. I had some really lousy internal thoughts about all the things I was never supposed to be. 30 years later, I realize that my dad is stoic, strong, selfish, dependable, and not phased one bit about what anyone thinks about him. I realized that many of the things I heard about him growing up were flat lies or re-writing of history. I wish I could say he taught me a lot, and in some…
/r/TheRedPill15/05/14 03:24 PM
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a tenant of Buddhism is that attachment is the cause of all suffering. attachment to outcome being the most important one. By letting go of expectations you do not have to force something to be something it is not. Therefor you do not have to stress when it does meet your expectations, it simply is. This does not mean you cannot have goals, or dreams, or a plan in life. What it means is that you internally and wholly know that whatever happens, you will deal with it and trust yourself to do so. …
/r/TheRedPill15/05/14 03:02 PM
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just posting to add my moral support to this post.. only thing is, I have questionable morals... instead of "cheating", I would not say it that way. I would characterize it as play the game by your rules and win anyway. you do not have to lie to get ahead, you can openly and honestly do whatever the fuck you want. be prepared for the consequences, face them with a no fucks given mindset. have integrity, it is a key part of being a man. if you want to fuck lot's of women with no string attached, …
/r/TheRedPill12/05/14 05:35 PM
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a test for women? women have a cycle, they are attracted to masculinity when ovulating. they also crave sex heavily then. so note when her cycle starts, add 12-14 days to it. Do not say a word, just watch her actions that week. is she wanting to hang with you, or wanting to do girls night out that week? that test never fails to give you the story of exactly where you stand with a girl.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/14 01:25 PM
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I disagree 100%. This is terrible advice. Do not spend energy hanging out with girls you are not fucking. Do not look to women to fill you with compliments when you are down or struck out for the night. Never aim to be in a friend-zone. Especially not a pack of them. If you are uncomfortable with having guy friends, challenge yourself.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/14 10:53 PM
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lived with her 3 years, married 12. 2 kids. she was a stay at home mom. i worshiped her. getting "i don't love you anymore" speech hit me like a ton of bricks. finding the cheating 1 week later even more so. i settled divorce in mediation, giving up too many assets but getting primary children custody rights. post above is spot on. i do not know what the hell a topshop is... if you opened your eyes by shopping, that's fucking awesome bro.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 08:10 AM
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just learn when to shut the fuck up and go do something else for a little bit.. .. think of it like training a puppy.. any attention, even negative attention reinforces bad behaviors. do not listen to what she says, because she will raise hell.. watch her actions. reward good (your time, you provide emotional response in her), ignore or punish bad (remove your time, remove emotion)
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 07:46 AM
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The truth is, our bodies are not evolved for the world we live in. We are not prepared for the mass influx of sugar, carbs, crap we eat. Not prepared for the booze, drugs we injest. Not the daily stresses like traffic and work and family drama. Not for an endless stream of porn. The concept is called hyperstimulation. These things burn out our dopamine receptors. over time, it becomes impossible to be "happy" without them. Nofap is good science, but the subreddit goes to far. Instead of a bunch …
/r/TheRedPill05/05/14 03:23 AM
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I have used that line more than a dozen times, and only challenged once.. and that was when done over text message.. she said something about chevron oil spill.. I told her I had the flu that week.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/14 11:11 PM
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if it is someone you just met and have no intentions of anything long term, being mysterious has an advantage. "i wash ducks" .. and she says? "what?!" .. "have you ever seen a dirty duck".. wait for it while her hamster is spinning trying to wrap her head around this shit.. "i take my job very seriously".. aside from that, find something redeeming about your job. not for girls, for yourself. something good. even if you sweep the floors at a company that makes something, say "i help make ..." ..…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/14 04:16 PM
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memorize this: "unless we have a specific conversation saying otherwise, you should assume I am seeing and perhaps sleeping with other people". said up front on first or second date it is perfectly honest, up front, dignified, and acceptable.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/14 04:10 PM
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.. i think i just threw up in my mouth a little..
/r/askTRP20/04/14 10:30 PM
3

This does not work well if you have assets, property, status and bring in 200k+ a year.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/14 05:26 PM
4

are you trying to create a stalker? because that's how you create stalkers.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/14 03:44 PM
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When there is a problem with a mans ship, women do not help men fix their boats. women find another boat to get on.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/14 09:51 AM
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I heard it said somewhere last year that in a romantic relationship, you get to say "sorry" twice. use them wisely.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/14 04:00 PM
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never underestimate a woman's desire to be in a relationship, or if they are already in a relationship, never underestimate a woman's desire to be in a better one. yes, all women are like that.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/14 02:58 PM
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that's a lot of words.. and a lot of hamstering. ..edit to clarify at 19 hours later. I do not disagree with what you wrote. I am calling out the fact that you wrote nearly a page, which indicates a huge emotional response. your interaction with bonehead is not about the girl, it is between you and him. and if he is disrespectful to you, then you must deal with that. not his words, his actions. It is not about the girl, it is about him. Yes, there are many ways to diffuse a situation, and they s…
/r/TheRedPill17/04/14 02:23 PM
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you don't. you do not need to defend, rationalize or explain anything. but the fact that you cannot express what problems you have with a concept is exactly what the gist of the previous post was about. If you are not familiar with the position, how can you be for or against it? because it sounds like you just swallowed some shit you read without critically evaluating it first. don't do that. not redpill shit, not anything. the goal is not fuck bitches, the goal is become your best self.. the bi…
/r/askTRP16/04/14 02:22 AM
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you are using women to medicate your toxic beliefs that you are not worthy. it will lead you to unsuccessful relationship after unsuccessful relationship. you likely will still get laid. but you will never be captain of your ship while you depend on a woman to validate you.
/r/askTRP16/04/14 02:15 AM
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exactly, one strategy I used to help with this is to reframe every thought that says "I am..." or "I will.." as in, think of the negative thoughts that internal narrator spews at you. i am lazy i am clumsy i am shy.. i will never be able to.. i always do that... and change it to "you are". externalize that voice make it someone outside of you. then it is easier to recognize it as the attack that it is. that you can choose to accept or discard it. that you are in charge. Freud says that we create…
/r/TheRedPill15/04/14 05:37 PM
2

women appear to be incapable of determining your value without social context. or how other mean around you relate to you. social proof. in a group of bikers, you can be the higher status by having others look up to you.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/14 12:09 AM
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you state what you want, and let it drop. it is not your job to save your girlfriend or her friend. it is your job to set the tone and direction of your relationship. she will either be on board or not. you cannot control that, you control you and your reaction only. so state how you feel, but you do not tell her what to do. she will make her decisions, and how strongly you feel about your boundaries will determine your actions.
/r/askTRP15/04/14 12:01 AM
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"you talking about [insert male acquaintance here] is terrible foreplay..."
/r/askTRP14/04/14 11:59 PM
2

you should pay when you want to, you are showing that you can provide, which is a masculine trait. women are security seeking creatures. period, end of story. what you should not do is be the guy who feels he is obligated to pay, and pays for shit he doesn't want to do to make someone else happy. or pays for things in hopes of getting validation from someone for it. stressing about getting the "right" restaurant, or best gift is crap. when you first start dating, pay for some, dutch for some. no…
/r/askTRP14/04/14 11:58 PM
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It's called the cheaters script, and you'll see it everywhere once you recognize it. Go to men forums or infidelity forums or divorce forums or just look around at the people you know.. You need to understand a primary truth. Women do not love you, they love the way you make them feel. More specifically, for a woman to like you, she has to like herself when she is with you. For a woman to love you, she has to love herself when she is with you. Consider this truism from a game perspective... all …
/r/TheRedPill25/03/14 03:29 AM
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the best time to kick a man is when he is down..
/r/TheRedPill17/03/14 10:04 PM
1

the opposite of depression is not happiness, it is vitality. If you are unhappy, do not chase being happy. Do things to increase your energy, diet, exercise, purpose.. find drive and you will find "happiness"
/r/TheRedPill15/03/14 05:45 AM
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I also agree with you. Not because it sounds right, or feels right. Because it works. But there is a distinction, and this needs to be understood fully. Motivation is everything. I saw a page a few months ago from some girl site about "things that can be creepy" .. and what they listed was a bunch of things they had experienced that creeped them out. It goes back to the proverbial it's only creepy when a unattractive guy does it. That 10 guys can do the exact same thing, and soem of them can jus…
/r/TheRedPill13/03/14 06:36 AM
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so here is my take on this .. create a new reddit account and post images on gw of some of the pictures I get texted from girlfriends. create a new amazon account and create a new wishlist. fill said wishlist with sexy panties and bras and perhaps toys .. use the sizes of the above said girlfriends. give "presents" to girls in my life and take pictures of them modeling them and enjoying themselves. encourage them to go home with them and send me pictures of same. post those images back to gw for…
/r/TheRedPill13/03/14 06:10 AM
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people will treat you how you allow yourselves to be treated. she will either respect him or get next'd. If he allows her to be not nice, then she will never change. If he does not allow it, well, either she will straighten up (because his attraction causes her to), or she or he will move on. Either way, the disrespect stops.
/r/TheRedPill09/03/14 12:13 AM
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you rewarded bad behavior and got more of it. ignore or punish bad behavior. I tell her this. I tell her "we smoke spliffs almost every other day" (spliffs is a half weed/half tobacco 'cigarette'). "you've smoked cigars with me. You've smoked hookah. This is a casual thing when I drink" you do not need to explain, explaining, rationalizing, defending all make you appear weak. she is in charge of the frame and you are in reaction mode to justify. notice what happens next. She's still being pissy.…
/r/TheRedPill09/03/14 12:10 AM
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netflix has mcgyver. screw the tv, take him out and do things. he'll learn from as a positive role model in your actions than any words you can give him or movie you sit him in front of.
/r/TheRedPill09/03/14 12:01 AM
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I spoke with a lot of guys who were going through divorce at the same time and this was the most common story. I did not have cancer but did have health problems when the cheating started. I didn't find out until a year later and then it was far too late. The comment above about women do not fix boats, but they jump off a sinking one is the best way to describe this. absolutely true. I was not prepared to deal with it and it crushed what I thought I knew about love. Now it is as plain the the sk…
/r/TheRedPill08/03/14 11:29 PM
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vNsMeDBgQyg
/r/TheRedPill06/03/14 08:14 PM
2

when his girl is down for the weekend, get her to suck you off. video it if you can. show him the video in front of her. high fives all around. seriously, you cannot save him. you probably cannot even save yourself.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/14 08:10 PM
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lot's of self destructive behaviors are driven from anxiety, and our entire nation is loaded with it. Some become workaholics to avoid themselves, some turn to drugs and alcohol, some chase women, some turn to other outlets to not have to face the voices of judgement in their own head. Most go decades without realizing it. It's why people die when their life long partner dies. It's why people die when they retire from their lifetime job. Anything not to have to face themselves. another drink, an…
/r/TheRedPill06/03/14 05:45 PM
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I went through something similar, not exact, but emotionally pretty close. My parents were married, my dad got out of the army and my mom was 16 when they married. 3 kids before 20. My little brother died, they divorced, she went off the rails. Me and my sister were abandoned multiple times, once for 3 months, quite a few times for weekends, weeks, whatever. She was emotionally unavailable. Fast forward and I turned out mostly ok. A bit of an overachiever, socially awkward, and married. Decent m…
/r/TheRedPill06/03/14 04:16 PM
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well, it's simple. The time is going to pass either way, once that time has passed, where do you want to be?
/r/TheRedPill05/03/14 09:08 PM
5

