I've been making mental progress with TRP, and this post is going to layout my experiences with my LTR of 2 years, who has seen me go from 50% beta to 80% Alpha in the past 1.5 months. Why 80%? Cause I decided It was worth it to give her a chance to adapt to my switch and prove herself worthy of being my girl, so I've been deliberately changing gradually.

Novel Interactions

I'm going to lay out some interactions that would not have previously occurred. I'll explain what I did or how I handled a situation, and then her subsequent short term and long term reactions.

#1

In the very beginning I stopped giving her elaborate goodnight texts, and dialed back the smileys or kiss emoji's, and texted her back way less often. At first consciously restricting my texting if I was doing something, and then it became habit to respond when I have down time.

Immediate Response: She repeatedly asked if something was wrong. I assured her nothing. She insisted something was off, I either asked for clarification or told her I was fine.

After 1.5-2 weeks: She finally commits to the confrontation and asks why I never give what she calls "nice nices" and why my goodnights are always short. I told her that before when used all the time they became meaningless and pointless, and that I decided to stop with the habitual compliments. I told her that I'd compliment and praise her if there was a reason to. This was a much better response than she was expecting, because she has such dread at this point she thought I was bailing out of the relationship. This response perked her up, but she gave one more shit test. "So you still love me??" And I replied "have my actions said otherwise?" And that was the end of that.

#2

I've been hitting the gym for 3 years now, and I'm usually the largest natty in the gym while maintaining abs. This is part genetics, part diet control to optimize building mass. Historically, I send her pics out of the blue or just cause I wanted to give her something. I switched to making her beg for them, and it has really changed the dynamic.

Immediate response: She loved begging, and I liked making her beg so I started sending pics more frequently. But, got overzealous because she actually said once "I'm expecting a pic;))))" to which I replied "You EXPECT a picture?" And then when she scrambled afterward and started begging, I told her she was too greedy and now she isn't getting one.

Long term response: Shit hasn't changed much.

#3

I've also been getting her hamster going by not-so-sarcastically commenting how all the gymbunnies are checking me out. I'll vaguely comment how I was just told how defined my arms are, specifically not mentioning the gender of the person. In my first post I mentioned that I do not have any social media, which I believe helps raise SMV because people can't learn shit about you unless they hang with you. Recently set up a lift sesh with all my large gym buds, and we all dicked around after taking group flexing pics and being generally gay. I set it up because its sounded awesome, but it actually worked out incredibly well to raise my SMV. They all insta'd their favorite pics, and of course everyone is going to see. The girl certainly saw.

Immediate reaction: Slight anger mixed with obvious jealousy. Results may vary because I've been massive, but once you've clearly put on muscle this works great. She resisted by making sarcastic comments about leaving her for all my other bitches I responded informing her she just categorized herself as a bitch.

Long term reaction: She has copied my mindset. Today I gave her a text saying "Side note.." and when she starting asking wtf I was talking about I replied "I'm the best." And SHE rapid fires like 10 texts off "The best in the gym? The biggest? Are you attracting the most girls? Is everyone staring?" "D. all of the above" And she responded "Ughhhh I just want to sex!". She has now accepted that I'm valued far above her physically, and wants to work for it.

#4

Okay enough of the texting examples. So, for those of you who are meek or spineless in any way, I understand how it is difficult to get into the narcissistic mentality. Here's a tip for those already regularly hitting the gym who have established form and progress. I take PWO, which depending on the source is basically caffeine plus some peripheral stimulants like synephrine or yohimbine HCL. Thing is, stims make you bold. And in the gym this translates to self-absorption. You're pushing max weight, looking massive with a sick pump, vascularity high. You love yourself, and you're riding that caffeine/adrenaline high by listening to cocky music. Now my advice is to note that mentality, explore it by talking to your gym friends, or making gym friends, maintaining eye contact, and responding to your plates during this 'high'. Because when you're nervous system is back to baseline in a few hours you'll have noted how you felt and will be able to slowly convert your 'gym persona' to your normal persona. Regarding the Dark Triad, I'm extremely machiavellian, not too psychopathic but thats fine by me, and I wasn't too narcissistic either. This strategy changed that greatly.

#5

One issue with my LTR is she is irrationally against all drugs, and does not consider alcohol or any prescribed medications drugs. Historically she banned me from getting high (never even tried, just expressed interest and she shut me down) and I listened. I negotiated trying weed a few times but anything long term and she'd cry and whine and I'd go 100% beta and comfort her promising not to in the future. Well I had a little discussion with her about 4 weeks into TRP philosophy. I told her I was going to smoke when I felt like it, and that she knows occasional bud is harmless. And she definitely knows I'm responsible. So unless she has something to logically present,the discussion is over.

Initial Reaction: She knew she was cornered, and for a month has seen the dynamic between us change. I'm her leader, and she follows me to success. She knew she didn't have shit to argue so she started silently sobbing on my shoulder. I said nothing and continued watching the show. Went to bed with no sex that night.

2 days later: She tells me she has something to say. Tells me she's been thinking about our 'discussion' and decided that it doesn't actually effect her, and it isn't worth losing me over. As an aside, I quoted discussion because she refused to acknowledge that we argue, though I insist we're arguing because thats how things work.

#6

When talking bedroom talk, I used to just describe what I was going to do to her. I'd be describing dominant acts, but I was basically talking erotica to her. That changed real quick. Next time sex is brought up, I told her to stop playing around with her kiddy words and tell her that from now on she'll ask me to to do X for her, X being a dominant act or aggressive verb that essentially means to fuck.

Her response: Loved it from the start, and now only begs me to rail her and doesn't hint at what she wants. She asks for it directly, which is huge. You want to groom your girl to be straightforward with what she wants, no guessing game bullshit.

Concluding Remarks

The points are in the post itself, but here are some generalities I've noticed.

Never give her something when she asks. But, to maintain the relationship, you can give her comfort in your preferred form but it must be spontaneous if it isn't rewarding positive behavior. If you give sparing spontaneous compliments and specifically deny them when she digs for them you accomplish two things. She will stop asking/fishing for compliments and throwing comfort tests at you, and she will also start trying to figure out why you gave that compliment. How did she earn it? Where does her power lie? If your 'nice nices' are truly random she will work to be a better girlfriend in many different ways because she's trying to find out what works to get your love/attention. Therefore she increases across all metrics.

Another thing that I'm planning is to encourage her to increase her SMV, though it is already pretty high. She has expressed interest in lifting now, after seeing me own it and show off the results. I'm currently helping her through a workout program that is not cardio based, but designed to build muscle.

I've taken a relatively transparent approach when she genuinely questions why I'm doing something different. If I can tell that she is truly curious and is not shit testing me, I'll explain my RP rationale without using the terminology. Honestly the results are extremely positive, and many times her response is something that would be a perfect post on the RP women sub. Sometimes she gives a meek shit test and I usually A&A and she laughs off her own resistance to my ideology.

Correct me as you see fit.