Summary Find your purpose, develop resiliency, and nothing else matters.

Find your mission:

I understand TRP. I see the appeal of it, and I see where it can be the remedy for a broken man. I’m here to elaborate on that. I’m here to offer insight as to what drives us, what makes us happy, and what can keep us resilient.

I just finished reading, “The Undefeated Mind”. So many authors push personal development as the key to happiness just as TRP pushes personal development as the key to increased SMV. Many authors, and TRP contributors never touch on resiliency though, something Alex Lickerman focuses on in his book.

How does one springboard adversity into strength? Start by reading this book.

In any event, I wanted to focus on one chapter of this book that really has been on my mind since I finished it. The chapter focuses on one of the author’s patients who struggled with depression after losing his job. Just like many men struggle with depression when their wife leaves them because they’ve become too complacent, lazy and fat.

Studies show helping others boosts happiness, increases life satisfaction, provides sense of meaning, feelings of competence, improves our mood and reduces stress. It also gives us time to not think of ourselves and our own problems. Lickerman talks about being a sculptor if you want to fill the world with beauty, or being a teacher if you want to inspire children. Whatever it is, it doesn’t matter. Normally it is something we enjoy doing and we draw a sense of purpose from. Many contributors here at TRP I’m sure find purpose and meaning with the articles they write.

Some people start out at the gym, enjoy it and see enough results from it that they give back to the community in helping others with fitness. It almost always starts with activities, jobs, hobbies or anything that we enjoy doing and draw a sense of excitement from. Once you know what that is for you, you can usually find an underlying mission.

Once you have your own mission, nothing else seems to matter as much. Some slut isn’t responding to you like you want her to? Big deal you have more important things to deal with. Your wife left you? Good thing your life’s mission wasn’t to please her. Having a mission will give you a sense of hardiness and resilience you’ve never experienced before.

Also, a benefit to having a mission is that people take notice. It most certainly raises your SMV. You don’t have to be obvious about it, you certainly don’t have to talk about it, because once you are living it, you will be noticed.

Your mission statement might take a while to get right, big deal. I had to shoot dope for years, get locked up, and get clean before my life had any purpose. Hopefully it won’t be that hard for you but it’s not something you will come up with in a day. In any event, you must start with something to end up with anything. So do a fuckin rough draft and start living it.