Best advise I got after 15 year marriage falling apart was to avoid women for a few months. Next best advice was to date zero, or five. At no point was I only to see a single woman at a time. Truth be told, it was incredible advice. I sometimes dwindled down to 2 or 3, sometimes up to 7 or 8. But I never made one a focal point in my life. It is much better to have options than be an option. I will give this advice to every man I meet for the rest of my life who is in the same boat.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/14 09:07 PM
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This is spot on. And one of the best ways to screen for a good woman is to find out what her relationship with her Dad is. When I want to go fishing, I do not ask my 12 year old daughter for permission. Likewise, when I want to go fishing, I do not ask my girlfriend for permission. She might be invited to join, or not, but at no time does she get a vote on my activities. You can say I treat them the same, but it's not. I tease both of them in different ways. I have told my daughter "don't eat th…
/r/TheRedPill05/03/14 08:05 PM
2

smirk, not smile
/r/TheRedPill04/03/14 07:21 PM
13

Life is very chaotic, you only control yourself. You control your actions and reactions to events that happen to you. He did not control her, at any point she was free to change her mind. She wanted to be lead, not controlled. I used to think there was a very fine line between controlling and leading, but they come from polar opposites. controlling is very needy, as in you need for an interaction to go a specific way so you have expectations on others to behave a certain way. Leading is the oppo…
/r/TheRedPill04/03/14 05:44 PM
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Of course any leader would be a fool to ignore suggestions from a competent First Officer- damn good idea to stop and get the Fastpasses when we did- but her suggestions were ALWAYS FILTERED through the overall mission objective. Sure we can go that direction. The goal is to ride as many rides as possible- the mission objective doesn't matter where we start! Excellent. To many posts confuse controlling and leading. Women want to be led, they do not want to make decisions. She will yield into str…
/r/TheRedPill04/03/14 04:06 PM
3

what do you want? red pill is not some magical answer to your lifes problems. It is a realization of some things in life that you may or may not have been aware of, nothing more, nothing less. You use this knowledge to get what you want out of life, in love, at work, in your relationships with everyone you come into contact with. So what do you want? if you both want different things, then accept it. If not and you are just fearful of being the wrong thing or making the decision, get over it. Fe…
/r/askTRP19/02/14 04:04 PM
3

"got shit to do right now"
/r/askTRP19/02/14 04:00 PM
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It is not your job to save her. It is your job to be honest with her. It is your job to lead, to set the tone of your relationship. To be set in your convictions, goals, and be unshakable in your pursuit. It is your job to be her emotional rock, not altered by her emotions. Be caring when you care, be loving when you want, but never give into her from neediness. It sounds like you mostly get this. All the go chase pussy is mostly from men who do not have enough pussy in their life. All the chase…
/r/TheRedPill19/02/14 11:55 AM
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coconut oil and coffee. fuck yeah.
/r/TheRedPill19/02/14 12:24 AM
2

