Wife [31F] of 4 yrs. wants Husband [34M] to abuse her

rtmlex · 2017-09-11T16:47:37+00:00

Sounds to me like she needs some strong evidence for the court.

ImmortanV8 · 2017-09-11T15:26:10+00:00

It is only abuse if she want's it to be

DarwinianKEKistani · 2017-09-11T15:16:00+00:00

My [34M] wife [31F] of 4 yrs. wants me to abuse her [Long] submitted 3 hours ago by Throwaway65855

My wife and I have had discussions in which she tells me I'm not controlling enough. After drilling down and figuring out what she means exactly by “controlling” I found that she wants me to hit her. I mistook that for slapping and choking mostly for her sexual gratification. I agreed to be more controlling to make her happy. Over time, things escalated. She started telling me that she wants to be scared of me and that she needs me to control every aspect of her. Again, I tell her “sure” and she began to test me. She started doing things to see how I would react. If she came home late from a gathering with friends or mouthed off during the day and I didn’t slap her or man- handle her, then I wasn’t being controlling enough. So, I “manned-up” and complied. Every indiscretion was swiftly followed by a slap across the face or being choked up against a wall until she apologized and swore not to “do it again”.

This has gone on for some time. Recently, she “tested” me and I followed up in typical fashion, a few slaps and enough choking to make her feel like she had been properly “punished” but then the conversation came up again: I wasn’t controlling enough, she needs to be more afraid of me so that she wouldn’t “fuck up again”. She wants me to move beyond just slapping and choking and actually start abusing her. She said that out of her own mouth. “I need you to abuse me. I want you to take pu**y from me. I want you to punch me and throw me around. I need to be scared of you”.

Now, I realized that I’ve misunderstood this whole thing this whole time. I believed that she needed me to hit her just to get off. She has suffered abuse in the past at the hands of both her mother while growing up and from men who used to beat her in previous relationships. It’s what she’s used to. I grew up hearing my father beat on my mother and I’ve heard horror stories of my wife’s past relationships and vowed never to be that guy.

Now, I’m in a position where I have to make a decision. Do I become that guy and beat my wife like she’s begging me to or do I be the man I am and refuse? I’ve thus far indulged her in what I once believed to be an S&M fetish of some sort and that’s fine, but now it’s gone beyond that. It’s almost like she requires this abuse to function day to day and feel normal. I love my wife and I don’t want to make her a punching bag like she’s asking me to, not to mention, we have children and I don’t want them to ever have to hear or bear witness to the types of things that my wife and I had to experience growing up in abusive households. I’m torn. What should I do?.

TL;DR: My wife wants me to make her scared of me by physically abusing her because it’s what she’s accustomed to from her past. But I don’t want to be an abusive husband.

2QuietDude · 2017-09-11T16:30:06+00:00

Women love being roughed up...until they don't.

DarwinianKEKistani · 2017-09-11T16:49:50+00:00

I'd take her to a therapist.

Beating the shit out of your wife, even if she wants it, is a good way to end up in prison. Her mind could flip a switch and call 911 on you or a neighbor could see you doing it, etc.

Honestly, I'd just leave her ass because chicks with severe mental issues are exhausting.

Ubergeek2001 · 2017-09-11T17:48:52+00:00

My ex did this in order to try and set me up for DV before she served me with divorce papers. Don't play that game. You are being set up.

Tothesky2121 · 2017-09-11T15:44:10+00:00

This just goes to show a woman never is satisfied

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Title	Wife [31F] of 4 yrs. wants Husband [34M] to abuse her
Author	DarwinianKEKistani
Upvotes	2
Comments	15
Date	September 11, 2017 3:14 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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