wow. throw the panties away, do not contact her. she does not want them or you back.
/r/askTRP18/02/14 07:27 PM
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what with us being the #1 sub the rest of reddit would like to delete and all... it'd be good to have someone on hand to keep me in check day-to-day ... You give far too many fucks about what other people think. /thread.
/r/askTRP18/02/14 07:04 PM
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if I dont live with a girl, how am I going to know where she goes out, who she has over? Simply put, you won't. Even if you live with her you wont. Even if you are married 15 years, you won't. The only way to know is to observe her actions. Last time a girl cheated she wasn't letting me get physical, brought up all these clearly made up problems in our relationship (trying to shift blame on me) etc etc. Like that, quoting from your post above. Those actions are unacceptable. You react to her act…
/r/askTRP18/02/14 06:58 PM
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hell no. I am saying that if she is not treating you the way you want to be treated, not being available to you, physically, emotionally, not being respectful, not being nurturing, not being sexual with you, whatever your needs are, if she is not meeting them, then the "why" is not that important. Focus on her actions and not her words. If you deem her actions unacceptable then you do not need more information to make a decision on. and... just so you know, no girl is going to be 100% perfect an…
/r/askTRP18/02/14 06:48 PM
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do not worry if she is cheating or not right now. focus 100% on her actions and ignore her words. Are her actions acceptable and inline with your vision of a relationship? If not, time to move on. cheating is a symptom, not the underlying problem. Do not invest energy in proving a girl to you, that is her job. That being said, if you really want to know, find out when her menstrual cycle starts. add 14 days to when her cycle starts, that will be when she is ovulating and most likely fertile. (re…
/r/askTRP18/02/14 06:28 PM
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that's a lot of words to say that feminine women like masculine men, and masculine women like feminine men. the problem with masculine women is that it tends to not be very enjoyable relationship, for either side.
/r/TheRedPill15/02/14 03:26 AM
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Speaking in generalizations, and I have known people who do not adhere to this, but I have found a large percentage of black women to be very masculine. Be it culture or genetics, it is what it is. There are many very aggressive black women and I personally find that particular unattractive. I am not even referring to the ghetto stereotype, but the more general. Athletic clothes instead of skirts and dresses, hair not done, no makeup, take it or leave it attitude. I want a woman who is feminine …
/r/TheRedPill14/02/14 08:13 PM
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It is the yin and yang of masculinity and femininity. A feminine woman wants a masculine man. A less attractive woman will become more masculine, and a women in a deadend relationship with some spineless bitch will become more masculine to match his polarity. She will be miserable for it. As she becomes more masculine, tenets of redpill will decline because this place discusses the balance of masculine and feminine. You bring the strength, the stoic rock mentality, the non-neediness, she brings …
/r/TheRedPill11/02/14 09:54 PM
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This question came up last week, and here was the post I made then. ... I think there is a larger piece of this puzzle but to grok it you have to throw out the terms alpha and beta. No one is truly alpha or beta, those are adjectives to describe traits. What it really boils down to is masculinity. A particularly feminine woman will desire a strongly masculine man. And in him, she will remain feminine because there is balance. As women hit the wall they are forced to become more masculine. They m…
/r/TheRedPill11/02/14 09:33 PM
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hell no. You do not need other women anyway. dread game is presenting that you will not tolerate any shit because you have options. You do not need fake women, or even real women to do that. Have strong boundaries, when she fucks up, you go silent, or leave, or go radio silent for a few days. You are giving her emotional stonewall because you do not need her as much as she needs you. It works the same. Creating fake women is about as needy and outcome attached as you be. There is no script that …
/r/TheRedPill11/02/14 09:25 PM
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you would think that, and I did too at one point. But it is exactly backwards from reality. Telling a girl upfront that you are dating and have other options works remarkably well. Set's the frame that you are not giving commitment away for free, it's honest and non-needy, it conveys to them that there is not heavy pressure of a relationship before its time, conveys to them that its ok to get in because you wont freak on them and go all stalkerish on them. Also, even if you are not seeing anyone…
/r/TheRedPill11/02/14 09:21 PM
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good grief, that's alot of planning. I like my method. up front, date 1 or 2. "until we have a very specific conversation saying otherwise, you should assume I am dating and sleeping with other people".
/r/TheRedPill11/02/14 09:02 PM
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Original message in case it gets removed: Earn $$$ by flirting with my ex boyfriend +some (Northwest Chicago) Ok, there's no way around it, this is going to sound like the post of a crazy person (lol, and maybe it is!) I am looking to pay some good money to hire an attractive woman in her twenties to show up at a party my ex boyfriend is going to be at, flirt with him (he is very cute and nice and funny, so it won't be hard to do) and get herself invited to his home in order to.... infect his be…
/r/TheRedPill11/02/14 05:39 PM
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I was/am in the same boat.. just judge a woman by her actions and not her words and if she is a good woman then decide what you want. I cheated on mine a few weeks ago, and told her the truth two days later. It was mildly sickening and interesting to see her forgive me within 4 hours and want to sleep with me that night. Even since then, she is nothing but attentive and fun, she continues to do 5 times more for me than I do for her. When you have the power in a relationship you have some level o…
/r/TheRedPill11/02/14 02:30 AM
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It boils down to "the grass is always greener.." you are feeling very comfortable, ass is easy to get, you are not acknowledging the good traits that your partner is showing you, only seeing what you are missing. You have the "upper hand" in the relationship, where she is more invested in you than you are in her. With that dynamic comes the power. You will bore of her. This is the same exact dynamic that is reversed very often in this sub where the girl has the power and is looking around at oth…
/r/TheRedPill11/02/14 02:01 AM
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vagiphobia
/r/TheRedPill11/02/14 12:37 AM
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it's no one elses job to prove or disprove shit. it is your job to find your own answers. that being said, two things; oxytocin and testosterone. oxytocin, the happy brain chemical you get from a real connection with another person. also, you can have sex without nagging or financial trouble if you didn't already know that. Who the hell are the 8 people that upvoted this thread? This sub is about sexual strategy, not jacking it like a 12 year old and calling it success.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/14 10:54 PM
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This is a terrible outlook on life. Choosing porn over women is a bad choice. Doing it out of fear of imaginary consequences like sperm jacking makes it even worse. I keep hearing about these mystery rape claims and asking for people to give their personal experiences here and no one does. It's not likely to happen to you, nor anyone else as long as you are not raping women. Instead of saying, I'm my own man and I want to avoid women because I am afraid, at least be honest with yourself... Tell …
/r/TheRedPill07/02/14 11:20 PM
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I hope I can him happy with whatever he decides to do well, that's the thing. You cannot make him happy. That's his job to make his own happiness a priority. All I really want to do now is to meet one of you type of thinkers ... after seeing your boyfriend here asking a buncha dorks on the internet what he should do I bet you do .. you're buying the first round tho.. are you in Texas? message me. OP -> maybe you can hold her purse?
/r/TheRedPill07/02/14 09:20 PM
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I don't like the idea of random meaningless relationships They all mean something..
/r/TheRedPill07/02/14 09:10 PM
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14 years. ended very poorly, at the 6 year mark things were still going great.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/14 09:07 PM
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my criteria? a shotgun in my back...
/r/TheRedPill07/02/14 08:50 PM
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Plenty of poor as fuck pool boys get laid like tile. Why do you have to succumb to cheap coffee dates and long walks? Tell her to buy the drinks. Man up and take what's free. Only two things in life are free, water and pussy. Never pay for either.
/r/askTRP05/02/14 04:49 PM
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depends on the girl, but basically, you cannot. If you have a longer term relationship you might be able to reinforce traits that you like and ignore/punish traits you do not like. But first meeting .. no way. If you got as girl to one night stand you, and had to hear her drone on for 20 minutes, what are you complaining about? That being said, if you really do not want to deal with it - you can try an edgier approach, tell her "talking about your personal problems is terrible foreplay" .. it co…
/r/askTRP05/02/14 04:45 PM
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No. It is your job to lead. You must lead the interaction, make your intentions known, go for rejection, show up with your sexual appetite intact, be polarizing and seek green lights or red lights. Be vulnerable to being told no, but accepting to being told yes. Behaving like you have zero interest is not correct, what you are interpreting is do not have attachment to outcome. Do not need her, want her sure, do not need her. If it happens, it happens. Very very few girls will just come running w…
/r/askTRP05/02/14 04:38 PM
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Please tell us about your personal experience with this
/r/TheRedPill05/02/14 01:36 PM
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Don't fear failure. — Not failure, but low aim, is the crime. In great attempts it is glorious even to fail. - Bruce Lee “The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.” ― Michelangelo Buonarroti year of 1520
/r/askTRP04/02/14 06:09 AM
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I think you should work on yourself before going too much further with women. "Models" by Mark Manson goes into the concept of vulnerability, which perhaps might be beneficial to you. At the end of the day, there is nothing wrong with acknowledging your needs, and making them a priority. Physical and emotional needs. Give somewhere around 1/3 of the emotional support she gives you. The ratio is golden. 1 text to every 3 she sends, 1 i love you to every 3 from her, etc.
/r/askTRP04/02/14 06:00 AM
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This is why I prefer masculine versus feminine instead of alpha versus beta. There are dark masculine traits, dark triad, and there is light masculine traits, those espoused in the article this is in response to .. and of course the generic masculine traits that everyone agrees with. (hey by they way, why didn't you comment on that thread? reddit has a great comment system where you can comment on articles directly under them instead of needing a new post)... I digress. Providing masculine energ…
/r/TheRedPill02/02/14 09:07 AM
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go to bars on slow nights, meet your bartenders, become a semi regular at 3 or 4 places. Know the door guys if they have them. Know the promoters if they have them even if just casually by name. Find a local band and map out their schedule, show up to their shows and buy them a beer every now and then. Find a place that does karaeoke and go at the same time every week. Even if you do not sing, bullshit with the regulars, request songs from them. Visit the same two or three coffee shops or bookst…
/r/TheRedPill02/02/14 05:55 AM
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You have found yourself in a situation where you are more emotionally invested in her than she is with you. You want more emotional connection from her than she wants from you. You got a few options, you can tell her this with actions with a "let's be exclusive" talk. (It could backfire bigtime but even if it does that's not the end of the world. Where you are right now is incongruent, and that is why she is shit-testing you. She can sense it by your body language and actions. You pretend to not…
/r/askTRP01/02/14 07:01 PM
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The problem is that all of you shitbag feminists think that you have the right to tell other people what we are and are not allowed to read. Fuck you people. I hope you choke on a donkey's dick and die a slow, agonizing death. I am no feminist. Had you said alcoholic and womanizer you might be closer to the truth. But that doesn't change anything. You're still wrong. I am not saying censorship, (the act of examining books or media and suppressing it because someone or group finds it distasteful)…
/r/TheRedPill01/02/14 12:48 PM
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to those harping on "freedom of speech", at what point did congress get involved in this? No one limited his speech, he has the right to say whatever he wants just as others have the right not to listen, to say an opposing view, or to not sell it. Bitching about this just makes you look weak, claiming it's a violation of "protected rights" makes you look retarded. Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedo…
/r/TheRedPill01/02/14 04:40 AM
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You're right. I misinterpreted his comment, and thus my reply was off point. My reply is still accurate, but not exactly related to what is being discussed.
/r/TheRedPill28/01/14 07:53 PM
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In BDSM, the sub is always in "control". It is the choice to relinquish control that makes it work, but it is always voluntary. There is a subtle difference here and you may not see it, but that doesn't mean it is not there. The difference between being ravaged and raped is consent and trust. Of course she wants to be ravaged, it is her nature, but that does not mean she wants to be abused. She needs to be led, not instructed. A very common emotional need from women.
/r/TheRedPill28/01/14 07:15 PM
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I have thought about this quite a bit. I do not think they change that much, all that changes is their options. I think there is a larger piece of this puzzle but to grok it you have to throw out the terms alpha and beta. No one is truly alpha or beta, those are adjectives to describe traits. What it really boils down to is masculinity. A particularly feminine woman will desire a strongly masculine man. And in him, she will remain feminine because there is balance. As women hit the wall they are…
/r/TheRedPill28/01/14 03:58 PM
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This post hit me hard. I also had a very irresponsible mother, who had her own mental issues. When I was 2 and my sister was 4, my little brother died of SIDs. marriage broken, and she went off the rails. Over the next few years she re-married a few losers and abandoned us multiple times. She kicked me out at 13 because her husband at the time didn't like having me around. There is more to the story but I'm not going to get any further into it. We had a somewhat ok relationship after I turned 20…
/r/TheRedPill28/01/14 03:35 PM
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my son tells pretty much the same story and he is in third grade. she likes you but doesn't know how to pursue. that's because it is your job to lead. Don't worry about your frame so much, just start making physical contact, arms, shoulders, hugs, then let your legs touch when sitting. tease, touch, tell.
/r/TheRedPill24/01/14 05:35 PM
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I have read quite a few books in 2013, and I benefited from them in various ways so I cannot exactly say that reading material is bad. However, at some point the answer is not another book. Almost all of them base their premise on this is what you need to do to be ___ fill in the blank. This is what you need to be happy, more confident, better with women, have better friendship relationships, be treated better by strangers and peers, blah blah. At some point you will realize that you are not bro…
/r/TheRedPill23/01/14 06:59 AM
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reward good behavior 2/3rds of the time. punish or ignore bad behavior always.
/r/TheRedPill21/01/14 01:36 PM
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Your value is N. You will spend your time chasing N+1, and being chased by N-1. If you are a 7, you will put a lot of work pursuing 8's and 9's. And also spend a lot of time being pursued by 5's and 6's. Nature of the game.
/r/TheRedPill19/01/14 05:03 AM
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What is the motivation for doing it anyway? That is the point of my question. If you are doing it for yourself because you think there is something of value to be gained? Or are you doing it because you want to be seen as the guy who did it? Why are you seeking the approval of others? Why are you thanking people for giving you approval?
/r/TheRedPill18/01/14 05:23 PM
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Not just individualism, all of the "isms" consumerism is the main one the original poster discusses, and it is quite an insightful post. consumerism is the drive to consume because you think objects will make you happy. alcoholism is the drive to replace your emptyness with more of the same. workaholism is the need to occupy yourself with something so you do not have to face your life or past hurts. feminism is the feed to find someone else to blame for your problems. all of them are superstimul…
/r/TheRedPill18/01/14 05:17 PM
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Why are you telling us what you are going to do instead of just doing it? Does it matter if others are interested in it or not? Is it to get that little thrill of approval from others saying great job for something you have not done? Is it the reddit equivalent of a facebook post and you want your little "likes"?
/r/TheRedPill18/01/14 04:04 PM
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There is a difference between controlling and leading. wrong: do not wear this ... right: I do not like it when you wear this ... It is your job to communicate and set the tone. You cannot control anyone except yourself. You control how you react to what others do, you do not control others. Framed right, she will understand what she is expected to do and that it is her choice. Framed wrong, she will feel like she is in a power struggle. How to react if she gets it right, you smack her on the as…
/r/TheRedPill18/01/14 03:52 PM
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in the words of one of the greatest modern day philosophers, Dre says, "you can't make a ho a housewife"
/r/TheRedPill16/01/14 09:53 PM
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I am going to quote from a few articles I read on this because I think you are missing the point with this question and framing it wrong. You can probably google some of the sentences to get the source articles if you care enough. I tend to take what is useful and leave the rest. "There are men and there are women. To me, these terms refer to individuals who have the female gender or identify with the female gender, and people who have the male gender or identify with the male gender. There is a…
/r/TheRedPill15/01/14 08:12 PM
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Trusted her to be honest with me lol.. that's rich. You cannot have sex with a girl every day without sparking relationship feelings. space it out, if she is just a fuck buddy, once a week to keep the feelies away. fill your life with more girls to keep your emotional ties to her getting strong. She reacted to your incongruence. Whether you admit it or not, you did have a relationship with her. If you fuck a girl every day or two for a few months and then act like you don't care it is incongruen…
/r/TheRedPill15/01/14 07:53 PM
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All of this is wrong. The actions are fine, and a good set of tips to go by. But you can see the confusion in the responses here because it is framed 100% wrong. You do not "ignore her to get her". Because that doesn't quite work. You have a full life by yourself that does not require her is what works. Plotting it out as tactical "I'll do this and she'll do that" has bad strategy. Do not focus on the outcome, focus on the interaction. Have a full and interesting life legitimately and these piec…
/r/TheRedPill07/01/14 03:40 PM
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get the meme shit off here.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/14 10:08 PM
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Her "obligation" is to make him happy in the relationship That's a load of shit. your happiness is your responsibility. only. Making your happiness a priority can be attractive to others in the right context.
/r/askTRP30/12/13 07:36 PM
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pretty simple, do not over think this. she had relationship insecurity, where is this going, am I setting myself up to be hurt, how does he feel about me? she was insecure. you projected strength and clear direction, she felt secure with you and her insecurities vanished. Never listen to what a woman says she wants, watch her actions. as for what next, I would act like it never happened. If it happens again, or any other scenario where you feel she is manipulating the situation to create drama, …
/r/askTRP30/12/13 05:25 PM
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doh .. I'm quite familiar with the phrase, never seen it abbreviated. thanks.
/r/TheRedPill29/12/13 07:35 PM
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what is a BB or AFBB .. you wrote 9 paragraphs and an entire page, what is wrong with spelling out a few words?
/r/TheRedPill29/12/13 06:59 PM
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I had a similar experience with a girl I upfront told I was an asshole. She was sweet, professional girl who worked at a large oil company doing logistics and such for pipelines. Very cute and put together. She kept hanging out with me no matter what I said or did with her. Then she told me I was a nice guy, and that I wasn't an asshole. She said she has been surrounded by guys who claimed themselves as "nice guys" who are inwardly bitter and angry and internally not all that nice most of her li…
/r/TheRedPill29/12/13 06:56 PM
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red pill is knowing the path. mgtow is walking the path. mens rights is complaining they cannot find the path.
/r/TheRedPill26/12/13 08:21 PM
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You cannot grow up and be a man if you are still liing at home... so grow up, move out, be a man. Be prepared to accept failure or success in your business but own your life first. Your Dad wants that for you by the way..
/r/askTRP22/12/13 09:35 PM
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I do not think it's a major red flag. She is just seeking validation, and she incorrectly assumes that because guys do this you will like her for it. Just tell her "talking about your ex-boyfriends is terrible foreplay", slap her on her ass and smile... then change the subject. She'll get the hint.
/r/askTRP22/12/13 09:22 PM
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I still go back and re-read sections from this book from time to time. Here is a great quote I snagged off the internet. “Austerity means to eliminate the comforts and cushions in your life that you have learned to snuggle into and lose wakefulness. Take away anything that dulls your edge. No newspapers or magazines. No TV. No candy, cookies, or sweets. No sex. No cuddling. No reading of anything at all while you eat or sit on the toilet. Reduce working time to a necessary minimum. No movies. No…
/r/RedPillBooks22/12/13 04:58 PM
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victim victim victim. Your post is no different from hers. Just as she is bullshitting by saying she cannot go to class without being sexually harassed, you saying you cannot go to the park with your kids without being labeled a child molester. Neither of those are true, or accurate. Those things happen to some people, but it is not an accurate reflection of life. Life is not fair, and if you only view yourself as the victim, then you cannot achieve much less thrive. Cast off your incorrect noti…
/r/TheRedPill18/12/13 06:10 PM
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I do not think that is what he is saying. To be upfront, I like the book, and I do understand the criticism you are saying, but I think the message you are getting is not the correct one. It is not how I took it. Just like something that is bantered about quite a bit here, it really does not matter what you say or what you do, it is who you are that matters. The gist of that is that actions are less important than motivations. Your body language will reveal your motivations, and if your motivati…
/r/TheRedPill15/12/13 06:23 AM
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— when a white Crown Vic taxi came barreling around the corner. I did what city folk usually do in this situation: I continued to walk as I turned and made eye contact with the driver. I thought we had an understanding. He was going to stop and I was going to glare yup, I saw the car coming, but I ignored a car coming directly at me because... well because he was going to stop. After we left the restaurant, we started to jaywalk diagonally across the street toward so, I am jaywalking in the stre…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/13 07:57 PM
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our scent is derived from bacteria that lives on us. the bacteria that lives on us is determined by our immune system. Our immune system is given to us by our biological parents. We can be attractive to opposites scents because they are different from our own, ie I think my sister stinks, and I think exotic women smell nice because biologically babies that were created from incest do not fare well in life. Babies born from distinct parents who give children opposing and different immune systems …
/r/TheRedPill10/12/13 11:43 PM
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No, just no. I think you are confusing two terms. There is controlling and there is leading. You cannot control anything other yourself, or more specifically your actions. You cannot "let a women" or "make a woman" do anything. You can set the tone, you can lead the interaction but she is always 100% free to make her own choices. That is not coercion. Nor is it about persuasion. It is leadership. You will receive the bahavior you tolerate. You will be treated exactly how you allow yourself to be…
/r/TheRedPill10/12/13 03:22 PM
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You gotta be kidding me.. Ever watch sports? Should players stop playing because someone has to lose and they do not want it to be them? Ever watch American idol or any of the other crappy shows where their are winners and losers? What about movies or tv shows where you cheer for the underdog? Are you so lacking in self worth that you would rather be dead than have other people think you are selfish? You have needs. They include food, water, shelter, but also include emotional needs. Getting you…
/r/TheRedPill10/12/13 03:10 PM
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Learn how to read indications of interest. Odds are strong that when you are attracted to a girl, she is attracted to you as well. Watch who looks at you, how they look at you. Talk to the people who show even the slightest bit of interest in you. If you find no one is interested, then you need to do more work to become interesting. Perhaps it is body language, so work on posture and body language. Perhaps it is the environment you are in, so work on your status within the environment. Choose wh…
/r/TheRedPill01/12/13 03:54 PM
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the material in that book will only have the value you place on it. Think of the things in your life you have owned, what did you prize more, when you worked for something or when it was given to you. Downloaded a pirated pdf will do nothing but ensure you will not take the contents of the book seriously. It's just some ebook you grifted.. buy the book. read it. consider it an investment in yourself. If you can not mentally make yourself worth the few dollars to get it legit, then it sure wont h…
/r/TheRedPill26/11/13 02:00 PM
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I disagree that all men will say yes, specifically the did the guy she cheated with "out nice" you? It get's right to the point that women will enter into a relationship with caring men but will cheat with assholes. I think if you ask 50 men that question, very few will say yes, she cheated with someone nicer than me. As for the women saying yes that they lie about their past and prefer excitement and emotional roller coaster to a kind man .. well, that's sort of the point.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/13 08:46 PM
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to men: in your entire dating life, is it better to have options or to be an option? in your past relationships, have you ever noticed the go away/come here dynamic? Have you ever pursued women only to find them retreat. And the opposite that when you give them less, they want more? have you ever been cheated on? if so, did the guy she cheated with "out nice" you? to women: Would you rather be with a good guy or an exciting guy? have you ever lied to a partner about the number of encounters you …
/r/TheRedPill25/11/13 06:22 PM
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absolutely not. There is a polarity, yes, like magnets, polarity where opposites create forces of attraction. female energy and masculine energy. Most, as in 85% of women want to remain feminine and are attracted to masculine qualities. To define feminine energy, it would be soothing, soft, nurturing, caring, communicating. To define masculine energy would be precise, solving, planning, doing, deciding, protecting, and such. The stronger you project masculine energy, the more you will be attract…
/r/TheRedPill24/11/13 11:04 PM
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I do not apologise for any of the intensely negative shit I've said. This post is pathetic I'm pissed off about something that hasn't even fucking happened to me. I'm pissed she is such a cunt and I'm pissed this guy is such a pussy. Everything you said is true. Everything you said happened to me. You describe "hysterical bonding" in a way I never have heard, but you nailed it. personality transplant, and it is temporary. It is a the biggest sign in the world that you are with a woman that doesn…
/r/TheRedPill24/11/13 10:54 PM
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never listen to what a woman says. always listen to what a woman is actually telling you.
/r/TheRedPill14/11/13 01:33 PM
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Marsupian is giving it to you straight. A book by Dr. Glover, "No more mr nice guy" is all about this. I would highly recommend you read it within the next 24 hours.
/r/TheRedPill11/11/13 02:41 PM
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This is spot on. Never apologize for doing nothing wrong. Other peoples feelings are their responsibility, not yours. By apologizing you validated them and told them you did something wrong. They did not think that, hell they invited you to come eat with them. More than likely one or more of them wanted you to make a move on them and when you didn't it made them feel undesirable, that is, you did something wrong because they did not feel good about themselves afterwards. Fuck that noise. Having …
/r/TheRedPill10/11/13 05:34 PM
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Little hard to do, given my current circumstances. And I know very little about gaming girls at this point. Only way to attract them without game is cash, which I have none. You could have cash and still strike out. If your going to bars with your mom and talking about your ex-wife all night you could have all the cash in the world and still strike out. The problem is not cash, the problem is you.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/13 07:40 PM
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which is why game is crap. push them away in a manipulative effort to control them or pull them closer in a manipulative effort to control them are not polar opposites. Both are born of the needy motivation. Which is why self acceptance is key. Love will come and go many times in your life, accept that an embrace it.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/13 08:34 PM
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I love that I am down voted into negatives for this, because it means I have hit a soft spot. Please, go ask the most prolific redpill posters; how many women have you fucked this year? How many times have you been arrested for rape? Because their reality is likely like my own, more than 10 women with zero arrests... because your premise is not reality. Go ahead, ask them. Let's hear from some of the RP endorsed guys, 10,20,30 rape arrests this year? Tell it here.. someone, anyone, confirm this …
/r/TheRedPill02/10/13 06:05 AM
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I might be an asshole, you might be an asshole too. I don't know, and do not really see how it's relevant here. Your posts says a guy goes out, meets a girl, she has a drink, they have sex, he is a rapist. You call that reality. It is not reality. It is not my reality. It is not anyone I knows reality. It probably is not yours, it is not the reality of most people in the world, and not the reality of most of the people on this forum. It is like saying: If you drive a car, it is a reality that yo…
/r/TheRedPill02/10/13 12:12 AM
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alcohol is great "social lubrication" for meeting people. introversion is great "aloof game" for building tension and avoiding oneitis. As long as you see multiple girls, avoiding getting attached to one, being a bit introverted can be a good thing.
/r/TheRedPill01/10/13 10:39 PM
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If you only take one piece of advice from this thread, take it from a man who learned the hard way not to stay in a broken relationship the hard way. My advice to you... RUN LIKE YOUR ASS IS ON FIRE.
/r/TheRedPill01/10/13 10:37 PM
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No. This is not reality. This is not my reality, is this your reality PittHarman? Did you have consensual sex and get arrested for rape? Do you know what the word reality means? Is this your specific life reality?
/r/TheRedPill01/10/13 10:33 PM
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Mine is not exactly what this is used for as it relates to women, but I'll post it anyway... I have a point to this post so I'll wrap it up at the end. I started getting sick last Wednesday, cough, sore throat, sneezing, headache. I work from home, and have an intern who helps a few days a week. I call her on Friday morning to tell her I am not feeling well, and there is not much to do so skip Friday and I'll see you next week. She says ok, then an hour and 20 minutes later texts me back that sh…
/r/TheRedPill30/09/13 01:28 PM
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It is not tit for tat, or more accurately, not I'll do this and she'll owe me this. That is the wrong attitude. You do not have to do or give her anything. You do not have to earn her attention. You do not have to provide for her, not financially, not emotionally, not physically. You have to take care of yourself. You have to focus on your world, and make it awesome for yourself and no one else. She will respond to that because she will want to be part of your world. You can do whatever you want…
/r/TheRedPill25/09/13 03:22 PM
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I think men will go out with the goal to have sex with a stranger more often than women will. I think women will go out with a goal to have attention from a stranger more often than women will. That being said, this is not universal, nor would I call it a given. Everyone seeks that oxytocin release in their own way. I agree girls do want to be noticed tho, because the world revolves around them, solipism yo. Attention from a stranger validates this world view.
/r/TheRedPill25/09/13 02:03 PM
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yikes. I read your blog. stop hanging out with your wife at bars. stop rescuing her from her stupidity. stop hanging out with your mom at bars. stop flirting with married women you have known ten years. stop. just stop. I think you should consider moving, start over in a new city. find work, make a new life for yourself.
/r/TheRedPill23/09/13 01:49 PM
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relationships need polarity. strong needs soft. masculine needs feminine. the more masculine you are, the more feminine she will be. About 80% of women prefer masculine men, but there are plenty of masculine women who prefer feminine men. The red pill does not tell you what to be, it gives you knowledge so that you can make your best way forward. If you want a dominant female in your life, then perhaps you should find one. Know that very few women like being that person and many will resent you …
/r/TheRedPill22/09/13 05:40 PM
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do you hate water for being wet?
/r/TheRedPill22/09/13 04:30 PM
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exactly
/r/TheRedPill22/09/13 12:07 AM
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you made no commitment to the boyfriend, you would be breaking no vow or promise, that's on her. That said, it seems your playing this one hard with alot of confrontational pushing. she is texting you she wont, she wont, but we all know she will. Do watch out for regret speak from her later if she doesn't get what she wants. She has the texts to "prove" she has no intention of having sex. I would pass on this one, mostly because she seems quite the lil bitch who likes to be bossy and get her way…
/r/TheRedPill21/09/13 04:06 PM
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But we end up bickering a lot because she needs things done right away, and I'm more laid back. So, change the frame. There is no wrong, there is your way and her way. When I make the bed, I leave the sheets loose, because I like it that way. When a girl makes my bed, I do not complain about how she tucks the sheets. The same concept applies. If she wants you to do things, explain to her that you do things your way, and if she wants them done another way, she can do it. Do not accept any guilt, …
/r/TheRedPill20/09/13 10:51 PM
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tease, touch, tell. tease her mercilessly. touch her often tell her to do something. This combination meets her emotional needs.
/r/TheRedPill19/09/13 12:02 AM
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jesus christ .. you poor bastard. my advice is to disconnect the emotional hose from her. her problems are not your problems. Her bad decisions are not your problem. You say her life will be ruined if... well you know what, so what? Lot's of people ruin their life, and they enjoy every second of it while they are doing it. you cannot save her. period. ever. She has to live her own life, she has to make her own mistakes, and she has to learn her own lessons. So do you. All you can do is save your…
/r/TheRedPill17/09/13 10:03 PM
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8/10 nice troll, but the name gave it away nechbrd.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/13 04:30 PM
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It's all in how you frame it. You are faking it, and finding success. It's tiring and draining, and you do not want to have to pretend to be something you are not in order to have a relationship dynamic that you desire. The alternative is to make changes in your life to become that instead of faking it. Instead of dreading the task of being a strong man, even when you are tired or frustrated, be the strong man... then it comes very natural and effortless.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/13 04:18 PM
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So this guy, who you have seen 3 times in a year put his dog down. Yes, that sucks, but how do you know the whole story here? Did he tell you this? I don't get it.. No man just decides to shoot his dog, there has to be more to this. You said the dog was bullying, maybe he was biting and drawing blood. Maybe it was a terrible situation, I have no idea. Neither do you really.. I do know that you and him are not close friends anymore if you only see him for 45 minutes a few times a year. I would sa…
/r/TheRedPill16/09/13 06:34 PM
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"I would be shocked if my GF has cheated on me. I mostly trust her" And that's the problem. You cannot feel both of those at the same time. Either you trust her or you do not. You cannot mostly trust her. Ignore her words, watch her actions. They will tell you everything you need to know about where she is in the relationship. Besides, you already know she lies so don't get caught up in her words.. think about this. Really.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/13 01:25 AM
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Okay, here's where I'll agree I don't get your point, and possibly not the author's either. If it takes me 3 times as long to get from the McDonalds to the hotel, do my buisness, and get back, and I'm having a bowel movement either way... why does it really matter? Here is your original statement: How is this even part of a guide to being a man? As long as bathrooms work, and are clean enough not to be carrying disease, who cares? let's rephrase this. Why not just eat at that Macdonalds, as long…
/r/TheRedPill11/09/13 08:29 PM
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I read this and thought how preposterous, ohh, I get it, his mom has horses and is crazy. He's projecting his childhood baggage on women... Except I think back to every woman I have ever known with horses and the same applies. I know two different men well who wives were into horses. Both led miserable lives of psychological abuse and the crazy bitches eventually cheated on and left both of the men. It rings true and I cannot think of a single anecdote to reverse it, but damn, it sure sounds rid…
/r/TheRedPill11/09/13 07:58 PM
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This list has a lot of really stupid comments and "rules" to it. This isn't about being a man, it's about being a corporate functionary, and disparaging anyone who's not a part of the jet set. I see your perspective, but you do not see his. Rebel from business casual. Burn your khakis and wear a suit or jeans. So apparently programmers working a steady high paying job at, say, Raytheon, where they wear khakis and polos aren't men... riiiiight. They are called asshole pants for a reason. Every ch…
/r/TheRedPill11/09/13 07:00 PM
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I do not really disagree with anything you said, but I will ask, what is your opinion of a woman getting an abortion in the first trimester because she changes her mind or does not like consequences of her actions? Do you recognize that people can have a personal view of how immoral and terrible this situation is, but still see the polarity of it being legal for a woman to do the same action if she chooses?
/r/TheRedPill11/09/13 03:40 AM
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a generation of men raised by women.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/13 12:02 AM
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Do not worry about what to reply. focus on the bigger issue here. "I decided that im not going to bother unless she makes the effort. So I dont bother pursuing, and typical hamster she texts like every few days lets hang out !" You need to set the tone and take the lead. Not bothering to pursue and letting her take the lead is not congruent with sending a "red pill reply". You have already failed to lead. Sending something else is not being in frame. The lesson from this is not, "what line do I …
/r/askTRP10/09/13 06:42 PM
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This is exactly the right answer. From her perspective, all contact has motive. Her asking what bars you're into is questioning if she can see herself with you. Invite her. You are not being compliant in the response either, not giving her what she asks for, you are giving her what she wants. You flip the script on her, you lead by setting the tone and direction, you make the decision about logistics, you be bold in your first move, and you express complete vulnerability in doing so because it i…
/r/TheRedPill09/09/13 11:50 PM
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http://laidnyc.wordpress.com/2013/09/04/your-seed-is-gold/
/r/TheRedPill09/09/13 09:43 PM
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I think it is necessary to go through this stage in order to learn how to calibrate. From ultra-nice, to ultra-dick. the i dont give a fuck feeling is indeed strong and powerful. However, you need to align yourself and follow your truest wisdom as well. The idgaf mentality does not mean, go run red lights. It does not mean, go sleep with your friends wives, It does not mean, go snort coke and bang strippers bareback, it does not mean go rob a bank, it does not mean shit on your friends. It means…
/r/TheRedPill09/09/13 02:38 PM
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I saw that stupid post last week from laidinnyc or something where he goes on a rant about "my seed is liquid gold", and I stole it and put it on my plenty of fish profile. Over the course of the weekend I got like 30 new messages. I didnt change pictures or answers, just the profile section. Craziest response rate I have ever seen. A few observations, the more unattractive the woman, the higher the odds were that they were negative in response, the younger and more attractive the woman, the mor…
/r/TheRedPill09/09/13 01:53 PM
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I see lots of over thinking this here and there. These are the wrong line of thought.. shes wrong shes right she is playing you you need to game her back blah blah .. It's pretty simple.. you will be treated like you allow yourself to be. When you do not enforce boundaries, they will be walked over. It is not her fault you do not enforce boundaries. If you reward bad behavior, you will get more of it. Your reward to her is validation and emotional connection. So remove these when she does things…
/r/TheRedPill09/09/13 11:48 AM
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So, the first problem is that you are listening to a woman and expecting her to tell you her wants and needs. Womens mind are like the weather, always changing. That is not a bad thing, it just is. Listening to a woman makes as much sense as listening to the weather. Sure its nice to listen to a rain storm every now and then, but do you expect it to tell you something? Of course not. That's rediculous. Can you imagine yourself out in a thunderstorm talking to the raincloud, hey raincloud, what a…
/r/TheRedPill07/09/13 06:01 PM
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I disagree with that slightly. I think a more plausible explanation is that she felt insecure before, and her emotions ran away a bit, but that now she was feeling secure in the relationship because he was congruent and authentic. Women crave this sense of emotional security but will never tell you this. That insecurity was very real to her when original poster was all wuvvy duvvy, but after displaying a spine her insecurities felt like fantasy dreamworld because they were no longer real to her.…
/r/TheRedPill06/09/13 06:38 PM
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good stuff. It is good that your girl is away with family and you have some time to work on you right now. You're doing well. I think your next move should be to go to the bookstore and find a copy of David Deidas "the way of the superior man". I am sure you can find a torrent if you tried and just get a pdf but don't. If it's free, you will not value it as much as if you pay for it. So go find it and read it over the weekend. It's not a bible, I don't agree with everything in there, but enough …
/r/TheRedPill06/09/13 02:40 PM
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Women are not the enemy. I hate that so many folks here focus on negatives on women without taking equal responsibility for their own shortcomings in life. If that girl wasn't into you in your 20's, it might be because of who you were in your 20's when she passed on you. Not so much her. especially if it is a repeat pattern. I think those who have the mindset that women are the enemy should focus on themselves. The problems you will find in your mirror are much easier to control and rectify than…
/r/TheRedPill06/09/13 01:20 AM
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In two paragraphs you sum'd up a good chunk of the book, "No More Mr. Nice Guy" .. the classic nice guy with a need for external validation it drives his motivations in life because he wants the recognition for those actions to increase his opinion of himself. The real bitch about that is the disconnect between inner view of self and the dissonance between them. The nice guy thinks that just like his childhood that if he just get's the right script down, and does the right things, and makes the …
/r/TheRedPill06/09/13 12:10 AM
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There is a concept I learned about somewhere in the last year or so called the "emotional hose". It means you attach a hose to the other person and allow their emotions to define yours. If momma aint happy, aint no one happy syndrome. See the problem with that is that you cannot control her feelings and by allowing her to subconsciously control yours you are never in control. You are never the rock she needs because she sees how easily she can make you waive. Well, her feelings are not your resp…
/r/askTRP05/09/13 12:10 PM
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meditation increases serotonin in the brain. serotonin is a happy chemical neurotransmitter providing a sense of satiate or appeased calm. The feeling of being full after eating, feeling of being relaxed after sex. It has an effect on your brains ability to process information, ie people say during a car wreck that time went into slow-motion, this is a net effect of surge of this neuro-transmitter. Knowing the above, meditation can be useful in self development. It can increase awareness and cal…
/r/askTRP05/09/13 12:04 PM
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In general, you will be treated the way you allow yourself to be treated. If you are routinely mistreated and this pattern follows you, look at yourself to discover why. I would say work on self-respect and assertiveness. It is not unhealthy to just assume that everything that happens to you in life is your fault, or at least your responsibility. Even if it is not your fault, blaming others is making yourself the victim and giving away your power. You must be willing to face whatever life throws…
/r/askTRP05/09/13 11:58 AM
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cold_august is spot on here. Women are bilogically programmed to be security seeking creatures. She can not be bothered to evaluate how you allow the world to treat you because to women they only see the world through their own eyes. Therefore her impression of your ability to lead in life is directly proportional to your ability to lead her. Her impression about your ability to protect her from the world is directly proportional to your ability to protect yourself from her. In other words, her …
/r/TheRedPill05/09/13 02:25 AM
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leadership test, fitness test, shit test.. all words that describe the same thing. It is not just women that do this, although in 90% of the discussion here that is the focus. Think of it this way, when my children were 5 they acted one way with me at home, they acted another way with me at church, they acted another way with my grandmother without either parent there, and they act another way at school with their friends. They constantly "test" for boundaries, they learn what behavior they can …
/r/TheRedPill05/09/13 02:09 AM
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Absolutely escalate. Three keys to building attraction, TTT, tease, touch, tell. Yes, tell her to do something. Make her invested in you and thus invested in the relationship. Make her more invested in you to keep her interest in you. Tease her, this does not mean be a dick, but sometimes it happens and that's mostly ok. Tease her like you would tease a little sister. Make fun of her and laugh with her. push-pull. cause tension, releive tension. As you discovered if you drown her in i wuv you, i…
/r/TheRedPill05/09/13 01:20 AM
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I wish I could give this 100 points.
/r/TheRedPill03/09/13 05:42 PM
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the greatest piece of advice that I wish I had when I was where you are now, "do not trust words to determine what she is feeling or thinking, watch actions and judge based on actions alone."
/r/TheRedPill03/09/13 10:47 AM
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You have a link for that specific article?
/r/TheRedPill27/08/13 07:53 PM
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I do feel some empathy for her, I do the same thing with beer. No matter what I tell myself before I start, sometimes 1 is just never enough... self destructive behavior is rooted in similar thought patterns, regardless of how manifested. She has chosen a particularly nasty way to self sabotage herself tho. That being said, she's a fine specimen isn't she. I am sure she'll make a suitable wife for some chump in a few years and he will never have any idea what he is getting into.
/r/TheRedPill27/08/13 12:58 PM
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23 year old man seeking marriage with a woman he has know less than 9 months ... because I wuv her.. shoot yourself now.
/r/TheRedPill27/08/13 05:16 AM
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Nice guys usually are not that nice. They think they are, and they can list off page after page of all their good traits and qualities and good deeds. But those are very frequently driven from emotional neediness for external validation. The cheating wife does not validate said nice guy at all. It ends up in this miserable co-dependant go away/come here, I love you but lash out at you because you hurt me and I hurt you. It's a downward spiral that kills many marriages because no ones needs are m…
/r/TheRedPill26/08/13 07:48 PM
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This highlights a simple truth more men should understand. I think it is common knowledge that you cannot control anyone else or anyone their emotions. You cannot make a woman like you, only she can do that. But in order for her to like you, what really has to happen psychologically is that she has to like herself when she is with you. She is always viewing the world as it relates to her, so for her to like you, she has to enjoy the feels she has when she is with you. It is subconscious, and it …
/r/TheRedPill26/08/13 02:30 PM
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Her sex drive is fine. She is just not sexually attracted to her husband. He is a doormat, and she views him as such. This new revelation has her shook up because she is now contemplating that perhaps he does not need her as much as she thought he did. So she shamed him and he failed the shit test. She has him under control. No healthy marriage goes two years without sex. No Mid 30s woman goes two years without wanting sex. She just doesn't want sex with him.
/r/TheRedPill24/08/13 07:18 PM
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so you posted twice, and I still have absolutely no idea what you are trying to say. Speak english, use nouns and verbs. Seriously, what point are you trying to make? Nothing you do or say is going to change us. It is patently impossible to override a logic and fact based philosophy with an emotion based one. .. ? there is no irony there. Have you ever been on any of the, for example, feminist subreddits? Have you ever scrolled through their posts about patriarchy and rape culture and laughed to…
/r/TheRedPill24/08/13 07:17 AM
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I know a guy at work who listens to Rush, and then listens to NPR. I have known folks to watch cnn, and then listen to fox news. In their mind they are seeing the other side. It fascinates their mind to see alternative perspectives. I do not know what anyone else's goals are, and cannot speak for anyone but myself. But I see a nonstop feed of /r/relationship links on this forum to show the blue, the hamster. This forum feeds on seeing the other side and mocking it. Perhaps the reciprocal is the …
/r/TheRedPill24/08/13 06:51 AM
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I appreciate you coming to give your opinion, I don't agree with it of course but like that you are here to share it. The problem as I see it is that your needs are not the same as his needs and therefore you cannot emphasize with him. His emotional needs are to feel respected and they are not met. His 22 year old wife went to Florida with her slutty friends 6 months ago, so back in March, so for spring break.. and he didn't want her to go. He asked she not go party because he knew what was goin…
/r/TheRedPill23/08/13 03:30 AM
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Completely agree. When my daughter lies to me, I immediately call her on it. I do not make a cute sarcastic comment telling her I know but letting her get away with it. It's really no different here. If it is a woman you like, call her out is the only authentic answer. Anything else is approval seeking and will be seen as such. If it is some tramps friend giving you lip, even more the reason to freeze them out. I do not think it is a good plan to allow or accept emotional manipulation at all in …
/r/TheRedPill22/08/13 11:09 PM
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in the words of a great modern day philosopher, Dr Dre: "you can't make a ho a housewife"
/r/TheRedPill22/08/13 06:58 PM
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My core confidence may be high, I'm giving less and less fucks everyday, but I'm lacking those leader traits you mentioned about rising to challenges, being bold, being inspiring, Key differences here. There is high self confidence. You know you can handle lifes challenges. You know you can do things. You know you can make good things happen if you work towards them. If you lack this, work on setting and accomplishing goals. If a goal appears far away, make a waypoint between where you are and w…
/r/TheRedPill22/08/13 04:55 PM
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This is exactly accurate, and you will find that the principles that make you successful in business relation ships will make you successful in personal relationships. See, that's the thing for me. I have been wildly successful in my career. I have rose to challenges and done great things. Led teams, shown integrity, made moves, and now find myself at the top of my chosen field. It was my personal relationship that I fucked up on. I believed in the a woman will love you unconditionally and you c…
/r/TheRedPill22/08/13 01:34 AM
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help me understand. A few months ago I began exercising daily. simple, no equipment stuff. Why is this approach better? pushups. I started doing pushups, and set a timer on my cell phone. How many pushups can I do in 1 minute? I started and the number was pathetic.. like less than 10. Over three months and I could drop and do 40 to 50 at will. My arms bulked up, I could see veins in my arms. I felt better. My chest took some form. Push/pull action. Laying on my back using a nerf football in my h…
/r/TheRedPill21/08/13 04:52 PM
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This post is spot on. It's brain chemistry. The first months are great, you are swimming in dopamine, serotonin and Oxytocin. You are feeling accepted and valued and treasured and valued. It's great. It's the biological and neuro-chemical definition of love. It has fuck all to do with life in general after this phase passes. Roughly 12-18 months. During that time, you may or may not make bonds that can last longer, but the brain fog is limited. That fog hides things, it hides that the tough exte…
/r/TheRedPill21/08/13 01:50 AM
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I'm gonna call you out on this, but not in a mean or arrogant way. In a "if you had guy friends that cared about you" way, this what they would be telling you. That's horseshit. online dating should take a back seat to personal interaction. That being said, online dating can be effective way to meet people. herway . that sounds terrible. The only way you can reach the women is if they initiate contact? Women want a man who will lead, and leading means initiating contact, setting the tone, settin…
/r/TheRedPill21/08/13 01:23 AM
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da fuk? .. what was the intention of posting this?
/r/TheRedPill20/08/13 11:23 PM
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agreed. I'm the guy who plays guitar tho
/r/TheRedPill19/08/13 10:24 PM
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yes. I chat up every bartender I see, and have learned in time not to sleep with them. When I walk into a club or bar and they come around the bar to give me a hug or the like it is huge social proof. I have walked in sat down and noticed being looked over only to have a cute bartender come flirt with me and find other women immediately responsive... funny how that works. No issue friend-zoning girls. The problem that many men have with girls who are friends is that they are the oribiter, they a…
/r/TheRedPill19/08/13 09:15 PM
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omega gay guy who wants to raise a child... just no. just no.
/r/TheRedPill18/08/13 06:31 PM
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I like to search for the word feminist in my area, and send them an opener.. hey cupcake, pretend it's our 3rd date and things are going well... what kind of sandwich are you making me?
/r/TheRedPill17/08/13 08:11 PM
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|What sounds worse to you, a harmless joke or a woman stringing along her fiancé while secretly wishing to be with another man? The question is not which sounds worse... the question is how does these things make her feel about her? solipsism..
/r/TheRedPill17/08/13 04:33 PM
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This entire question is framed wrong. Dead wrong. It is not, if I act like a jerk will I get results, and if I act genuine, will I get results? Be true to yourself. Like what you like. Treat what you consider bad bahavior accordingly. If you reward bad behavior, you will get more of it. "Give me your phone number." "Give me a kiss." "Let's fuck." Yeah, I keep reading about how strangely effective that is and when I think about it, it just feels right, especially if I can take "no" for an answer …
/r/TheRedPill16/08/13 02:23 AM
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no, not at all. Do things you enjoy, and want to. You do not have to be an asshole. You can be kind, or you can be an ass. You can be charming or you can be a jerk. Whatever you say does not really matter. The actions you do don't even really matter. The motivation behind it is what matters. Everyone one of those things listed in that article can be creepy, or it can be just fine. In all cases, it is the motivation that will generate the creepy vibes. Being authentic means being congruent with y…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 05:18 PM
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one of the tenants of NLP is the concept of the brain does not understand the word no. Example, whatever you do, do not think of an elephant in the next 10 seconds. What did you do? You thought of an elephant. The brain does not apply that word. Another example, a girl saying, I am not having sex with you tonight. In her mind, she just told herself, I am having sex with you tonight. I love it when I hear this phrase on a first date. Parenting pro-tip by the way, use this to your advantage with y…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 04:28 PM
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dumb article is dumb. It is not the action in ANY of these actions. It is the motivation behind it. 90% of communication is non-verbal, it is given off by posture, body language, use of eye and hands. If you are doing these behaviors with a creepy motivation, she (being quite intuitive), will pick up on it. Rewritten as - don't be creepy. aka, don't be emotionally needy or manipulative. Do not do something because you secretly want something in return. Do because you choose to or not.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 04:22 PM
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This is the right answer, and should be at the top. Love is a chemical process, from our limbic systems. It is the release of serotonin, (content), oxytocin (feeling loved/accepted), dopamine (thrill of the chase). Cortisol is a stress hormone, which I guess love includes. The brain releases these chemicals in response to what it is trained to. Some emotionally distant men unable to commit chase unavailable women and reject anyone that truly accepts them. Some women chase abusers because they le…
/r/TheRedPill14/08/13 01:57 AM
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"test" is the common used term to describe it. It is not conscious, it is subconscious. Just like little kids learn that they can behave one way at home, another way at school, and a completely different way at grandmothers house without parents around. They are not plotting and planning tests to game anyone, they test the waters with behavior and react accordingly. All people do this, men, women, children, old and young. passing a woman's "shit tests" is another way of saying she is subconsciou…
/r/TheRedPill11/08/13 04:55 AM
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Instead of talking about her, how about I call you out on your bullshit. Why do you feel the need to explain to her how to live her life after breaking up with her? Why do you feel like you need to "fix" her. Why do you feel the need to communicate with someone who disrespects you? Why are you writing page long emotional drivel about some bitch you used to fuck? Bottom line, you cannot control anyone but yourself. Instead of looking to find her flaws.. look inward. If she only chooses loser emot…
/r/TheRedPill11/08/13 12:21 AM
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"But women don't rape men as a result" sure they do. change that to "women don't rape men they do not find attractive"
/r/TheRedPill10/08/13 04:45 PM
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I stole it and made it my pof profile. Will post back if any results come from it.
/r/TheRedPill10/08/13 04:10 PM
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I agree with this, it is context based. On a date out somewhere, yes, when I am with you, I am with you. But, on a weekend night, after going out, chilling at my house, I have put my phone on the stereo to run pandora or winzip mp3's for hours and have just let those 9pm, 10pm, 11pm, midnight, and 2am.. especially the 2:30am texts on a Saturday night... texts buzz right along interrupting the music every now and then for 1-2 seconds.. I never check or touch the phone, but the message is clear. W…
/r/seduction08/08/13 02:15 AM
1

Value is also intangible. Things like being positive influence in her life. Things like making her feel validated, but not ass kissed. You cannot "make a girl like you".. you really cannot make anyone feel anything, they have to generate those feelings themselves. Building attraction is the process by which you attempt to generate those feelings in her. At a base level, how she feels about her herself when she is with you will be exactly how she feels about you. If when she is with you, she feel…
/r/seduction08/08/13 02:09 AM
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It's very good, go read the amazon reviews to get an idea what it is about. Basically, it focuses on you and the role you must fill in relationships. It describes women as feminine, and how you must act to bring out those qualities in a woman. It describes how important it is to build your passions and mission in life. It describes how to respond to emotional blowups from women, and how to turn them around and bring them back into you. It focuses heavily on the concept of being the rock, the oak…
/r/seduction04/08/13 07:42 PM
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Agree with this, and I'll add a book I found immensely helpful. The Way of the Superior Man - Deida
/r/seduction04/08/13 03:53 PM
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I love it. I have seen other people complain but I have had good success. I have turned messaging to texting to dates to sex inside of days multiple times. You have to be 100% true to yourself at all times, and have a not give many fucks mentality, but it works. For a few months, I was better in face to face meatspace for approach and getting positive response. Now it is the opposite. In other words, do what works for you. If something is not working for you, change it or fix it.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/13 08:52 AM
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I think of feminine energy and masculine energy as poles on a magnet. They are very different, and depending on polarity, they can attract fiercely or repel fiercely. There are masculine men and feminine men, there are feminine women and masculine women. They attract polar opposites, strong seeks soft and soft seeks strong. The typically find equal amounts of neediness, or emotional baggage, but polarity is opposite. Strong masculine women seek out and want soft men. Strong masculine men want an…
/r/TheRedPill03/08/13 06:17 AM
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depends on who the real you is. if the real you is confident and honest and a bit cocky, then yup. if the real you is a whiny needy bitch, then nope. rule 1, be attractive. rule 2, dont be unattractive. rule 3, you will attrack what you present rule 4, be consistent with it so they believe you. If you want a girl to like you for you be a likable person and make it easy for them. That's the definition of inner work. This is (or at least supposed to be) seduction focused here, maybe you are lookin…
/r/seduction02/08/13 10:04 PM
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He affords to live there because of "his unemployment" and his girlfriend lives there. coupled with "it happened a few more times since then" .. He doesn't sound beta, he is walking all over you... like a boss. The only issue here is you OP. Blaming others makes you feel good to be the victim. You will receive EXACTLY the treatment you tolerate. This means that everything that happens in your life is 100% your fault and your responsibility. Own it. The problem is you, move out. Grow up.
/r/TheRedPill02/08/13 09:27 PM
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This is why personal integrity is important. Never let a girl tell you to lie. You make your own decisions and follow your own wisdom. Allowing her to dictate your actions gave her the power. Breaking up with her and then going back with her also gives her all the power. Just weak... Also, your friend got a raw deal and didn't even see it coming. No real loss for either of you.
/r/TheRedPill02/08/13 04:51 PM
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he can't watch
/r/TheRedPill02/08/13 04:45 PM
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agree and amplify. .. absolutely, I dream up shit like this to say every night and wake up with huge wood every morning.
/r/TheRedPill02/08/13 04:43 PM
2

how about no.... but you can buy me one.
/r/TheRedPill02/08/13 04:41 PM
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I've had this one, reacted stone cold. Her words, "I think I'm done. I don't feel like you even care about me that much and all I do is think about you and do for you" .. something to that effect. My response. 10 seconds silence. "ok" .. 10 seconds silence. "you're tired, I'm tired, it's time for bed." stand up and walk away. her: "ok" .. following me.
/r/TheRedPill02/08/13 04:39 PM
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When it comes down to it, she only really gives a shit about how her actions affect HER, so her behaviour must be felt by herself. When she fucks up, neglect emotionally and she will learn not to do it. I certainly knew this, but I never saw it put in words this well.
/r/TheRedPill02/08/13 07:43 AM
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Just be honest with her. You are not giving her the emotional security she craves. She is not giving you the intimacy and empathy you crave. You both are lashing out at each other because neither of you are getting your needs met. Continuing or even progressing this relationship on it's current trajectory is not healthy. You can work on you, she can work on herself, and maybe you can sort it out or maybe not. Ultimately, it sounds like you are unhappy now and not wanting to sign on the line for …
/r/TheRedPill02/08/13 07:36 AM
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also remove "always and never". as in, you never do.. we never do.. you always do this... .. bleh. drop those words in that context from your life as well.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/13 08:16 PM
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In all fairness, Larry Summers is an aweful aweful choice. He has decades of failure attributed to him.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/13 11:47 PM
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dr. robert glover
/r/seduction31/07/13 06:19 PM
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no more mr nice guy is much more focused on you. models is more focused on relationships. ... without knowing your issues, I would say you cannot go wrong with nmmng first in either event, but perhaps you might benefit from other ork in between them. go check out the nmmng forum and search for ruf's plan.
/r/seduction30/07/13 09:53 PM
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sure you can. They pursue their own goals, but their feelings are not my concern. Women exist in my life solely for my leisure, and nothing else. Not that I am cold about it, but ultimately, it is just not my concern. The less I give them, the more they give me. Tell me why I should give a damn. Talking about her problems is terrible foreplay...
/r/TheRedPill28/07/13 11:48 PM
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I offer no reasons to commit. I am just offering that women do have value outside of sex. not all of the them of course, but be open to the idea and you may be surprised. I saw in another of your posts you are only dating girls 21-24. I think this colors your perspective a bit but you'll see this on your own as you go through life.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/13 08:11 PM
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I'll take a stab at "feminine energy".. If you consider yin and yang, their is balance to life. Strong needs soft to balance. Masculine energy is logical, strong, protective, productive. Feminine energy is soft, yielding, emotional. Beer is like feminine energy. Music is feminine energy. Both of those things recharge me. They are not logical and productive, but they can balance me. Women can be recharging as well. To me, I went through the same thing. women are for fucking and thats it. But then…
/r/TheRedPill28/07/13 07:31 PM
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ability to cook bacon and eggs. attentiveness and compassion in a non-sexual caring way. sometimes women bring me beer or food or both for no reason or sometimes clean my dishes or make the bed the next morning for no reason. I like that, it's nice to have something done unexpectedly. the joy of feminine energy. (think of it this way, women are like the weather, no one talks to the weather and listens and expects anything to make sense. However, sometimes it is nice to sit on your porch and list…
/r/TheRedPill28/07/13 06:37 PM
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can you explain hat you mean about a shopping list from a mail order clinic in flo? Not following you.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/13 06:22 AM
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"The comment targeted Lanker-Simons, describing her as “that chick that runs her liberal mouth all the time.” “One night with me and she’s gonna be a good Republican (expletive),” according to the post." .. wait, what was the crime? seriously.. what was the crime here?
/r/TheRedPill27/07/13 07:07 PM
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google hysterical bonding...
/r/TheRedPill27/07/13 01:08 AM
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The more you pass shit tests, the less you will get. The more you fail them, or are inconsistent in them, the more you will get. Once she is secure in your boundaries, and your ability to enforce them, she will not test them. If you waver, she will not feel the security she craves. Women are security seeking creatures first and foremost. It is evolutionary, and it is subconscious. She may bitch about it, but ignore her words and observe her actions only. By her actions you will see this is true.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/13 08:52 PM
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If someone asks my opinion, I give it to them. That has not always worked out well, but if they do not want to hear, they should not ask. A few people have really latched on and ask more. I never share resources or point them anywhere. They are on there own just as I am. I'll provide my own perspectives on things and that's it. Very few people are capable of hearing until they are in a place where they can accept it and understand it. I do not preach anything to anyone. If someone wants the trut…
/r/TheRedPill26/07/13 08:44 PM
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exactly, the point he failed is when shit came pouring in, the point he regained, she agreed and it was done. Look back at the flow of the conversation to see how rewarding bad behavior does nothing but guarantee more of the same.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/13 08:33 PM
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fuck all of her friends. at least make out with them in front of her if possible at the party. never contact her again. get off the drugs, they are holding you back and keeping you from dealing with your true emotions. until you do so, you will not move forward.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/13 08:24 PM
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yes, shit test. Her: "you want me to let you go?" Me: "yup" Her: ...sumpin.. Me: "Okay I'll stay on the phone" and that is where you failed it.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/13 08:14 PM
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self deprecation, no. And do not allow others to deprecate you either. humility, yes. You do not need to brag. You do not need to explain, defend, debate, or be boastful. Fly under the radar, be known by your actions and not your words. Being humble can have the effect of some people underestimating you, however when they do see the value later they will have greater respect for you.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/13 02:37 PM
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I got so much more attention and respect from the 23 year old daddy issues. nice
/r/TheRedPill26/07/13 02:34 PM
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That's naive, read some literature. Hell read the bible. People been fucking since people existed.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/13 02:31 PM
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the problem is you. move out.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/13 02:07 PM
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37 here, 9 months into divorce of 14 years together. 2 kids, worked like a slave to support a family and let her be a stay at home mom. She betrayed me deeply at a minimum the last 2-3 years. Gaslighted and lied all along. Every piece of her behavior was visible and easily explainable had I known what I know now. I accept full responsibility for where I have been, but more importantly, I accept full responsibility for where I am going.
/r/TheRedPill24/07/13 06:29 PM
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that and the fact that all women cheat given a long enough timeline.
/r/TheRedPill23/07/13 02:02 AM
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Had a date planned last Thursday, a painting class of sorts where you bring your wine or beer and the teacher goes through a painting with about 20 people and at the end you get to take your painting home. Victoria cancels on me about noon, so I send a text to another girl, call her Jennifer. I tell her I have something gun planned and to be at my house at 5:30. I call the place and ask them to update the reservation with Jenns name. We get there and they did not. Not only during sign in they ca…
/r/TheRedPill22/07/13 08:56 PM
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Why are you trying to control his life? You do not control anything other than yourself. Just be yourself, focus on you. He has his own troubles and they are his. It is not your job to save him. You cannot, all you can do if you try is piss him off. You need to stand on your own feet. Move out. Do not live with a woman ever unless you want to raise a family with her. You are not even fucking this girl and she lives with you? Her boyfriend bailed for a month and left you to be her emotional tampo…
/r/TheRedPill22/07/13 06:21 PM
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"and I'm not intoxicated ... Yet!" was the next line that was cut off.. great clip.
/r/TheRedPill21/07/13 09:16 PM
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"However, I don't think your 'red pill' philosophy is adding much toward finding a solution to the problem" That's because it isn't. It is recognition of the world, not a solution to it. Everyone must navigate their own path for themselves, but recognition of the real honest motivations and expectations are important. It's not how do we solve the problem, it's hey look, there is a problem and if you do this you can be successful despite it.
/r/TheRedPill21/07/13 09:07 PM
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Bradshaw has some interesting stuff, I suggest you purchase the audio book for "Homecoming". It's inner child stuff, and was the way I found how to love myself. It basically boils down to finding that awkward 4 year old you were, that 6 year old, that 7 year old. Healing his wounds and giving him your love. When your stressed, talk to him. You are the only person who will never leave you. Cherish yourself for that.
/r/TheRedPill21/07/13 09:04 PM
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It's not the action, it is the motivation. If you are an asshole because you are focused on yourself and your needs and being honest, it's fine. If you are an asshole because you are being needy or want to feel better by putting someone else down or any other validation seeking behavior, it's not fine. The corollary is trues as well: If you are kind because you are focused on yourself and your needs and being honest, it's fine. If you are a nice guy because you are being needy or want to feel be…
/r/TheRedPill19/07/13 03:42 PM
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This is exactly how you train a puppy.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/13 10:22 PM
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I think this is spot on. Does she give me shit? A good woman will not give you shit, or give you shit tests. She will not bring drama and endless vapid garbage. She will bring beer and cookies and respond at 2am when I am drunk and horny.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/13 04:02 PM
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only two things in this world are free, water and pussy. All you have to do is go get it.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/13 03:56 PM
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da fuck did I just read?
/r/TheRedPill16/07/13 12:45 AM
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Women are not like men, their minds change like the weather. Her mind is an emotional storm that passes and goes. You be like a tree in her storm, a 100 year old oak tree that has seen a million storms and knows that this one too will pass. You can ignore her, you can smile at her or tease her or tickle her or slap her ass and bring her out of the storm or you can let her be. You should not be in the storm with her as anything other than a rock. As for the rest of the interaction, you cannot mak…
/r/TheRedPill15/07/13 06:04 PM
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Lot's of reasons. 1) Makes her invested in you. She has to do the action of putting her name and number in your phone. Your not asking for her number, you are telling her to put her number in your phone. Women want to be led, to be told, not asked. 2) After you text her, she will have your number without the awkwardness of giving her the number or having her ask for it. 3) Provides immediate acknowledgement of whether she will do it, no wondering if she will, or wondering if she gave you a bad n…
/r/TheRedPill14/07/13 07:03 PM
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What do you want? First, you have to have integrity with this. You can successfully date and sleep with multiple women as long as you are up front with it. If you want a committed relationship with L, tell her you are still dating because you and her were not exclusive and you did not know where it was going. Seeing her you realized you wanted exclusive. Then stop dating other women .. if you want that, tell her. If you want to date freely, tell her that. Tell her explicitly this, "Until I have …
/r/seduction14/07/13 04:58 PM
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lesson from this.. the girl you secretly pine over has nothing for you the girl you give nothing to gives everything to you the less you give them the more they give you. relationships very rarely move backwards, ie lovers to fwb status. You can certainly screw her as you see fit, but keep in mind that the relationship will always be sorta off. If you want it, do it.
/r/TheRedPill14/07/13 04:41 PM
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It's the same mindset as accepting a counter offer. Let's say your job sucks, and you begin looking for a new one, and find one, put in your notice and they come back with ... but we need you, we'll give you more money. Accepting such an offer is a terrible plan. 1) The job sucked before, it will again 2) Your longevity will forever be questioned by company 3) Your loyalty will forever be questioned 4) You'll be kept along long enough to get someone better .. no. Accept that an ex-job or an ex-g…
/r/TheRedPill14/07/13 04:33 PM
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Reward good behavior, ignore or punish bad behavior. Your reward to her is validation, or more simply, your time. When she exhibits behavior that is unacceptable, remove yourself from the situation. The easiest was is to simple stfu, just shut up. Look at her without saying a word. Next is to occupy yourself with some other thing, go look at your phone, go to the garage or backyard. Lastly, leave, get up and leave the house and do not return for a few hours. Use the response that is inline with …
/r/TheRedPill14/07/13 04:22 PM
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make them be more invested in you and you will have great relationships. allow them the power balance and you will enter the gates of hell. in other words, what's the difference? it's quite binary, either you could fuck her or not, 1 or 0. no scale of 1 o 10. either yes or no. If yes, go for it.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/13 04:46 PM
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Under correct circumstances, every woman on the planet is 15 minutes from their next relationship. a week is a lifetime.
/r/seduction12/07/13 01:18 AM
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and then he'll pay for her boob job thinking they are for him. and then he'll pay for her gym membership and yoga classes. and then he'll pay for her girls nights out being supportive.. .. he wont even see it coming. let him have his good years.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/13 10:23 PM
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Do not tell her your plan. Do not share your reading materials with her. A manipulative woman does not give up power already achieved, she often will cherry pick comments or statements to shame your self growth actions. She does need to know there is a 6 month trial period, she will use that against you. Execute your plan, do not share the details. She will see the changes, she does need to know how you got there. If you still want to have a talk with her next week, just sit her down and say nei…
/r/TheRedPill11/07/13 10:13 PM
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me too
/r/TheRedPill11/07/13 04:31 PM
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No to pimp a sale because I have no ties to it, but Robert Glover has a dating / relationship class on getting all the way in. Basically, once you lose the fear of getting out it's easy to get in. You can be authentic, sincere and loving, provided you have strong sense of self and boundaries. Look for it. ... not sure if he leaves these out intentionally, but his pdf's for the classes can be read here: http://nomoremrniceguy.com/assets/pdf/ .. check out the atwi series.
/r/TheRedPill09/07/13 11:40 PM
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yes, depression is clearly defined and understood. it in general is high dopamine, low serotonin and is treated by drugs designed to raise seratonin, it also is treated with stress avoidance practices like meditation and visualization (increase seratonin). Depression has several causes, clearly-defined, clearly-traceable, clearly-provable, clearly-curable. The main cause of depression is simple: it’s cognitive dissonance. That’s a fancy way of saying, you have two ideas that don’t mesh and are a…
/r/TheRedPill07/07/13 10:35 PM
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definitely good job approaching. I don't think it went horribly, but you did lose frame. You ask about how to keep conversation flowing... try thinking of her as a bratty kid sister. you can tease her and joke and laugh. If you were playing mortal kombat with an 8 year old girl would you be nervous? no, you would just own it and that's the frame of mind you need to get yourself into. visualization can help alot in this scenario. The mind is funny, it does not really tell the difference between r…
/r/seduction07/07/13 04:54 PM
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love is real, you just have to define it properly. love is a set of brain chemicals released by what you have trained it for. some people feel love when the partner is distant and they feel the need to chase. some feel love when there partner shows them atttention. either case it is the release of dopamine (the chase), the release of seratonin (the success), and the release of oxytocin (the connection and attachment). These chemicals come from the limbic system, primarily the amygdala. It is par…
/r/TheRedPill07/07/13 04:22 PM
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1000 cock stare
/r/seduction07/07/13 12:56 AM
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I have thought about this a bit and read those same articles a while back. son-mother reationship .. "beta" .. you want the love you never got enough of as a child. unconditionally accepting and nourishing and validation seeking. you want the approval of someone else because you lack it for yourself. horrible miserable life. full of approval seeking, shame, low self esteem, manipulation and jeckyll and hyde moments. brother-sister relationship, friendzoned guy. a platonic relationship where one …
/r/TheRedPill06/07/13 08:18 PM
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Not to nit-pick, but it is not endorphin-ed as you called it. Endorphins are brain chemicals sent in response to pain, they provide a feel good brief sensation for your body to react to a dangerous situation quickly instead of reacting to pain. Commonly called shock, like when you are in a car accident and feel no injury or pain for a few minutes. The brain chemicals you are describing with an attractive woman sitting in your lap are dopamine and oxytocin. Dopamine is the "gotta have it" chemica…
/r/TheRedPill01/07/13 03:49 PM
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I just looked in /r/science and found this one from a few hours ago.. in rp speak, you could re-write the title, why people hate betas... http://www.universityherald.com/articles/3710/20130628/big-givers-punished-being-nonconformists-research-shows.htm
/r/TheRedPill30/06/13 08:53 PM
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women do not see how you interact with the world and cannot be bothered to understand. women extrapolate how you interact with the world based on how you interact with them. She craves security, especially with a baby on the way, but you are not showing signs of strength and security, you are showing her weakness and ability to be manipulated. She does not understand emotionally that you treat her differently from others. This is not conscious thought, it is hamster thought.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/13 08:37 PM
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I did this as well. I excelled professionally, set boundaries, worked logistics, charged forward, succeeded. Ran large projects, have had teams of people working under me, now I consult for same clients I used to be an employee at. At work, total fucking boss. At home, not so much. Early in the rrelationship I was distant, and it worked to create a good tension between us. As time went by I got closer and she pulled away. In more time, I was emotionally dependant on her feelings to validate myse…
/r/TheRedPill30/06/13 08:28 PM
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take some responsibility for yourself. You mooch off someone for a place to live and steal their food. You have no job, and apparently no prospects. "If I got pissed like this for every tme someone stole 40 cents from me, I would have beaten to death a lot of fucking people. " You also have a terrible attitude and an entitelment attitude. Yeah, dont be surprised she doesn't want you around. I would kick your loser ass out too. -- listen to the message, get your shit together.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/13 06:25 PM
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women are security seeking creatures. money = security. confidence = security both can be factors in forming attraction, which makes girls wet. It's not a conscious ohh he has money I like that, it's a subconscious. it's emotional. It is not about you, it is how she thinks about herself when she is with you. It is the emotions she feels when she is with you. It is about what she thinks other people think of her when she is with you. That is what forms attraction, emotional driven subconscious ac…
/r/TheRedPill29/06/13 03:20 PM
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There are only two types of women that cheat. 1) complete sluts 2) women who married loser men who are the cause of all their lifes problems. I am going to guess which person the original poster sees when she looks in the mirror. Your husband is not the cause of your misery, and likely you are not the cause of his. You both are codependant, and have each contributed to creating the relationship you have. If I had to guess, I would speculate he feels it is his job to make you happy, and is quite …
/r/TheRedPill29/06/13 02:49 PM
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daily exercise can give you a significant boost in energy levels.
/r/seduction29/06/13 05:34 AM
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"And it's the reason women accuse men of misogyny (because they think men hate women as much as women hate men.)" should be And it's the reason women accuse men of misogyny (because they think men hate women as much as women hate women.)
/r/TheRedPill28/06/13 05:43 PM
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Robert Glover has a book called no more mr. nice guy. It has some exercises... go to his forum, google it. search for a poster named ruffwarrior or the like. Follow his plan, it is by far the most popular thread on the entire forum. You will never look back. another good plan is from supercoupnut...
/r/seduction28/06/13 04:34 AM
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I do not understand why "what do you do" is a shit test. I generally answer the question honestly, I have a good job, am secure and kick ass at what I do. I do not rattle on about it, but I can say fairly quickly I am a consultant, work with technology, and mostly work from home for a big oil and gas company. I do not see the need to lie to this question, but I also see no need to drone on about it. I do not see it as a shit test, I see it as a getting to know someone question. What am I missing…
/r/seduction28/06/13 04:23 AM
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"So you're sitting at home and you decide you want to meet a completely new girl that you had no prior connection to whatsoever. Where do you go?" .. no. just no. The work is full of women, everywhere, there are women around every corner of your day all day long. When you go out, you do not go out to search for women. Attaching to that outcome is the wrong frame, because you have set the goal to get a woman. You go out to have fun. Go out to enjoy now. To live and experience the moment. If women…
/r/seduction26/06/13 08:09 PM
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all women are security seeking creatures. all shit tests, their reactions to what drives attraction, and hypogamany is explained with this simple truth.
/r/TheRedPill26/06/13 05:22 PM
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I ran into this problem a while back, I was doing my regular things in my life and had a few girls that I would have fun with, I believe you call it spinning plates?, then suddenly I met one girl which changed the way I was. I would become a beta around her, why? I have no idea. any advice or ideas on why this happens sometimes? does it happen to everyone? This girl is not in my life anymore but for future reference, it would be good to know. You gave her more power, it happens when a man places…
/r/TheRedPill26/06/13 01:25 AM
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setting up franchises?
/r/TheRedPill26/06/13 01:16 AM
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poor bastard, he has no idea what he is in store for. It is going to hit him like a ton of bricks in the future. Then again, if I could go back in time to when I was 22, I wouldn't believe me now either... for that matter I would not have believed at 32 either. I sorta hope I haven't slept with his wife ....
/r/TheRedPill21/06/13 08:08 PM
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the correct answer is, "until I have a very specific talk with you saying otherwise, you should assume I am seeing and sleeping with other women". Even if you are not, she should assume you are because if an opportunity comes your way you need to be free to pounce on it. Your mistake above lacks integrity and was very obviously a lie.
/r/TheRedPill20/06/13 10:20 PM
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he should request his vacation from work for the same time period. tell the wife he is indeed taking vacation and be done with it. either he is in the car with them on their trip, or he goes to vegas for two weeks. tell her he hasn't decided which one yet but will tell her when he decides. watch how fast her ass changes gears.
/r/TheRedPill20/06/13 10:15 PM
1

little late on this one, but it comes from toxic shame. go read these two pages and see if anything clicks... http://www.abandonment.net/abandoholics-anonymous http://www.abandonment.net/profile-of-an-abandoner she has some books that focus very heavily on these issues with exercises you can do to work through some of the issues and gain insight into what may be going on.
/r/seduction19/06/13 09:55 PM
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your status in the pack is changing and others are feeling you out to determine where your boundaries are. your old friends may be alienated, and some friendships will not survive. In some cases you may discover that people you thought were your friends really were not. As for new people and this reaction, others actions always tell much much more about them than you.
/r/TheRedPill19/06/13 06:22 PM
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Ignore behavior you do not like, do not give attention or validation to a woman who acts poorly. (even negative attention which some women crave). Do give attention and validation when they show good behavior. Women are not unique and special creatures, they are like puppies, train them the same way.
/r/TheRedPill18/06/13 11:45 PM
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"I say okay I'll sleep on the couch" "The next morning I make her bacon and eggs and her shield is back up." you rewarded bad behavior. don't do that. for first date in 5 years, you're not doing bad. learn and move on. On a person note, just my two cents. I find that we tend to attract people on the same emotional level as ourselves. You may want to consider that the first piece of ass you pulled was a fall down drunk on a first date who was scamming drinks from a bartender. Not exactly a prize …
/r/TheRedPill18/06/13 06:39 PM
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I summarize in another comment, didn't see this until scrolling down.
/r/seduction17/06/13 10:36 PM
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Dr Glovers book is really great and I second the recomendation for every man to read it. The term nice guy doesn't mean do not be kind. It describes a very specific type of mentality, one where the guy seeks validation from others and behaves a certain way in order to get it. The external validation is desired in those who do not have confidence in themselves. The "nice" behavior is not really that nice, it is self serving and manipulative. As a recovering ng, I really mean it when I say fuck ni…
/r/seduction17/06/13 10:35 PM
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she is gone for another 6 months. she has a boyfriend. she is the definition of unavailable. emotionally unavailable, physically unavailable. she is seeking emotional validation without earning it. not only is she completely willing to shit all over her supposed boyfriend, she offers nothing to you except manipulation and shit tests. ignore her. block her number. she is toxic. edit to add - she doesn't love you. if you believe that is what love is, you need to re-center on yourself before you ev…
/r/TheRedPill15/06/13 03:54 AM
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dumb idea. if you want to fuck her, why did you leave her? there is a reason she is not part of your life, most likely because she didn't want to be part of your life. If you go back to fucking her, stop calling her your ex.
/r/TheRedPill14/06/13 08:11 PM
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good catholics make good breeders
/r/TheRedPill14/06/13 08:09 PM
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when I discovered my wife was cheating we tried to reconcile and she tired of it and decided I couldnt tell her what to do. When I moved out she was very angry at me for leaving. She still is angry. She has even told me even tho she has no feelings for me she is still angry at me. In my mind I think she so disrespected me she felt the idea of me rejecting her was inconceivable. For a long time it was. At the end, not so much.
/r/TheRedPill14/06/13 08:07 PM
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sounds like you had a few things going wrong. attachment to outcome. you control nothing but yourself man. when the night did not go your way, you went into victim mode and lashed out. never lose your shit, if she doesnt want to blow you ... big deal.. she'll be all over that. covert contracts, I'll do this and you'll do this. there is no formula for getting it right. just be in the zone and do what the hell you want because you want to. going down on her with an expectation that she will recipr…
/r/TheRedPill14/06/13 05:17 AM
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women are like puppies. they can be a pain in the ass, they can be fun, they can be destructive, or super loving. In time, you can develop a great bond with one if you put in the effort to do so. Also in time no matter what, the animal will leave your world. women are temporary, love is temporary. enjoy it if you enjoy it. A girl worth keeping should exhibit traits that are enjoyable to be around. That said, good dogs have good traits too, it doesn't change that they are just pets.
/r/TheRedPill14/06/13 05:09 AM
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If you meet her in a bar or the like, you should not expect to pay for anything, ever. If you are seeking sex, pay for the absolute minimal, at all exchanges you are the prize. end of story. if pressured, go with the you buy this round and I'll get the next, drink up then move to a new set. After you have slept with her... IF in search of a long term relationship, you pay for dinner if you ask her to dinner . No matter what they say, women are security seeking creatures, (which is why they are a…
/r/TheRedPill14/06/13 05:06 AM
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Books are good, but action is better. why not use both to work on your assertiveness skills? dont just read it, force yourself to practice the exercises in real life. Your world will change in a few weeks. http://www.amazon.com/Assertiveness-Workbook-Express-Yourself-Relationships/dp/1572242094
/r/TheRedPill08/06/13 09:51 PM
1

treat her like you would a bratty kid sister. if she is wearing any kind of leopard print, ask her if she killed it. if she is wearing purple, ask her if that is her barney costume. if she is wearing ridiculous shoes, tell her so. be funny, kinda rude but not outright rude. tease her mercilessly. say shit like, you are my second favorite Jen I have met today.. (her name) you're kinda bossy for a short chick... is it me, or is one of your boobs smaller than the other one? (after comfort dialog, n…
/r/TheRedPill08/06/13 09:45 PM
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" She pushed me, our 2 daughters away. I became responsible solely for the bills, our children, the house chores and my job. She pushed me away and seemingly only wanted contact when she needed help studying a test. She also worked a bar every Saturday night from 5pm-close. " That was when he had a chance to correct this situation. "Soon after in April she sits me down and we have a talk about how she's not certain she wants to be in this relationship anymore. So we talked off an on for 2-3 days…
/r/TheRedPill04/06/13 09:29 PM
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I think you are risk of developing one-itis and pedal-stalling this girl thus decreasing attraction. I think you should immediately begin pursuing 3 other women at the same time.
/r/seduction01/06/13 08:11 AM
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you were a fling, she sniffed neediness on you, she has moved on.
/r/seduction30/05/13 10:57 PM
5

Once you see it you cannot unsee it. When I seperated and the divorce was haoppening, I waws hit on by her brothers girlfriend, by her PTA friends, by an ex-boss of hers, some of the friends she has had for years. Women want to trade up. If they perceive you as being strong, they will see you as a potential mate. Women, under all the bullshit, are security seeking machines. That is what they crave. When you project strength, you will pull them. As for your buds and their bitches, well, they will…
/r/TheRedPill28/05/13 10:41 PM
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I've been that guy. Cell phone records told me the story after I got the "I just dont love you anymore speech".. We were married 12 years, she cheated the last 2 years that I know of. At least 3 different guys. That was last August, October was when I moved out. Even tho I see them often, I miss my kids soo much.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/13 11:31 PM
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